Anal 101

[jurni]

Alrighty, thank you Brandye-that was all I needed. Anal sex will never happen for this girl. Everything I feared, about the anus being a one-way road and the damages that could occur were just confirmed.

He'll just have to dream about it I guess. PS: I'll definitely have to cut and paste that info to pass his way.

[mspersia82]

I did what Jurni did but my man refuses. He thinks it's gay for a guy's ass to be penetrated but it's not gay for a girl to have it done to her. WTH?? I don't understand why everything involving a man's ass has to be "gay". The thought of anal sex does not appeal to me at all. First of all it's messy and it will probably hurt. Unfortunately my bf is a butt lover and his favorite thing in the world is anal sex. I know he wants and I promised to try it with him but after reading about the medical drawbacks I really don't want to.

[Vixen916]

Hurt, yes it does hurt.. the first time VERY much. But now I enjoy it... I will say I haven't had anal though since reading that post that Brandye put in here.. that kinda freaked me out.. instead we just stimulate that area but no penetration.

[Curious Couple]

Hello all!
40 y/o married male here.
We talked about anal sex for about 2 years,as she was nervous to try.
We found that if u have your partner slowly finger your ass(with lube),u can get used to that 1st,then we used a toy(vibe,lube also),started slow,then pushed toy in a tad deeper.Again,this helped alot.
Then the time arrived for the "real thing".
I used LOTS of lube,slowly pushed in a bit/stopped/pushed in more/stopped,ect.
Now she is much more relaxed,and does enjoy this exp.
Take your time,go slow!
It does feel very good.

[Rawbob]

First off, I need to correct Brandye! You do NOT ALWAYS get hemorroids from anal sex!

Anal sex, if done correctly, can be a wonderful addition to your sexual arsenal!

As was stated before, you should always use a condom for ANY sex, not just anal sex. And also, be careful to not perform anal and vaginal sex at the same time. This could cause an infection in her.

Now, for beginners, the most important things to keep in mind are the following:

1) Lube: Get it, use it - don't be stingy with lube during anal play, it helps!
2) Hygene: You sould use a douche before doing any real intense anal play. Not only will it allow for a more pleasureable experience, the introduction of feces during sex can be very uncomfortable and unhealthy.
3) Start Slow: From fingers to smaller and gradually increasing sized dildos/vibrators - slowly streaching the sphincter muscle is the KEY to enjoying anal sex.
4) Go slow: The anus is not the vagina, and so it's ability to streach and relax is tied directly to how much pre-penile insertion time you take.
5) Positions: Once you feel you've relaxed enough to take a penis in your anus, a good way to start is to have the person who'll be taking the penis to be on TOP and lower themselves on the erect penis. This allows THEM to control the pace and depth. You will find, that as he/she lowers herself down, the sphinter will almost actulally "release" and allow for full penetration. Again, for beginners, let the person being "F-ed" set the pace!

Closing note: Guys, if you're not letting your gal work your butt, you're missing alot! Only men have a prostate gland, and until you've felt a prostate being stimulated (by hand, toy or penis) you've not lived! IT"S GREAT!

[Brandye]

Yes, Rawbob, you do get hemmorhoids from anal sex. No the next day but ask any 60 yo who has been having anal sex. They have either been trimmed or are about to be trimmed. The physiology is such that they are unavoidable.

I am not arguing against anything else you say.

[Angelpie7070]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Vixen916 @ May 04 2003,22:32)]I was just curious if there are other females on this board that like anal??? I always thought it was gross and said I would never do it.. a few weeks ago I let my guy do it and now I like it and it's part of our 'musts' when we have sex. I just wondered if there are other females on the board that like it and wondered from the fellas if and why they enjoy it so much

I personally don'ty like it, but everyone is different.

[Angel73]

[b]To be honest with you all on here...I do enjoy anal,as a matter of fact,I like it sometimes better than vagina sex.
The reason being,it seems to stimulate me more with more orgasms.
Anyone that has never tried it,ought to atleast try it one time (that is if you and your man are into it).
Believe me,I have been doing it for 3 years,and everytime it hurts like **** at first..But once he is in...I am yelling and enjoying it so much!

[Julie]

It's a once every couple of months thing for me. And I only do it when I have my period and won't have vaginal sex, but still want to engage in some kind of sexual activity. You definitely gotta use lots of lube and take it slow at first.

[SammyMouse]

well to be honest with u i really like anal sex.

it started out as him fingering my bum while we had sex.

then we talked about it, got the lube and went for it..

it took 6 attempts to get it in right.

the position hurt to much...

we tried 1) Missionary with bum elevated (wrong idea!!!)
2) doggy (too deep!!!) and the one i love:
3) laid on tummy, bum slightly raised. i can lift myself as to how deep i want him!

i enjoy it, and he takes it slow, and does wot i want, like if i want him to stop ill just say stop and he does.....

its a once every now and then thing for us..

too much can cause problems, and also we use it to spice things up a bit,, to much can get boring!