Hand Jobs 101

[Rick 3204]

Hand jobs are wonderful I had to teach my girlfriend how. She has SUCH cute little soft hands and OH GOD lol. The only thing I can say is do it with enthusiasm listen to what he tells you and use varience. DO NOT DO NOT stop when he starts to orgasm. IT WILL RUIN IT ALL!!! He starts to cum you keep going a little faster and stuff. Same thing with a blow job. Which is a main reason why guys say girls who dont swallow can go to hell on a BJ because the second the guy starts to cum she backs way off and stops thus ruining his orgasm. lol

[nuffy]

I find as good as penertration when done very slowly!

[Just Wonderin']

I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few weeks now, and after a few times of 'petting' I had to explain the problem it causes for me later on, blue balls. She got the hint and knew that it was a hint to finish the job. The problem is, she started doing it, and I didn't enjoy it at all. I then tried doing the motion for her but to no result. A problem may be that I've always masturbated using lotion and in a slower method, and have NEVER gotten off with dry masturbation. I don't know what to do besides just be an @$$ about it and ask for head, or just tell her to get lotion, but that would be weird. After the first attempt at explaning it I feel awkward to try again. The end result is me walking away feeling uncomfortable and then that dreaded aweful feeling a few moments after... Is there anything I can do to make myself go quicker or easier? Anything helps... (messing around b4 doesnt help with going quicker) Oh, this has happened like 3 times now. I've started to stop her from doing it a few times knowing the inevitable end result.

[SexGoddess]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]She got the hint and knew that it was a hint to finish the job

So,you gave your gf a guilt trip because you had blue balls after making out? That isn't right. That is probably why you didn't enjoy it as much as well.

It takes TWO to tango. You can not put pressure on a woman to satisfy you.

I suggest that you talk with her about it. Use some good lube such as KY or astroglide and try to be more gentle. Believe it or not, Women also can get really turned on while making out and if a guy doesn't want to make love to her,then she has to deal with that herself. In the same way men have to.

Goodluck.

[Just Wonderin']

Whoa whoa whoa. Maybe I didn't make it clear, but I can't type too well, it being 5 am now. I never meant to do a guilt trip on her, and it never was like that. Just that after 'rubbing' I mentioned it hurt when I cracked a joke to her about it later on. She didn't in any way feel obligated to do it. I just wanted to know if it was just me or perhaps her inexperience, which apparently is impossible to solve without going into another awkward convo. I know I'm going to get the "well if you cant talk about it then maybe you shouldn't be doing it" speech, but she is definitely getting discouraged and even got mad and stopped saying "its not working!" Further advise is appreciated but please do not mention or even imply that I mess with my girlfriends head to get her to do things she does not wish to do

[xx22xx]

It doesn't make you any more excited that it's her hands jerking you off and not yours? Maybe when she goes to do it you can put your hand over hers and show her how you like it done.

You say lotion, but perhaps if you use a lubricant, she wouldn’t think it would be so weird like you say. Besides, it may be handy (haha) to have around when you go to finger her, and later on, have sex.

[SexGoddess]

Sorry, I misunderstood your post.

anyhow, I think you both should relax. I know how frustrating it can be when something you really want,such a bj,handjob etc, does not work out.

Use lube. Take your time and Relax.

[DCX]

i used to have the same problem. its because whren you masturbate you know exactly how ya like it and how it should be done. all ya gotta do is be honest with her. just tell her that you enjoy being lubed up. if she isnt willing to do it. jyst relax and enjoy it either way. dont tell her that shes not good at it just tell her you wanna try newer things.

[lambchops]

NOOO he doesn't have to cum to enjoy it!! actually, last weekend me and my girlfriend were playing around for a while and she gave me a handjob for about 45 minutes and it was the most amazing one i've ever experienced and i didn't cum!!! it was great!! can't wait till the next one

[Tjdude]

Any hand job is a good hand job , it does not matter if you cum or not. But it helps if you know what you are doing.