Anal 101

[Tjdude]

Well, I just had anal sex with my g/f for the first time. I realy don't know what to think, i mean it was ok, but nothing too great, and i don't know if it is worth all the trouble, since vaginal sex seems to be better a this point.

My g/f said that it was ok for a new experience but I think that she didn't enjoy too much (yeh, we use tons of lub), also i was so worried about hurting her that i could hardly enjoy it. Maybe next time (if... there is a next time) we will do it better

[Junocozmos]

I love anal. My husband and I enjoy often
You're not alone hun!!!
Live life.
Good luck.

[Vixen916]

Rawbob... Yeoooww!!! Never done that before. Was it you who was taking it or were you giving it?

[Asscream Man]

I posted this elsewhere but it seems appropriate here as well--I've also added some additional pertinent material.

I thought there would be more advocates out there considering the degree of enlightenment I've found on other threads in this forum?!?

I'm am not saying, as a man, that women 'should' or 'ought to' enjoy anal sex; liking or not liking it is a compeletly individual matter and should never be something one does under pressure. *That obvious thing being said, I would just like to suggest one fact of nature. *Anal sex may not occur AS frequently as vaginal intercourse, but it DOES occur, not only between males but also between males and females, and has likely always been a part of the natural world. *Whether it takes the form of bovine, equine or paciderme (these are just a few examples of some large mammals) frustration at not having the opposite sex around, or simply sexual confusion or, yes indeed, EXPERIMENTATION, I would defy those who suggest it is an "immoral" or "unatural" act as explaining away these obviously natural examples of anal sex. *Anyone who has spent any time in and around a natural environment where observation can occur will readily concede its occurrance.

It may very well be that we have evolved to allow for the contingency of anal sex, in spite of what the philistines suggest and lament.

As far as the risk of bacterial infection, those who engage in enjoying the distinctly unique pleasures found in anal sex must always be diligent to maintain a high degree of hygene and precaution. *

Only a fool would reject something because of misinformation or a lack of adequate experience. *Life is too short to snub your noses at something you may just find yourself thoroughly enjoying and relishing. *
Stay open-minded!

Tears of the actual rectum are typically the result of UNDERLUBRICATION or some type of violent rape or assault, NOT considerate lovemaking!?!, while hemorrhoids are a result, not of anal sex, but of uncleanliness--something that the sick, overweight or old obviously have great difficulty in preventing! If you are having a great deal of anal sex make sure you are exercising the muscles around the sphincters (practice "flexing&quot, as this will strengthen and tighten the anus. Also, while infections of the urethra can, rarely, be a problem for men nature has, once again, provided a more than adequate solution: URINE. *Men should urinate after they have had anal sex if they are unable to shower properly. *It is a good idea to urinate anyway as the ammonia in the urine will help kill off the bacteria (if any) impacted within the urethra. *I recommend that, during foreplay, men simply prepare the female's anus by gentle caresses and lots of lubricant. *As far as orally stimulating the anus, once again vigilance in hygene is the KEY (soap and water are a perfect foreplay intro). There is nothing to fear about it, anal sex, except ignorance. . .oh, and the repressed fascists who use it as a morality weapon.
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[HngLkAMouse]

As a male, I must say that I enjoy it only if she does. For me, I could take it or leave it.

I mean, it's enjoyable when done right... but if I were to never have it again... I wouldn't lose sleep.

Having said that about the ACT of anal sex... the IDEA of it is what makes it a turn-on. The taboo aspect of it... the 'dirtyness' of it... the fact that she enjoys it and how it makes us feel like we're getting away with doing something we shouldn't... it all adds to the 'physical' act of penetration to make it a more enjoyable experience overall.

When we are having intercourse and I toyingly rub my (now well-lubricated) tip against her anus... it drives her crazy... but makes me want to 'cum' right then & there just with the THOUGHT of it... not the 'action' of doing it.

(Does that make sense...?)

To sum-up... the physical act on it's own is not the stimulant for me... it's her enjoyment and all the above-mentioned factors that put me over the edge and make it very sexy.

[sexykitty]

I have to say that the thought of anal sex is a turn on, but the one time that my husband and I tried it, it was so painful that we didn't try for long. I see on here that most people say the same thing and that they have to try it more than once, but I am not sure if I want to endure that pain again. I also find it hard to believe that it would ever feel good, considering that women do not have a prostate...

Someone asked about strap-ons, and that is something I would like to try.

[HngLkAMouse]

Well... we didn't just decide to attempt it and go for it right then & there... it sort-of built up to it. First there was anal play... I would 'touch' her in that area while she was riding on-top... but just a little here & there.

After she realized she liked it, she would moan or gasp a little more the next time I tried it. Pretty soon, I was rubbing the area and SLIGHTLY pushing the tip of my finger in on occasion.

Keep in mind, this is transpiring over a week or two's time.

When we talked about it, she said she wanted to try it, but was a little apprehensive, but it was HER that wanted to try... NOT me.

The next time, after we had sex for a while and were all "in the moment", she was lying on her side, back facing me and we were having intercourse in that position, I would take the tip of my penis and rub it up and down the crack of her behind. this drove her nuts!

I did that a few more times during different lovemaking sessions and one-day, she reached behind and placed the tip right there (which almost made me cum immediately, because it was such a turn-on). I let HER put pressure from HER side to initiate penetration. She was hesitant at first.

The first two or three times she tried it, she said she loved doing it but she was a little sore after trying to get it in... but after that... she was MUCH more tollerant. She'd get me 1/2 way in (moaning & enjoying it) but I would not 'pump'.

After maybe a week or so, we were at the point were she would put it ALL the way in and want me to phuck her ass with real thrusts and she was REALLY enjoying it. Somehow, like a lot of things, there was just the initial 'getting used to' period, and then she just LOVED it after that.

We still take it slow and only engage in it occasionally, but she loves it just the same.

Again... For ME, that's the turn-on, is HER loving it. If I were to ask it from her and she didn't want to, but did it because she felt obligated, then it wouldn't be good for me at ALL. But because it's something SHE wants and because it's only on distant occasions now, once I know she's about to initiate it... I have to try hard not to cum all over her ass before I even get it in.



"Happy humpin', campers...!"

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P.S. - The fact that I'm not "well-endowed" works to my advantage here. Not sure if she'd ever even consider it if I were 9" and thick as a beer can.

[Guitarman]

It make take several tries, but she will get used to it. We couldn't even do it until about the 3rd try, but now we can whenever we try. The key is to go slow. Sloooooow.
You've got all night. If you don't, then it's not the time to try anal. Pick another night when you've got plenty of time.

[loverboy]

wow. There is such controversy over this. The thought of me giving my g/f hemorrhoids scares me, but I also get somewhat reassured when I realise that the first (and only) time we have had anal sex, she felt no pain, and only pleasure. I guess that is one of the benefits of not being a "large" man. She never complained of any pain. And if I think about it, many times feces is as large or even larger than what I have to give, so how much dammage can I do?
It was a very pleasurable experiance for both of us though.

[starburst697]

Love, love, love anal. I think I was the one to bring it up first, and as many have said, the first couple of times it did hurt a bit. I've noticed my guy has to control the urge to start pumping away right when he puts it in, even now. Just give yourself a couple of minutes to adjust to it, physically and mentally, being all tensed up doesn't help. You'll be all tightened up, making the muscles tighten too, and that's no good! Even now after we've been doing it for about half a year, the idea of it being so controversial still turns me on.