Cumming and orgasming

[Paul]

I find this pretty weird, any opinions?

I have been trying to stem my orgasm/cumming using methods I have read about. i.e when near orgasm I would stop for a second and begin again. Or, more recently, I have been using the muscles down there (the same one that stops you peeing) to stop the orgasm/cumming.

However, a week ago I came and then after 5 seconds I orgasmed. It doesn't sound like a big difference but the wait was DEFINATELY noticable! I'd usually orgasm and then cum, almost similtaneously.

Yesterday, I came but no orgasm... I simply kept my erection and could continue (without that post-orgasm uncomfort/extreme sensitivity) and finally came (again)and orgasmed awhile later as if it was the first time...

Do orgasms and cumming ALWAYS go hand-in-hand or can they be separated? Any one else experienced this?

Thanks,

Paul!

PS: Sorry if this doesn't make much sense!

[Rawbob]

I TOTALLY understand what you were saying..and u just learned a great lesson about being a GREAT LOVER!

You can orgasm, and not ejaculate!

The more u practice this, the better lover u can be, because it will allow u alot more enjoyment of sex - without the "post cumming loss of libido"

Often times you can repeat that feleing when u have a day of constant masturbation....one day i masturbated 7 times...the 6th and 7th time i literally had NO semen..but the feeling was 2wice as intense as when there WAS semen!

SO....keep practicing you're doing great!

[oberon]

Okay, unlike Rawbob, I'm a little slow....I've tried rereading several times and I'm still confused. *I understand the break down of orgasm and cumming. *Let's try this:

1. Orgasm- the great feeling during sex
2. Cumming- the ejaculation

A. *If you are doing this in the order of 1-2 or 1-1-2 ( or even more multiples of 1 then 2), then this is not unheard of. *There are books on the subject of multiple orgasms for men. *They even try to teach you the technique. *I believe it is related to the tantric sex teachings. *It does sound great, and if this is what is happening for you- WONDERFUL!

B. *If you are going in the order of 2-1, then I've never heard of this. *An ejaculation followed by a delayed orgasm.

I really think you meant the A example. *From what I've read the orgasms achieved this way are even more intense- even better than orgasms with multiple ejaculations. *It should certainly enhancement your sexual experience, and you got it without even having to buy the book!

[Paul]

Thanks for the replies!

Now I know what is roughly going on!

[Suziespeedhump]

try getting high. my ex and I used to fool around all the time like this, made him like superman, said he couldn't focus on getting off or something so the sex lasted forever. (so good! oh my...) When we fooled around during girl-week I found that I could stroke him just right so he would "get off" but not really ejaculate (only a little stuff would come out). He didn't go soft afterwards either, he could just keep going. got him a good 3 times (more I think) before he finally "ejaculated". (which was a fantastically huge load... what I love to see). I've noticed this several times with several different guys since. sometimes orgasms and ejaculation are linked, sometimes not.

General rule, weed + sex = great times

[EvilEvilKitten]

No you do not need to get high - yegods! Imagine telling someone "yeah go ahead and do something illegal." DUH!! *kicking speedbump in the head in passing - figuratively speaking, of course*

This is an EXCELLENT ability and you should cultivate it by practicing!

The orgasm is the pulsation of the pc muscle. No, it does NOT have to happen concurrently with ejaculation. They ARE two separate things.

I have a lover who can do this and he's TREMENDOUS fun! It is nothing for him to go 4 to 5 hours and he's in his 50's!! What a man!

Congrats, OP !!!