Female Masturbation 101

[dancingdoc2]

Well, Steph, your picture is that of a very attractive person.

Here is a clue about guys: When we fall for a girl, we fall hook, line, and sinker, including the parts as yet unseen. So, even though it might be hard to believe, it is true, otherwise there would not be so many relationships. None of us are perfect, physically or otherwise yet we manage to catch a mate.

I talk a lot about "Implied Consent" in some of the articles listed in the Index at the top of the main screen. IC can also be applied to your guy loving everything about you once you are "unwrapped". Do not focus on your minor imperfections and concentrate on rocking his world. Guys are simple creatures. Feed us, love us, and sex us and we will be putty in your hands.

Now having said all this, if there is something major wrong with a body part and it is something you can fix, then you might want to go to a gym and work on it. In the meantime, don't give your guy any hint that you are unhappy. I can assure you that he has his hangups, also.

Got questions?

[HelloThere]

I was raised in one of those families where everything sexual is bad. Now I'm 18. I tried masturbating for the first time yesterday after reading the article on female masturbation. It started out ok but quickly I just got bored. I have a boyfriend and when he touches me it feels great. I was wondering if someone has tips on how I can get the same results by myself. All my life I have been turned off to masturbation, I hope I can turn it around.

[dancingdoc2]

Hello there, HelloThere.

Welcome to the Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles. In addition, the site's Home page has a lot more information.

> I was raised in one of those families where everything sexual is bad. Now I'm 18.

Sex couldn't have been "all" bad--you're here!

> I tried masturbating for the first time yesterday after reading the article on female masturbation.

Is this the article you read?
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

Here is much more information and help:
The Anatomy of the Female "O"

> It started out ok but quickly I just got bored. I have a boyfriend and when he touches me it feels great. I was wondering if someone has tips on how I can get the same results by myself.

For boys, masturbation is an automatic given as he exits puberty. Driven by hormones and emotional factors, he is compelled to do it almost daily, if not daily, if not more. For girls, the drive and curiosity are not nearly as strong. Girls often do not learn until much later in life and after a concerted effort.

It will most likely take some practice on your part over several days or weeks depending upon how often you go about learning. Mother Nature has given everybody a pleasure center in the brain, the millions of sensitive nerve endings all over our skin, and, an autonomic nervous system to transmit signals; however, she has has not made the necessary connections. This is what must be learned. Think of it as connecting the dots.

There is much information in the links above, so please read them and put into practice the information on the one method described. Go at this when you are relaxed, have some extended time alone--and then do not pressure yourself to succeed.

> All my life I have been turned off to masturbation, I hope I can turn it around.

One of the articles describes all the benefits that come from masturbating. Any one or more should encourage you and prove that this is not a bad activity to be doing. Once you have learned to have your first orgasm, those that follow should be easier to achieve.

Once you are able to climax regularly and consistently and you want to enjoy them as a result of Foreplay, then read this article:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

When you have the time and interest, please read the rest of the articles listed in the Index.

I hope his is of help. If after several days of trying you still cannot bring about a climax, let us know and we'll tackle this, again. Got questions?

[Brandye]

There is much more to our masturbation than going through the physical motions. The mood and your fantasies play a very large part. Generally, our fantasies tend to be more romantic and less specifically sexual than men's. Old Hollywood musicals with a gorgeous woman being carried away by a dozen male dancers in tuxedos were the triggers for me when younger. Example, not that it will work for you.

With your family history you will be carrying some baggage that will make learning to respond more difficult than it need be.

There are some good pointers here on this Board and clitical.com is a good one especially for female masturbation.

[openfrontier03]

I've use to masturbate years ago infront of my husband but then became uncomfortable with my body. Thru the yrs my weight flexed up & down. Last yr I had weight loss surgery. I've lost 50lbs before surgery & total overall is 130lbs plus. I am about 50lbs away from goal. They said when u start losing weight the sexual side comes out. My husband has started seeing a side of me he has seen in yrs or has never seen. Last weekend while he was driving I started masturbating while he was driving. I never left him hanging & included him in all of it. He was so turned on that we went for another ride today & he couldn't handle it so we had sex on the side of the road while cars passed by. We have never done it before but he said that was the hottest thing he's ever seen. Even though we are separated I still like for him to watch.

[whyyknott]

Roadside sex is great. Just thinking about her masturbating while driving down the road is hot. That is great you did this. I wish she would be more willing to do this for me. Sometimes driving down the road she gets hot and reaches over and starts to rub my cock. Then she suggests we find a place to pull over, but it sometimes takes awhile to find an exit and then a place to enjoy sex. But she does give good hand jobs until we can find a spot. Last time this happened, by the time I got out of the car and stripped, she had crawled in the back seat and was laying there with her legs spread and was naked also. I stood outside the car and just gazed at her nice smooth vulva and then dove in and went to work on it with my tongue and mouth. She then needed my cock in her so I slipped it in and it felt so good. After awhile I stood up outside the car again and she took my cock in her mouth and started to suck me off. When she got me close to cumming, I put it back in her and let it cum in her vagina. Oh I love car sex.

[sexysweepea]

i cant play with myself in front of him how do i loosen up

[ASHLEY-IS-THE-NAME]

Originally Posted by sexysweepea

i cant play with myself in front of him how do i loosen up

just think hes not there and relax!! thats the main thing is just relax

[Babyycakkez]

well im talkingg to this guyy and im veryy open with him haha he sayys i wanna see you masterbate

so yeahh im planing on doingg it to pleasee him haha
but never really donee it in front of my ex's so cant really sayy how to do it and you never know if while youree doingg it turns himm n really badd and want sto touchh you even more lol

jusst a thought lol

[KatNasty]

Mutual masturbation can be extremely erotic foreplay. My man calls my vagina beautiful, and I think his penis is quite nice to look at as well. I personally am not a regular masturbater, however, with the help of my Bullet, a very small vibrator (best 20 bucks I've ever spent), I can cum in literally minutes, and it drives him wild!