Wanting to blow his mind and leave him thinking

[aqua]

Hey, im new here but the site seems pretty interesting. ive been with my boyfriend now for 2 years, i love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. he's also the first person ive ever been with, first person i ever gave head to and other stuff like that ( i was very sheltered) sex with him is amazing and i have no complaints, i just want to blow his mind one night, and have him think about it all day. i've always been really innocent, was even afraid to really make noise for the first month, afraid that he'd think i was too into it. ive relaxed a lot since then lol. just wondering if anyone has any techniques or advice, thanx

[lilly2279]

Well this site is full of techniques and ideas. Several people have asked your very question. Root around. You'll get tons of ideas.

[aquarina]

hey AQUA! welcome! (lol... i like you name!... i'm so used to calling myself aqua.... guess i'll have to go by aquarina on here)

anyway, you sound just like me! i'm in the same kind of situation as you and have been feeling like i wanna do something or be so amazing that it'll totally rock him and make him think i'm amazing. thing is, every guy is different and what's super amazing for one guy isnt for another. so, it's basically alot of trying stuff out to see what he responds best too. but yea, definitely bop around on the site and you'll get lots of tips and ideas.

.... honestly though, i think almost all guys are totally turned on by a girl who is super confident in herself and what she is doing and acts like she enjoys everything she does to please him. that's hot. just having confidence earns you major brownie points. so, it's definitely good that you are now starting to get more into it and letting loose. dont be afraid to be noisy.... guys love that. i love being loud.

best of luck to you!

[j56h]

Aqua,

Before I was married, my fiance decided that she wanted to do what you are talking about for my Birthday. We were going out of town anyway, so she surprised me by renting a Jacuzzi room at the motel we stayed at. After enjoying the Jacuzzi together for a while she dried off and surprised me again with some lovely lingerie. We moved to the bed and had a wonderful evening of very uninhibited sex. I don't think that she actually planned any one position or act. We just did what came naturally, but it seemed as though we were both at higher levels of arrousal. Anyway, I'd say that that has been the best sex that I've had with the exception of my wedding night. Good Luck.

[Parstor]

Hey, Aqua and Aquarina

firstly i want to say, just having that attitude of wanting to knock his socks off is the main part of what you need to do it, so he is a lucky man!

secondly, i totally agree with aquarina in that confidence is definately the sexiest thing you can bring to the table. know that you are the best! show him and tell him how good it feels whenEVER it feels good!

so the tricks you have in the bag are only a small part of what make great sex - you need good communication, lust and the willingness to show it (every guy wants to see his girl be a total slut just for him).

a good trick, to get the lust going, is to let him know thats what you are going to do tonight. send him text messages, letting him know what you want to do, how you are feeling, ask him what he wants... build it up, and then do everything you two have been fantasising about as soon as he gets home (or wherever you plan to meet to do this mission)

have fuuun!!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Please see the threads The Program and BodyWorship under Married & Long Term Relationships.

Read and then do that.

Please rid yourself of any fears that he might think 'you're too into it' and so on. An unbridled lover who is totally into him is precisely what a man wants but rarely gets.

[dancingdoc2]

All of the above replies are excellent! Kudos to all who have replied so far!

Please read thru the Index found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. EEK has a large section devoted to pleasuring each other so begin with these articles and move on to the others. Knowledge is empowering.

I especially like the Jacuzzi hotel room. Been there done that (with heart-shaped tub!) Even if you do not do this, now, you can use the idea for something do do at home--and maybe with candle light!

Please keep in mind that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together. If this mean moaning and groaning, huffing and puffing, squirming, titillating each other's sensitive parts--explore and learn together.

If you are genuinely enthusiastic about doing this, that, or the other, and he picks up on this, as you with his enthusiasm, also, then that will raise your passions. Do not be afraid to try things. Do not worry about what s/he will think. Explore and learn together. Communicate and give each other feedback on how each of you is responding to the other's kisses and caresses. Please read the articles that discuss all this and more....

I hope all this is of help. Got questions?