Cumming On Her 101

[CleverName]

Originally Posted by DaBoss

As I'm reading through this thread, the one thing that I strike as intriguing is that there are women on here that completely forbid a man from cumming on them (face especially), yet they are still with a man that wants to.

First of all, how ****ing selfish is that on the females part? And second, how much of a pussy is the guy being?

Now I'm not saying you should forcefully do something to a female if she doesn't want to. That's a little thing called rape. But if you enjoy ejaculating on a girl's face or in her mouth, and your girl doesn't "allow" you to (huh?), why are you still with her?

Maybe it's just me but if I had a girl like some of the ones in the thread that deems it necessary to place a "restriction" on me (in the bedroom of all places), we are not together anymore that night. No woman is worth that.

Really? So you don't have a restriction with your own body? So if your girl liked to put a 10 inch dildo up your ass and **** on your chest you would be ok with that because if you didn't let her it would be "selfish"? I could go on with plently of things like this, but I think you get the point.

Some people don't like some things. Thats their own prefrence. Its NOT selfish.

Whats selfish, if you thinking that a girl that doesn't want to clean semen out of her hair for an hour isn't worth a relationship.

[DaBoss]

Hardly. If I met a female that wanted to do that, I wouldn't have sex with her.

The point of my post was stating to find a partner that has the same views as you.

If you want to cum on a girl's face why would you have sex with a girl that doesn't want you to do it?

If a girl wants to stick something in your ass, and you don't want her to, why have sex with her?

I didn't realize it was so hard to disagree with someone and break up with them...

[CleverName]

So you say the relationship of that person is not worth it over one disagreement in bed? Sex is not the only part of many relationships. I still don't see how its selfish either.

[oedipussy]

Yeah, I don't get it, either...

Is it possible that you're just a misogynist?

[CleverName]

By your own standards you are selfish DaBoss.

[coyote_girl]

i think cum on my face can be direspectful, but in the hotness of the moment, we cant edit ourselves right? but sensually cumming all our bodies is pretty ok.

[GotTrouble]

My GF loves to make me cum all over her, however she is against getting it on her face.

She says she loves to see me cum on her because it shows and I quote her "she owns this dick". She is very happy that she is the only female in my life who has made me cum every time we have had sex and probably every time we have done anything sexual. I'm guessing seeing me cum empowers her but taking it in the face would empower me which is why she is against it. Regardless its one of my favorite things to do.

[raez]

I agree with Oedipussy and Clever,

DaBoss, there are many partners out there who don't like all the same things. Part of a healthy sexual relationship is being able to be open minded and experiment with one's lover, however, there are some things that some people just won't do and that is pefectly okay as well. Most of the time such an issue isn't worth throwing the towel in on the whole relationship. If two people honestly love eachother and enjoy being together, whether or not one partner feels the same about a particular sexual act as the other, then there is no reason to end the relationship. You just have to try to find other things that will interest both parties, just be more creative. If you really care about someone you wouldn't want to lose them just because they wont let you - insert whatever act here-. That is just you being selfish.
Also, you say "dont have sex with someone that won't let you do such and such" Well, most poeple dont know everything their partner is into until they've started having sex quite a bit. Ive never had a partner where we discuss everything we would like and wouldnt like before hand, it just comes out in the course of things.
The only reason you should end the a relationship based on sexual preferences is if both parties are so completely out of touch that you rarely get to both enjoy sex without making extreme sacrifices, ie one is a total freak while the other is completely inhibited to trying new things and is ok with just regular old missionary all the time- being an extreme example. I do agree that your preferences have to align somewhat...but not perfectly. Its just silly to expect that, and you will be lucky to find someone that wants to do everything you want to do. For instance, most guys would really love to have a threesome, but many girls wouldn't. Should all those relationships be ended then? Think about it.. what you have said is just plain ridiculous and selfish.

[daphnesboy]

Originally Posted by DaBoss

Hardly. If I met a female that wanted to do that, I wouldn't have sex with her.

The point of my post was stating to find a partner that has the same views as you.

If you want to cum on a girl's face why would you have sex with a girl that doesn't want you to do it?

That logic only applies to a purely sexual relationship where people are using each other for sex. I'm not saying that's bad, though my personal sexual ethics do not permit that sort of relationship.

Your logic does not imply a relationship of mutual love and respect. I love my girl for who she is, not what she lets me do. Our sexual compatability, as mind blowing as it is, is secondary to everything else.

-DB

[daphnesboy]

As a male very privy to female issues, who considers himself a feminist, I still find facials hot as hell, but with certain caveats. There may be an element of submission, but it is not inherently disrespectful or demeaning - that depends on the attitude of giver and receiver. I have seen videos where women reluctantly put up with facials, who are clearly not enjoying themselves, and find it to be a very boner-shrinking moment. The eroticism comes from a willful submission to the MOMENT and an abandonment of inhibitions by both partners.

The sharing of sexual bodily fluids - men or women - is very personal. I think what is turning women off to the idea is the abundance of videos and pictures showing it as some kind of end in itself, an isolated moment of triumph for the male. Again, I do NOT find these things to be very erotic. To me, eroticism comes from "letting go," and from the dissolution of barriers between partners, or between male and female.

As with anything I also think you have to ask yourself whether you'd be on the receiving end. I fantasize about having a woman on top of me, her fluids dripping down on my face. I think it would be beautiful. I also fantasize about being on the giving end - I won't lie about that. It's something primal in me I guess. But if she doesn't want any part of it then there's no joy in it for me.

-DB