Female Masturbation 101

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by eminatic

the penis does not stimulate the clitoris during sex. if you aren't going to touch it then of course she's going to do it herself

LOL
Exactly.
It's not that the guy isn't getting the job done... but I too need clitoral stimulation along w/ thrusting to get the job done.
I'll either use my fingers or a small vibe on my clit.

Then my b/f can use his hands for boob play ect.. I mean if guys had like 3 or 4 arms...then we'd be good lol

My b/f seems to be ok w/ it.. he's the one that bought me my first vibe...and yes while a clitoral orgasm is good w/ a vibe.. having both vaginal and clitoral stimulation during sex makes it THAT much better!

[michelleh1]

To me it's nice for both as it turns me on wathing him get turned on. Also one of the quickest ways I've found to get a guy hard again while still pleasing myself.

[Nezvzasol]

I love to do it. He loves too. He loves when I stand in front of him or above him and do it.

[lustforlove]

err i love it when i watch my boyfriend doing himself its a real turn on he does his simple hand wrok and i give him a wonderus prostate massage at the same time, the only part i dont really like is sometime we both get so into it that when he ejacualates it gets all caught up in my hair hehe

[K4L]

I really enjoy masturbating when hubby is watching but it turns me off he is not interested. (ie. when he is finished and no longer aroused) Just comes down to timing for us.

[Cristaline]

i would, and allready did
bu the won't, why is that? he says he's embarrased :schock:!
it turns me on though, and i've told him, but he said he'd never do it with me there

[FelixLovesKitty]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Two ideas come to mind:

I#1- If you have a phone sitting on the nightstand, place it between you and then do some play acting, perhaps passing the phone between you depending upon who is doing what.

I#2- If you have a phone sitting on the nightstand, and a cellphone, one of you call the other and repeat history.

I#3- Two cellphones and one bed will work!

Doc, GREAT ideas!

As for the woman touching herself during intercourse...and that making her partner feel "less than" ... if you're the guy, try not to be upset about that. I read a stat that said only something like 30 or 40% of women orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. If my lady started touching herself during sex, I'd be turned on that she felt comfortable enough to be totally INTIMATE with me! What a blessing. And as someone else said, why NOT have a double-stimulation orgasm? Your job is to please your partner however you can.

Kimberleyaloneatlast...yeah, find yourself some new men! Another thought would be to tell them b4 intercourse that "I get really turned on during intercourse, and I like to touch myself...and I hope you enjoy it as much as I do." That way, it becomes more of a positive, turn-on type of thing. (It should be already, but some people don't get that.) You might also consider guiding your partner's fingers to your clit. My lady has done this a few times during intercourse and whoa it is such a turn-on!

[No1Norcaltom]

I don't know about you but the last time I checked, masturbating is sex so feel good about it with each other. As for me, I love to see a woman play with her self, it's such a turn on! I have even been told by past lovers that it is a huge turn on for them to watch me stroke myself while we are having sex. I say knock down all the walls people, and enjoy how exciting sex can be with a little more teasing!

[Raymond]

Absolutely, my GF and I do this with each other fairly frequently as one of the ways we add a little variety in the bedroom. We masturbate while watching each other, and it's GREAT! :-D We stumbled upon this when she had strep-throat and didn't want me to catch it, but we were both still... "in the mood". Ever since then, we've done it again on several occasions. If you havent done this, you should try it. You can also incorporate many different fantasies while this is going on.

[coveresid]

We have enjoyed a lot of this lately while having sex. She doesn't mind stroking herself while I watch and I do the same for her. She really likes me to pump my penis while she works on the head of the penis. She hasn't always been this open and it has taken a long time for her to get to this point and do it in front of me. The other day I got up to get some lube and told her to keep herself stimulated so she reached down and fingered herself. When I came back I just had to stand there and admire how hot she looked fingering herselfl..