Anal 101

[Paradox_Mc]

never done it but i would be up for it lol im not sure my gf would be up for it lol
but i will say one thing the first time i seen it i was shocked lol iwas likw WTF how does that go in that and why is she screaming lol note: i was 11 at the time lol

[jj6231971]

Hey Vixen

I'm glad to see that this experience have been good, but I never tried it and my fiance wants me to give it a try. I am open to the idea, any 1st time suggestions I should take into considerations

[rikkiann]

I love it I didnt want to try it but i finally decided to let him do it as his birthday gift and i found i liked it. i like it almost as much as vaginal sex almost not quite.
rikki

[HeavenSeeker]

First off I'd like to say that this forum is the best one I've found on the net. The diversity of the members opinions as well as their experiences, is uplifting and very much welcoming.

For myself, this is my first post, but not before I've read many threads in many different areas of this site.

I've come from a different sort of experience, which I know many in the world have had the unfortunate experience of being raped. First was when I was a child, 7 years old, and was also my unfortunate experience of obvious non-consenting anal sex. No one has to tell me about pain. I was 18 when I finally lost my virginity on my own accord (vaginal intercourse) however it left alot to be desired. At 21 I was raped again. At 24 I married, and had my first child. Sex just hasn't been a thing I was 'into'. I'm sure a lot can understand why.
However, with a lot of work, and lot of understanding of myself, and with alot of masturbation I've learned how to enjoy and even desire sexual contact. My husband has a very large penis, and many women may envy me, but it has it's definate downsides being that way. Even vaginal sex has proven to be painful if he thrusts in too deep.
On numerous occasions we have attempted anal sex. I trust him completely and want to be able to share with him something I have never shared willingly with anyone else. I feel in doing the act and allowing him this, that it will help me overcome what was so brutally done to me.
When he first mentioned it, I had the same reaction as others here 'Let me do it to you first and let you feel what it's like!' To my almost horror, he agreed. So out came the strapon, and I gave it to him. He didn't only like it, he loved it! So becareful girls, because you best be prepared to give it if he agrees, if that's going to be your tactic for rebuttal on this subject. It backfired for me!
However, it made me wonder what it felt like.
So we've tried, and yes the position of me being on top having control, lowering myself down onto him is the best position. He lays there patiently while I work my way onto his hardness. But his size is a major fear of mine. I only get maybe 1/4 way on if that, and have to back off.
In my journey for self healing, I wanted to have a man with a much smaller penis size, and found a very capable and willing participant. My husband also is very supportive of this. I find the 'other man' to be much more a sexual candidate for the 'vaginal deep penetration' positions I cannot enjoy with my husband due to his size. Between the two I get the best of both worlds, because what I can't have with one, I can with the other. No we do not have 3 some sex together.
Now I want to try anal sex with the 'other man' as I seem to think his penis size is much more suitable for my anus as opposed to my husband's monster. This other guy has tried anal sex before with his xwife and wasn't much into the act himself.
My question being, size difference matter? I cannot fathom my husband's penis being inside my anus, honestly, at times it's even too much for my vagina. Is there a different take or instruction on the larger end penis sizes, or put one into more danger of perhaps injury or damage? Neither partner is aggressive, so I know the patience will be there on either party, I just want so badly for a successful experience. The lube is always on hand and in plentiful quantities, as is the foreplay and slowness. I just really am at a roadblock with the size (length and girth) of my husband's size and find it frightening and would like some advice for overcoming that if possible, or if it would be recommended to just not go there at all considering the size/girth?

[Blink]

I'm not sure why none of the regulars are responding, so I'll offer what I've found. I've been doing a lot of research on this subject lately.

Anal sex can be very destructive, even rupturing the rectum[1]. As well, tissue can be torn inside and visible skin tearing or abrasions may occur on the outside[2]. Interior tears, or fissures can be difficult to heal[3] and may even become infected[4].

There are more concerns[5] that you may also want to think about, but tears are probably the most relevant in this context. My own advice would be to forego anal sex in favor of something else. Perhaps you could suggest other activities in exchange for your husband calling your bluff.


References:
[1] http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhea...,,6d85,00.html
[2] http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=286
[3] http://ibdcrohns.about.com/cs/relate...fissurefaq.htm
[4] http://www.talksexwithsue.com/analsex.html
[5] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex#Risks

[SeXtImE]

Nothing beats anal sex My finish is 10x better in the ass then when I finish in the vagina. Any body else like this?

[babygurl1807]

I like it as well.. I used to not be able to do it b/c it hurt to bad but when i met the mr. right we tried it a few times at first and now as long as we take it slow it is GREAT.... ur not the only one who enjoys it trust me lol there are some ppl out there though that will prob. say they dont but either they are embarrassed to admit it or they just dont realize how good it feels lol...

[sera300]

Originally Posted by SeXtImE

Nothing beats anal sex My finish is 10x better in the ass then when I finish in the vagina. Any body else like this?

Do a search on the site many opinions on how to and sensations...Your questions will be answered if you search & read.

[katiebug]

I have dated men who have told me that anal feels incredibly, and I have dated men who didn't like it, and I have dated men who could take it or leave it. I think it's personal preference and has to do with what type of sensations you get off the most on. My current BF is the take-it-or-leave-it type. He likes doing it sometimes but will never beg me for it. He says it's a lot tighter back there, but is sort of just like a very tight smooth tunnel, no other sensation for him really. He also doesn't like the fact that it's not self-lubricating, so I think he prefers vaginal to anal.

[SharpestThing]

Originally Posted by jj6231971

Hey Vixen

I'm glad to see that this experience have been good, but I never tried it and my fiance wants me to give it a try. I am open to the idea, any 1st time suggestions I should take into considerations

1. Lube!!
2. manual stimulation first, it's a must!!
3. Get it in Gently!! Very important not to force it or IT WILL HURT BAD!!!
4. Extremely slow!!! until you and your partner are comfortable
5. Again lube, very important!