Hand Jobs 101

[Brandye]

Interesting. I have never done it without my partner coming either in my hands or elsewhere as a quick follow on.

I recently did a new hand trick with a friend. Put on a pair of surgical gloves and slather them up with Nivea, or similar, cream. He seemed to like it.

[dudleh]

i don't think you necessarily have to come to enjoy it.It's nice,but you can really enjoy sex/hand/blow job with out coming .Sometimes you can concentrate too much on making him come and you lose sight of the fact that it's meant to be a pleasurable experience for both of you!

[xx22xx]

Just something to keep in mind:

The longer it takes to get to an orgasm, usually the more 'explosive' it is when it finally comes. No pun intended on the coming part.

[lonely19yrold]

I bet he enjoyed it anyway. A handjob is just a good feeling, but not as good as a blowjob. :-)

[blinkerbaby]

ok i wanna give my bf (of 10 months) a hand job, and just so i dont get lectured im 16 and im totally comfortable w/ this. I hear u should use lube cuz if u dont it might hurt your guy, but i dont own any. i was thinking vaseline? or maybe lotion? i hear u could use spit but i dont wanna gross my bf out. Any suggestions? also when im going down on him what if hes not hard? just rub him, lol or what? thanx.

[?wiseman?]

If you don't want to get all fancy with some "sexual" lubricants, a bottle of baby oil will do the trick. Lot's of info on this topic around here, so dig around a little bit for other ideas and suggestions.

[jerjohn]

Handjobs, if done right, can be lead to the best orgasm ever for a guy. Doing it right means...taking your time (you want to slowly build up to orgasm), using plenty of lubrication (massage oil is best), and using both hands and a variety of grips. The handjob a woman can give if she wants to is nothing like what a guy can do to himself. The only problem I have with handjobs is trying not to hyperventilate too much. The best position for a good handjob is with the guy laying on his back with the women sitting between his legs. That makes it comfortable for both parties. As good as a handjob can be though it can be boring if the only motivation is to get him off. If that is the reason for doing it and nothing is put into doing it, it is no better than masturbating. I hope this inspires a few of you women out there to really try and give a good handjob. I know it will be appreciated.

[Stephanie083099]

I feel that if you're going to please a man, a handjob is not good enough, I feel that is just the beginning of it, u start off with just that then you give him a blowjob. I know that if my man just fingered me I'm not completely satisfied, I have to have both, and same with him.

[Stephanie083099]

pretty much you just put you whole hand around their penis and rub up and down, it is better for them if you lube it up a little bit, suck it for a little bit or maybe even use some lotion, some guys like their balls to be played with, put dont be rough with it, be gentle, you'll get the hang of it.

[?wiseman?]

Lilmisstrouble- you don't mention your ages, but if your boyfriend is older than 12 or 13 (which I certainly hope he and you are) he knows what he likes because he masterbates. You'll consistently see the recommendation to "communicate" on this forum.

As all have suggested, read the "Pleasing Men" section and experiment. But as you experiment, ask him if he likes what your doing. What's good for sum of us, may not be what he likes.

This forum will provide you with a map, but you'll still need to ask for directions occasionally. Good luck.