Anal 101

[duckie]

Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot. Especially(excuse the grossness) after getting hemoroids from giving birth to my daughter. Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting? I enjoy watching anal sex on XXX movies and it really gets me turned on but then the pain thought sets in and to tell you the truth my man and I have never even dicussed it so I'm not sure if he's even into anal sex.

[lilly2279]

I'm brand new to this site, but absolutely had to respond to this topic. I used to HATE anal sex because I don't think I had experienced anything more painful in my life! I had no idea how to make it not hurt. I would be in doggie position waiting for penetration and trying not to tighten up, but doing it anyway and then getting the pain I always did and curling into the fetal position on the bed. Not very sexy!

All the tips I have heard on here are great! You definitely want to have the power to move back on the penis. You want lots of lube. But here is a tip I have been telling friends and have been getting tons of "thank you's" for!
1. Get a nice little vibe.
2. Get all lubed and ready in doggie position, if you like
3. Put that handy little vibe on your clitoris and just let that wonderful warmth start to head towards your pleasure zones.
4. Let him know when you're really relaxed and ready, he can be playing with fingers, gently touching, licking, etc in the meantime.
5. By the time you are really hot from the vibe, your anus is very relaxed. He can slowly start to guide his penis into your anus.
6. Move back and forth on him if you're not comfortable with him taking control yet.
7. Have a wonderful orgasm. he he.

I can usually cum in about 1 minute doing this and looove it! I'm like a guy and can't even begin to hold an orgasm back. It comes up on me sooo fast!

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (duckie @ May 07 2004,14:27)]Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot.... **Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting?

Duckie, practice with yourself. I know as a mother you've given suppositories. Some lube on your finger and just play around back there. You may use latex gloves if you're squeamish. Just see how it feels. The key is lots of lube and take it slowly. Maybe try it sometime when you are masturbating.

You won't know if you like it if you don't try. But if you don't, don't sweat it. If it's not for you, it's not for you.

Have fun.

[str8downtheline]

That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. Mother nature did not intend for this. Thats what vagina's are for. The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.

I could throw up looking at some of these posts. ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!!

No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Brandye]

I never expected to be addressing this again. The old-timers are fully aware of my medical and personal opinions. Str8, however, needs some education. The strongest muscles that are involved in a female orgasm are the anal sphincters. Some anal play causes greater tension in them and both shortens the time for climax and greatly enhances the power of the orgasm.

Some women are totally against having their anus played with and, obviously, some men are not willing. That is no reason to declare the rest of us gross. I stand with my earlier position that no penis shall ever penetrate my behind but if those of you who are into it want to I simply recommend lots of lube and condoms every time.

[HngLkAMouse]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (str8downtheline @ June 25 2004,17:13)]That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. *Mother nature did not intend for this. *Thats what vagina's are for. * The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.

I could throw up looking at some of these posts. *ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!! *

No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Although I can understand and respect your opinion on the subject, I do disagree with your approach in expressing negativity on the subject in this open forum. No one is asking you to do it, try it or accept it... but your expression of contempt may be construed as insulting or demeaning to those who DO find this practice acceptible.

There are those in the world that feel that the act of intercourse is for PROCREATION ONLY, and not for mere enjoyment or pre-marital experimentation. Would you want to be told that you are WRONG and a SINNER for having pre-marital sex because of someone else's bias...?

Someone else said it better than me in the past here... if you want to get TECHNICAL... the MOUTH is not what "mother nature" intended to be used for sex either, it's for food & beverage consumption, Breathing and Speaking... NOT oral sex "That's just WRONG". Heck, at that point, you could also claim that mother nature never intended for latex to be put over a penis... condoms are WRONG... yes, I know I'm taking it further than needed, but the point still remains, it's all about personal preference.

Try to keep an open mind and respectful approach to OTHER people's opinions. I, for one, would never consider the act of utilizing urine & fecees into sexual routines... the thought of eating another person's excrement makes me gag... BUT... there are MANY people out there that practice that fetish. Would I do it...? Heck no! Is it "wrong"...? That's up to the individual(s). If they derive pleasure from it and it is acceptable to them... more power to them.

So... I get it. You do not wish to engage in that activity... but just be mindful that calling it "wrong" alienates those who DO find it acceptable, and there are plenty of them (us?) out there.

I'm not angry with you, just trying to share my opinion.

[furryChinchilla]

i was just wondering, but wut is the best kind of lube, if any. And if not then which kind do you prefer?

[oberon]

Hi furryChinchilla. There are ALL kinds of lubes that will work. You want something that is waterbased. Ky jelly will work. I find it gets a little sticky, though. I, personally, like Astroglide or Wet.

[mspersia82]

Jurni, the exact same thing happened with my ex! I told him that if he let me use a dildo on him so he can see how it feels that I might consider trying it with him. His arguement was that it's ok for a girl to be penetrated but not a guy because that's "gay" for a man to be penetrated. He had double standards and was an ass. I'm so glad I never did it with him.

[luvtoplease]

Anal sex is great for a man, any man that says they'll never try it is missing out. For man or woman just make sure it's all well lubed. I've had many 'orgasms' doing anal fingering, playing with my 'g-spot' until I 'orgasm' but I've never manage to cum at the same time!