Hand Jobs 101

[ghost lover]

Originally Posted by pinkFlames

My uncut boyfriend doesn't need lubrication for a handjob. In fact we've tried using lube and he doesn't like it. There's enough free movement in the skin of his penis to act as a natural "lubricant". However my circumcised partners needed at least spit as a lube.

I find this to be true I'm not cut and I find I can jerk it dry and my GF can give me a hand job dry. Although I do prefer lube or spit!

[xfiendfyre]

I think that using your hand on a guy needs to either be doubled up with the performance of oral sex, OR when you're trying to be both naughty and discreet (while he's driving, or at the movies, etc).

From what I've been told (in casual discussion), masturbation is a little more boring for the guy in comparison to other sex acts; and since he can do it any time he wants, it's nothing new and exciting for him. So why would he want his girl to do it for him when she can just as easily be doing more interesting things to him instead?

Unless he gets turned on by seeing a hand that isn't his own down there, of course. I guess it just all boils down to his personal tastes.

[ohyeahbabe]

My bf says it feels better when I give him a handjob vs him giving himself one. He definitely likes blowjobs better than handjobs because it feels better and easy cleanup. Do you think he will like vaginal intercourse better than hj's and bj's?

[HornyTexan]

Originally Posted by lilmisstrouble

i mean i no what a hand job is if ya get me, but how do u go bout it what do u actually av 2 do?? pls help me.

roxy x

Hold it, gently play, stroke it, look it over and have fun, as a man I love it when my wife plays and holds it as she teases me, I play with myself alot so when she does it I love it. Caress his balls, play with the head, grab and squeeze it real hard, take your palm and rub it on the head. Also what you could do is look up ale masturbation on internet and look for how to.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by xfiendfyre

I think that using your hand on a guy needs to either be doubled up with the performance of oral sex, OR when you're trying to be both naughty and discreet (while he's driving, or at the movies, etc).

YES! Why? Anyone reading this thread should read the article listed in the Index that discusses the "dynamic duo" of a b/j & h/j.

I recommend caution tho when driving. An uncontrolled reaction a guy can have is for his leg to stiffen and cause pressure on the accelerator that will cause the car to go faster and faster and....

From what I've been told (in casual discussion), masturbation is a little more boring for the guy in comparison to other sex acts; and since he can do it any time he wants, it's nothing new and exciting for him.

Maybe yes, maybe no. "Boring" is relative and depends upon how much and how often he has been doing it and over time, also. (While not new or exciting, masturbation does serve a need.)

So why would he want his girl to do it for him when she can just as easily be doing more interesting things to him instead?

Point well made. And when there are "sparks" and pheromones flying, and she uses the right technique (also explained in one of the articles) her participation can be....well, you fill in the ending.

Unless he gets turned on by seeing a hand that isn't his own down there, of course. I guess it just all boils down to his personal tastes.

That can turn him on. Simply slowly approaching the area, the anticipation can drive him crazy, having the sparks and chemistry definitely will, and so it goes....

Originally Posted by pinkFlames

My uncut boyfriend doesn't need lubrication for a handjob. In fact we've tried using lube and he doesn't like it. There's enough free movement in the skin of his penis to act as a natural "lubricant". However my circumcised partners needed at least spit as a lube.

Perhaps the reason he does not like using lube is that it gums up the under side of the foreskin afterward. Perhaps washing the area when done will be a fix and at least worth a try.

Another reason he may not like using lube is because his glans is orders of magnitude more sensitive than the glans of circumcised men. It might be just too sensitive/painful for him.

The need for lube is more a desire than a requirement. Using a lubricant makes using less pressure a bigger turn on, using the same pressure easier, and, its use can generate more intense sensations.

Originally Posted by ohyeahbabe

My bf says it feels better when I give him a handjob vs him giving himself one. He definitely likes blowjobs better than handjobs because it feels better and easy cleanup. Do you think he will like vaginal intercourse better than hj's and bj's?

Do you think...? In a word: absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes; although for different reasons. The former pair and especially the dynamic duo of both together do create stronger sensations. Intercourse is simply in a class by itself.

Originally Posted by HornyTexan

Also what you could do is look up ale masturbation on internet and look for how to.

Yes, and also read the articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen for more on the topic and more on all related topics! Knowledge is empowering.

[tprivate414]

I certainly agree with knowledge being empowering, but what a lot to search through!!! Better, I think, to sometimes get fresh information from discourse that is new . . .

That being said . . .

For me, I enjoy handjobs immensely. I find them spontaneous and rather naughty without the mess of sex . . . at least the more emotional part. For instance . . .

At the New Year's Eve party the other night my wife dared another woman to touch me, really touch me, on my penis. She didn't stop there and kept rubbing me through my jeans. While not exactly a hand job (yet) it certainly excited me. Later, after the bells had rung and things were winding down the same woman snuck over to me and we went outside to "finish" what she had started in the garden. Best part is that clothes were on, we were both satisfied, and no one in the whole place was the wiser.

So, for me, quick, easy, and no attachment. And she can do it if she likes.

[Thonger]

Lots of different points were made in this thread and I think every combination was covered. I have to agree that guys (in general) like blowjobs more than handjobs because we can always give ourselves a handjob. And we've given ourselves so many handjobs, we're pretty darn good at it, so a girl is probably not going to do as well, though a woman's touch and the different techniques she may use are a huge plus. (Most) guys can't give themselves a blowjob, so that's why we prefer getting a blowjob instead. I've tried to give myself a blowjob and all I got was a sore neck. (If all men were able to blow themselves, we'd be calling in sick every day because we'd be too busy sucking on ourselves to work. HAHA)

I may be a little different, but I don't use lube when I jerk off. And I don't grab it and stroke it furiously for a few minutes before cumming. I prefer a long slow handjob where I run my fingers up and down my entire shaft, around the balls, and sometimes around my asshole. My most sensitive spot is around the head (I'm cut). I just make a ring with my middle finger and thumb, and gently stroke up and down around the ridge by the head. I keep this gentle stroking up for about an hour before I let myself cum, and when I do, I grip my shaft a bit tighter and stroke up and down the entire length. This creates an explosive orgasm for me.

While I would never turn down a handjob from a girl, I'd just rather choose a blowjob if I had a choice.

[dancingdoc2]

You are correct, each of us, male or female, can do a better job of stimulating ourselves manually than a partner. That said, we can come close or even mimic what our partner does with guidance, practice, communication, and feedback.

This is explained in one of the articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. As for oral stimulation being "it", I submit that both are better than either one, singly. The combo is referred to by me as the "dynamic duo".

What you are either overlooking or did not mention, is that sex with a partner is more intense than sex by self because of the mutual connection, sparks, and chemistry between the two.

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[kitty_kat69]

emergency! my bf does all sorts of things for me and pretends he doesn't care that i didn't handjob him...i tell my friends that i just don't want to but the truth is i have no idea what to do...i don't wanna screw up either cuz then i get all red (i'm a very shy girl)...all i wanna do is be able to please him...please help me

[ImpurePleasure]

O.K., This might be 'off topic' and I'm sorry for that but ... according to my man (who by the way loves almost anything sexual) the difference between a h/j, a b/j and vaginal sex is in the intensity of his orgasms. Naturally, he prefers intercourse but he claims he has the most intense orgasms with oral and can't orgasm at all with a h/j. I'm sure it's my technique that lacks because, of course, he can masturbate to orgasm.

Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things!