Anal 101

[Dawn80]

Wow, Brandye! You know your stuff! I am impressed! It's nice to see someone offering good, sound advice here! From a bacteria stand point, you have it right on! Anal sex is more about risk than people think. I can't even begin to describe the bacteria that reside in the anus/rectum just waiting for a free-for-all in a penis or in a small superficial wound in the rectum!.....let alone the damage that can be done to the rectum of the female. I think it can be enjoyable, but needs to be done VERY carefully.

[RT141]

My girlfriend and I want to try anal and have read all the advice given but have run into a problem. For the last month or so, we start out with vaginal sex while I use a finger to massage around her anus, it drives her nuts. It's well lubed and insert a finger, most of the time I can only get it in to the first knuckle and she says it hurts. I try more lube and it doesn't help. We do this every time we have sex and it doesn't seem to loosen up at all. Seems as if we have hit a dead end.

[Yariome]

There is a pressure point right inside the anus about half an inch to an inch in that relieves pressure to the outter anus. Massage around there and it should release a little more tension.

[RT141]

Anterior or posterior?

[shaved bi]

I love to receive anal sex. It is my favorite activity! When the guy has a long penis and slides all the way in it feels great. I get an instant hardon when it rubes my prostate.

[MollyBoston]

Originally Posted by SharpestThing

1. Lube!!
2. manual stimulation first, it's a must!!
3. Get it in Gently!! Very important not to force it or IT WILL HURT BAD!!!
4. Extremely slow!!! until you and your partner are comfortable
5. Again lube, very important!

That advice is absolutely dead on.

I like anal sex because it feels like the dirtiest kind of sex - like the sluttiest place for a guy to put his dick. We don't do it all that often though, because...frankly it's just kindof a pain. (lol) It takes a while, and afterwards everyone pretty much needs a shower.

And - wow, this is way too much information - the first time I go #2 afterwards it usually hurts.

[sarah_rsl]

You know propably one of the most interesting things to discuss about anal sex is the male obsession with it, and the huge effort underway in parts of the media to make it appear normal - Just another sexual act. I think porn has a lot to do with this, you only have to do a quick scan of the internet to see how porn attempts to push the boundries of what's acceptable. A lot of porn emphasises how anal sex demeans women, as well as the element of control it gives the man.

So now you have a situation where anal sex is seen as perfectly normal, it appeals to men and some feel they're losing out and feel cheated when their gf doesn't drop her knickers and bend over on demand. Not only are women made to feel obligated to have it they're also expected to love it.

I've discussed this subject on other forums, and the threads become full of guys with their really erotic stories about how their girlfriends begged them to do it to them and how they just had to oblige and how brilliant it was for everybody involved. I think you should take all those with a grain of salt.

I've had anal sex three times and to be honest while uncomfortable and not something I enjoyed it wasn't an unpleasant experience and at the time I was happy to do it.

So if a woman wants to do it, she should go ahead, just out of curiosity it might be something to try once, but just don't buy into a lot of the male orientated nonsense out there.

[jess_bg]

my fiance wants to try anal...at first I was against it but I saw how much he wanted it and I told him I'd never say no to something if I wasn't really hard core against it...so he started with finger penetration...and we used tons of lube....but when he tried to penetrate me with his dick it hurt extremely bad...felt like it was ripping. before we did penile penetration he had two fingers in me and they fit all the way in so we were confused by the pain

[Marla22princess]

Yes I Am and Yes I Do and Yes I Like

[Marla22princess]

Originally Posted by Vixen916

I was just curious if there are other females on this board that like anal??? I always thought it was gross and said I would never do it.. a few weeks ago I let my guy do it and now I like it and it's part of our 'musts' when we have sex. I just wondered if there are other females on the board that like it and wondered from the fellas if and why they enjoy it so much

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