Anal 101

[El Capitan]

I had my first experience with anal two nights ago with my girlfriend. My girlfriend was feeling kinky and asked if I wanted to try anal. She had never done it before, and neither had I, so I was somewhat scared of hurting her. We took it slow, and it was very tight at first(note I kept asking her if it hurt at all) but after getting into it a little, she relaxed, and it became quite amazing. It didn't hurt her at all, and she said she enjoyed it somehwhat, not as much as vaginal intercourse, but she still enjoyed it. We plan to explore it further and try to make it more enjoyable for her. Im all for anal!

[ken2001]

If she and you are ok with it, ask if she would be willing to give you anal penetration too so you can see how it feels. You may just be less inclined to start pumping away, if you know how much it hurts.

[TexasGuy]

We dabble in that area occasionally, and it does feel great, but not very deeply. We have also tried using anal beads and my wife loved them! (pull them out slowly just as she's cumming and it really adds to the sensation).

Lots of lube and taking your time is definitely a prerequisite in that area, though.

[Tessie]

Hubby loves it. But he only gets it on the most special of occasions or if I really need something. Makes a great bribe if it works. Which is my problem. It is so hard for me to get into it. I have had so many more horrible and painful times then good. I now would like to enjoy it but it still doesn't always work out. The moment I know its going to happen I freeze up and wait for the pain.

He has now thought that I should get to just learn to like it. So he has used his finger and just recently bought a very small butt plug which he has used a couple of times and I don't mind it.

He is very good at remembering and there have been a few times that I have truly loved it. Sooooooo its the ongoing goal to achieve enjoyment for us both. I always feel bad when it hurts and I can't continue. Poor guy. *

[leggyho]

My husband likes it too. I had a hard time getting over my fear of anal. At times I would agree just to please my husband. I really wasn't into it.

A couple of years ago, my husband and I started same room swapping with two couples. Things quickly went from making out with other people to full on sex. With the men's encouragement I even began to have experiences with the other wives and found that I really enjoyed lesbian sex. Two years later my husband and I are still fully committed to each other, but still enjoy frequent swinging.

It was during one of these swing sessions that I came to appreciate and love anal sex. I was making it with one of the other men (pretty hot and heavy). My husband came over and asked if he could go into the backdoor at the same time. I agreed. He used plenty of lube and I got my first "D.P.". I was so turned on having two guys inside of me. I have loved anal since that day. I attribute my new found love of anal to two things:

1. For me personally, the feeling of being filled by two men and the vaginal stimulation that goes with the anal penetration is exquisite. Even when my husband and I have anal alone, I use a dildo or vibrator to get vaginal stimulation. Before, I did not pay attention to that area and anal was not nearly as fun.

2. I opened up my inner slut. Swinging helped me embrace my inner slut where before I had tried to repress it and be a proper wife. Anal is taboo by its very nature. Opening up to a wild new sex life and accepting how much I enjoyed sleeping with other people really helped me accept other new things like anal. Of course swinging is not for anyone. But I believe it helps to really get into whatever makes you hot. Swinging, role-play, slutty-dressing, whatever.

[Rawbob]

Cheers for LEGGY!

Great post...sounds like you two have found a good balance! Keep us posted on how things go....we've not had alot of "swingers" on here...and your experiences could prove very enlighting!

ps: My xwife and i were into swinging too..thats how i had my 1st bi experince!

[Tessie]

[QUOTE] I opened up my inner slut.


Just want to say that I love that term. I have been working on my inner slut too and having a great time doing it.

[thetease13]

ok.
so I'm supposed to try anal for the first time soon. (hopefully this coming weekend if everything works out right).
now it's not something I really want but it's working as a compromise so hey, he gives me what I want, I'll give him what he wants.

So anyways, the other day I thought well, I'll see what I can do with my vibrator, just to see how painful it was, and suprisingly, it wasn't painful at all really. I put a lot of lube on it and it didn't really hurt. It just felt weird. Now granted, I know his dick is bigger around than my vibrator (i'm trying to working my way up to my other vibrator since it's a little bit bigger around) so there's no telling if it would hurt with him or not.

I didn't get any stimulation from it, but then, I don't get any stimulation from vaginal either. Even turning the vibrator on does nothing. Go figure. lol.

so yea, anyone having problems or someone that's scared to try it, get a slim like plastic vibrator and some lube and see how well it works.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (leggyho @ May 04 2004,06:39)]2. *I opened up my inner slut. *

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Tessie @ May 04 2004,16:12)]Just want to say that I love that term. I have been working on my inner slut too and having a great time doing it.

Ladies, ladies, the term is NOT slut, it is "sexual over-achiever"! *

[KinLA]

thetease13, take it slow use fingers first. my other suggestion be on top. the first time we tried it, i bend over and my boyfriend lubbed up and just worked it in. not the way to do it. i suggest maybe starting out vaginal with you on top then slip it out, add more lube if necessary, and then take it ever so slowly into your butt. you should also play around with fingers first in there.

anyway let us know how it goes