Anal 101

[constantlylearning]

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[Danzgrl4eva]

My hubby and I separated and we have since reconcilled. This is something he has BEGGED me to do over the years. I let him try before and OMG it was just toooo painful, so we never did it again. Our sex life SUCKED before we separated we were lucky if we even did anything once a month. And its MY fault, I never wanted it. NOW I realize that was wrong, BUT this was not ANY reason of why we separated I have just re-evaluated my marriage and REALIZED what I did and how unfair it must have been to him...but anyway, I PROMISED to be more open minded about sex and TRY new things, I actually am very interested in trying new things.

He brought up Anal and I said ok! I can't believe how EASY it went in and how painless it really was, sure it burned for a min but once I got used to it I was fine. I am shocked at how pleasuring it is! I never would have thought it would do that!!! It is actually a BIG part of our sex life, not only do I really enjoy it but my hubby enjoy's doing this to me because its amazing for ME.

So yeah I REALLY like it.

[Danzgrl4eva]

I am new here, I don't know how to edit the original post. But I also wanted to add that for ME I find sitting on him facing out and breathing as I slide down I get VERY little pain, hardly any and when it does hurt I just exhale and tada its in!! But I have to take it really slow for the first couple mins and then its awesome. I also REALLY like sitting on and facing him! It was weird how the last 7 yrs it HURT everytime we tried and I had to make him stop but now its the best. Sadly I actually get more pleasure from Anal then I do vaginally, very strange! I can't climax from regular sex but I do ALOT with Anal, I am glad I let him "try". My friend told me years ago how she loved it, so I had to call her and tell her she was right, lol. It is alot of fun and exciting too.

I do have a question, they SAY that your butt doesn't lube itself but we start off with a little lube and like I said I have to control it at first, but I swear my butt stays lubed, we have NEVER had to stop and re-lube. I am just shocked that I even did this because I was always the close-minded EEWWW type of chick but after going through all the stuff we did and ENDING back up together, I am now looking into NEW things to try and bring it up to him. He is shocked too and LOVING it, our sex life is the best its been in 7 yrs.

[suzzette333]

I limit myself to anal once a month. To me it is quite painful if done wrecklessly. Normally I succumb to my BF's needs by having a hot bath, getting him to finger me or using a sex instrument to prepare my opening and lastly lubricating my asshole with olive or baby oil. I don't do doggy on this one as unknowingly he may think that a ass is like a pussy, and I do realize the extra enjoyment he gets from a tight hole, but i will lay sideways get him to penetrate downwards from my back into my asshole and keep fucking me gently. I can't say there is no pleasure in it as I do have an orgasm especially if he is playing with my clitty. One word of caution: Condom Please...(The first time we tried it without a condom he shot his load inside and oh! I had to rush to the bathroom to get myself cleaned. It's ok if he withdraws if no condom is available, but STD is still a problem.

[purrrfectcpl]

I love anal. I love to have him in me nice and deep it is an awesome feeling. We do it every time we get together.

[sexchoctate]

Originally Posted by Vixen916

I was just curious if there are other females on this board that like anal??? I always thought it was gross and said I would never do it.. a few weeks ago I let my guy do it and now I like it and it's part of our 'musts' when we have sex. I just wondered if there are other females on the board that like it and wondered from the fellas if and why they enjoy it so much

i tried this with my gf for the first time last week, and it turned out that she liked it we have been experimenting with it to see if it is something we wanna make into "must"

[PinkyPooh]

I totally agree here.

Originally Posted by HngLkAMouse

Although I can understand and respect your opinion on the subject, I do disagree with your approach in expressing negativity on the subject in this open forum. No one is asking you to do it, try it or accept it... but your expression of contempt may be construed as insulting or demeaning to those who DO find this practice acceptible.

There are those in the world that feel that the act of intercourse is for PROCREATION ONLY, and not for mere enjoyment or pre-marital experimentation. Would you want to be told that you are WRONG and a SINNER for having pre-marital sex because of someone else's bias...?

Someone else said it better than me in the past here... if you want to get TECHNICAL... the MOUTH is not what "mother nature" intended to be used for sex either, it's for food & beverage consumption, Breathing and Speaking... NOT oral sex "That's just WRONG". Heck, at that point, you could also claim that mother nature never intended for latex to be put over a penis... condoms are WRONG... yes, I know I'm taking it further than needed, but the point still remains, it's all about personal preference.

Try to keep an open mind and respectful approach to OTHER people's opinions. I, for one, would never consider the act of utilizing urine & fecees into sexual routines... the thought of eating another person's excrement makes me gag... BUT... there are MANY people out there that practice that fetish. Would I do it...? Heck no! Is it "wrong"...? That's up to the individual(s). If they derive pleasure from it and it is acceptable to them... more power to them.

So... I get it. You do not wish to engage in that activity... but just be mindful that calling it "wrong" alienates those who DO find it acceptable, and there are plenty of them (us?) out there.

I'm not angry with you, just trying to share my opinion.

[UtilityCurve]

Originally Posted by Vixen916

I wondered from the fellas if and why they enjoy it so much

I have had a checkered history with anal sex. My college girlfriend was very nearly obsessed with trying it after one of her female friends described her experience with it, which didn't sound like a rave review to me, but must have to my girlfriend.

Yeah, seriously, I was the one-in-millions guy who had a ready and willing girl.

And we never tried it.

I was afraid (get this) that after all that, I would love it and she wouldn't and I didn't trust myself with the possibility of getting hooked on it and ruining the relationship!

Years passed. Another GF told me she had experience and offered to have anal sex with me, quite readily. We did and it was great.

Now to Vixen's question (how great and why).

VERY great. An intense orgasm followed pretty quickly after penetration (first time excitement and all), but what I remember being most struck by was the warmth of her passage, much more so (it seemed, for no logical reason I can think of) than her vagina had ever felt. Yes, the tight grip was amazing, but not amazing for being tight, but feeling uniformly tight along my shaft, again, very different from a vagina, in which it has always seemed to me to be snuggest (and noticeably so) at the deepest point of penetration.

This was long before anyone cared about safe sex (the big risks then were tearing tender tissue [her] or getting a UTI [me]), so I ejaculated inside her, and it was very exciting to hear her react to each spurt, as though she (and she claims to have) could feel each one individually, its warmth and its force. THAT felt really good from a cuddling-afterward perspective because [a] I had come a lot from the pleasure and excitement and [b] come HARD (ditto). I wanted her to share MY pleasure and excitement and being told that she had sensed every bit of my ejaculation, including the warmth of the semen (something that I couldn't experience) was deeply (no pun intended) satisfying. Also satisfying, in that afterglow way, was her telling me some time later, after having anal again, that my come took a great deal longer to run from her anus than her vagina (which made perfect sense), which for her meant the experience sort of lingered in a languorous way.

My next GF wanted to try it, too, after learning I had experience with it, but she was not nearly curious enough for her own sake, so she never was able to relax enough to allow me to penetrate her without out-and-out pain, so we never tried a second time. (This leads to my "anal rule," which I have shared with all my buddies across the years: If SHE is curious about it, it'll work; if she's just curious about how it'll be for you with HER, it won't.)

My current SO isn't much into sex at all, really. Sex-negative about oral, squeamish about semen, okay with vaginal intercourse so long as I come inside her, not on her pussy. Her take on anal was "it's an exit, not an entrance," but she enjoys analingus being performed on her and she'll penetrate me with a finger when she's jerking me off. I've told her about my experiences with anal sex, but I'd be shocked if she ever got curious enough to invoke my rule.

In the meantime, I have my memories of those early partners and the sweetness of sharing my pleasure with my first anal partner. When I apologized for loving anal sex with her (I didn't want her to think I didn't love being inside her vagina too!), she calmed me with these words:

"Why [are you worried]? It's all my body, after all, not someone else's [you're enjoying]."

Vixen, hope I've answered your question.

[molovato08]

I love having anal sex....especially when I am in control of how far or how fast...My husband loves the fact that we are able to share this type of intimacy together. Since then we've been wanting to experiment so many other endless options and possibilities.....

[lynnek0811]

I was the exact same way. I never thought I would enjoy something like that I even broke up with one of my first serious boyfriends because he was going crazy cause I wouldn't do it. Then when I got with the guy Im with now (now my husband) I tried it shortly after we started having sex and loved it, we don't do it all the time but we do it every now and then.