Female Masturbation 101

[kathypully]

Well I have started this over and over again. Let me tell you, Jaybee, that I think if you got most woman to talk to you, honestly, they would give their right arm to have new guys lust for them. But our society doesn't let women be and feel that way.

My problem is not for my hubby to look at porn but that he pleasures himself and wants nothing to do with me for 6 months at a time if I let him. He keeps it secret even though I have tried to get him to do it with me there. I am very much into masturbating with my partner. Actually he denied masturbating and wouldn't even admit to touching himself until just the last year. Now he masturbates just a little in front of me but never to climax. We have been married 21 years. He lost interest in me after just 6 weeks of marriage. I believe he had the chase and got me, then lost interest.

I am very sexual and sensual and erotic and have so much desire for sex. It seems very crule to not give your partner sex but 2 times a year yet satisfy your own needs. That is not 'cheeting on my', it's 'cheeting me'.

I have to tell you that many men that have seen me with clothes or nude say he is absoultely nuts. That is a very nice compliment for me, but doesn't help my problem.

Thank you for relpying. Kathy

[kathypully]

As I sit here feeling badly about how I responded to your post, I decided to add this:

I have tried to get my hubby hard, even when I have his lusious penis in my mouth, sometimes it gets soft. He could be thinking of anyone he wishes, how would I know. It still doesn't work.

It definatley makes me feel quite the opposite. A real turn off to him.

[Jaybee]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (kathypully @ Oct. 07 2004,14:09)]As I sit here feeling badly about how I responded to your post, I decided to add this:

I have tried to get my hubby hard, even when I have his lusious penis in my mouth, sometimes it gets soft. *He could be thinking of anyone he wishes, how would I know. *It still doesn't work. *

It definatley makes me feel quite the opposite. *A real turn off to him.

Kath,

First off, don't feel bad about anything here. *It's just the internet, and most of the people here are like-minded. *We're all here because we love sex. *More than most!!

Second, I'm not offended by anything you wrote, you didn't write anything a sane person would feel offence at, and anyway, you'd really have to strain to offend me.

Quit worrying!

That said, what I'm about to state MAY offend you. *I don't know, but I think you should know the truth, the way I see it. *

There is something SERIOUSLY wrong with your marriage. *I don't care how you cut it, coital sex twice a year is...plain wrong. *I defy ANYBODY to say otherwise. *I find it hard to believe you've let things slide THIS long. *

I really, really feel you need to either:

A) See a marriage/sex counsellor;

or

B) Re-evaluate your marriage.

But do one or the other soon. *I think your husband may have some issues; frankly, if you came back here and told us you'd found out he was cheating, I wouldn't be surprised. *Unless a guy has a sexual problem, or he belongs to an Amish sect, there is NO way that twice a year can suffice.

I tend to think his problem IS sexual; I've never given/gotten oral sex, but by all accounts, it is ACTUELY pleasurable. *My uncle once told me that when he got his first BJ, there were tears of joy streaming down his face. *I don't even have any personal experience with oral, but I'm pretty sure that, even if I started soft, within a few minutes I'd be blasting like a f***ing firehose.

So you can imagine my shock when you told me about your husbands reaction, or lack thereof.

What are you going to do from here on?


Jaybee.

[kathypully]

Jaybee, I keep getting interupted and loosing my post.

I called my psycologist friend who knows my hubby and myself for many years. He couldn't believe I waited so long to get demanding about sex. I say," Do you know what it feels like for a woman to insist on it?" Very complementary for me.

My hubby has refused to go talk to him. His response was to have a hubbioptomy because it wasnt going to fix itself. Sounds cute but I can't believe he said that. Probably to shock me into making him go. I don't know.

I love sex very much too and miss it having the intimacy with a man Kath

[Jaybee]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (kathypully @ Oct. 07 2004,15:46)]Jaybee, I keep getting interupted and loosing my post.

I called my psycologist friend who knows my hubby and myself for many years. *He couldn't believe I waited so long to get demanding about sex. *I say," Do you know what it feels like for a woman to insist on it?" *Very complementary for me. *

My hubby has refused to go talk to him. *His response was to have a hubbioptomy because it wasnt going to fix itself. Sounds cute but I can't believe he said that. *Probably to shock me into making him go. *I don't know.

I love sex very much too and miss it having the intimacy with a man *Kath

You gotta make sure he gets help. *Please, do that for me. *INSIST. *Is there any reason he doesn't want sex with you?

Hey, if it's any help, I'm in need of intimacy too - emotional and sexual. *I would LOVE to have a woman in my bed tonight. I have to be up early, but I'd gladly sacrifice 7 hours of sleep for some earthshaking, scream-the-house-down passion. And, best of all, to open my eyes and find a beautiful pair gazing back at me.

Don't be thinking all men are like your husband - trust me, when we're teens we'll screw ANYTHING that moves, and our drives lessen only mildly with time. *I'm 36, and I can still go all night with the right motivation.

I'm a respecter of marriage, but lemme say sweetheart, if you lived anywhere nearby me, and DIDN'T have a ring on your finger...two birds, one stone.

That's all I'm saying.



Hope you feel better,


JB.

[kathypully]

I bought a couple of books. Maybe that will get the ball rolling. I don't think so. He has this special part of him. I always call it playing ostrage. Stick your head in a hole in the ground so it won't get you. Wish he wasn't like that. Kath

[eDJ]

I've mastrubated before my girlfriends as a way of arousing
them. I was once kind of shy about it until she told me she liked watching. I grew used to it in time, erecting myself as she squirmed with anticipation.

Later I dated a girl who was studying acting. She had this makeup stand in her bedroom with big round mirror, where she would practice applying her stage makeup and costume etc.
I would tease her about when I was a boy and how we would peek thru the keyhole at a friends house...at his sisters cause we enjoyed tormenting them so. So, she became intrigued with the idea and we found a kilt etc at a second hand shop and dressed her to look as a school girl....and you guessed it.

She wanted me to peak as she sit before the mirror putting on a show for me. It was great and she enjoyed it more than I did I think. Her small breast and large erect nipples gave her a very young girl look as she opened her top and slipped off her "knickers" and began to touch her self very erotically....and provocatively. She had her vibes, and other toys to tantalize me with. She wanted me to wait till I couldn't take it anymore and burst in on her and play-rape her. She lived in this little cottage which was out by itself so we could make some noise and have our fun. She sure enjoyed exibiting though.

eDJ

[betelgeuse_5]

I always felt comfortable masturbating in front of my boyfriends... it's always easier if you start by doing it over the phone though, till you build up your confidence (you can look your worst and still have a fantastic moment, and not have to worry about your face turning bright red afterwards!). I enjoy masturbating when my boyfriend and I are watching porn; sometimes we'll lie on the bed just trying to put each other off by doin it! And you always end up having great sex, because you're already warmed up!

[monie]

Wow. Kathy, I really hope you work things out. Sex just twice a year... that strikes me as suspicious. I dont think any guy could go with that, even if they jerked off all the time. You should really do some investigating to find out what he's really up to.
Now as far as the original topic on this thread... I have yet to masturbate in front of my new bf, but we have done stuff over the phone. I always thought that would be stupid, but its actually fun! I just cant wait until we get to do it for real... REALLY cant wait... hehe

[finewine]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (vette1963 @ Oct. 30 2002,07:02)]Women: do you mind masturbating in front of your partner?IF yes? Why If no. How do you do it?

I think it's a big turn-on for me to see his eyes smile with pleasure and for me to watch the erection take place when I do it. I incorporate it before, during, and after in all sorts of variations.