Hand Jobs 101

[Brandye]

Look around the site. There is some good advice posted. Recommendations have been given many times. There are also sites on the internet specializing in handjobs. You can learn muchm at these without our repeating ourselves.

[girlygirl]

It's pretty simple. *You just put your hand around his penis and move it up and down as quickly as you can. *You can do it more quickly and use less energy if you just move your hand rather than your whole arm. *Also, you will probably want to use lube, especially if he is circumcised. *And don't worry, he'll probably be able to tell you exactly how he wants you to do it--most guys are pretty experienced at this.

[Serotonin32]

Its not just about going fast.. its not like a race or anything.. I dunno about anybody else but if my girlfriend gets me to cum in 5 minutes its like eh.. but if she holds me out for 45, I'll promise you it'll hit me a lot harder at the end and feel 10x better. *Either that or another technique my g/f picked up is like go really fast and right when I'm about to cum she'd just like play with the head or whatever gently, because you can't really go all the way off that it just teases me.. and she just switches back and forth between those and even though its really nerve racking.. its really f***ing good.. so if you figure out when he's about to cum, like how he reacts.. try shit like that.. See its that shit that a guy can't do to himself.. We don't have the self-control.. Like i've tried it you know.. and I'll be like slowing down and then speeding up or whatever.. and after the first time I'll just be like f*** it and go all the way and then be pissed at myself later that I couldn't hold out.. hehe cool huh? *Anyways, just a little rant, maybe some info was useful.

[ItalStall]

Check out the "Sexual Information - Pleasing Men - Hand Techniques" section of this site for lots of ideas.

You can connect to it by selectng the "Home" or "Site Map" links at the top of this page.

Hope it helps ...

[girlygirl]

just to clarify--I didn't mean you could make him come faster that way, just that you could move your hand faster.

[Andy]

For a long time, the handjobs or blowjobs I got from my girlfriend were just ok. I know that she loves me a lot, and it's not that she didn't want me to have the most amount of pleasure as possible, but I think she just didn't know better. On New Year's day, I couldn't sleep, so I wrote her a note because I was thinking about sex and all of the things I would like her to do. Yesterday, she gave me a handjob and it was incredible. Yes, I'll admit that I've had better orgasms from sex, but this was very very good.

Here's generally what I wrote for her... Just keep in mind that what works for me may not work for your guy.

I really like being kissed. This may sound weird coming from a guy, but I love it when my GF kisses my neck, ears, shoulders/collarbone, and even my nipples sometimes. If she can do this while giving me a handjob or when we're having sex, it basically multiplys the feelings and brings me that much closer to orgasm.

Watch your BF masturbate. Yesterday I showed my GF how I hold my penis and how fast I do it and the general motion, and she took a lot from it. Each guy knows what feels best, so learn from that.

Rythym is really important. A lot of girls speed up and slow down because either their arm gets sore, or because that's what they like and so they do it their guys. Now, I don't mind a little bit of variation in rythym, but if you vary things randomly, all it does it desensitize me. (I'm not sure about other guys.) So, if you want to change up the rythym, do something like three fast strokes, then two slow strokes, and don't deviate from your fomula. Another important thing is that when your guy is about to cum, don't stop right then or slow down. You have to keep going fast, or the whole feeling is lost.

The last thing that made a world of difference was that I got to lay back, relax, and my GF cuddled up beside me and let me feel up her breasts and bum and run my hands up and down her back. Being able to feel her skin and hold her body close to mine brought a real feeling of intimacy to the whole thing.

I know this is a long post, but hopefully it's helpful. Please post any further questions that I haven't answered.

Andrew

[?wiseman?]

This is a very nice board and I'd like to contribute.

As with every other sexual practice, there are a multitude of good and bad methods for giving a handjob. I have to differ with several of the posters who don't give it much weight over self masterbation.

A good handjob sends chills up my spine. Ladies, bring a bottle of oil to bed and warm up your hands. Slowly and gently stroke your partner's penis from the base over the tip. Try a slightly firmer grip on the up stroke and a light stroke on the way down. Keep in mind that the underside of the shaft is the most sensitive area. Using your thumb to lightly rub the underside of the shaft and head will drive your guy crazy. Alternate with one hand on the penis and the other gently stroking his scrotum and the area between his scrotum and the rectum as well as the insides of his theighs.

Don't forget to apply more oil as you go along. I think many women (at least some that I've been with) think that the man really wants you to speed up as he nears climax. In my opinion, the intensity of the orgasm is much greater if the stroking of the penis and scrotum continues to be slow, soft and only slightly firmer.

I think if you try it this way, and continue to ask your man what he likes and doesn't, a handjob, clitoral stimulation and best of all, mutual masterbation makes a great holiday from vaginal sex.

JMHO

BTW, This is also an incredible method when you're showering with your guy. Only substitute bath oils.

[Vixen916]

A guy I know calls one of his ex's "Handjob" Thats all she would do when it came to messing around other then basic her laying on her back him on top sex. Sounds rather boring, wouldn't you all agree! I think everything should be talked over, what he likes, doesn't like and us women need to be sure to tell him the same! I agree, fingering is just as good

[Serotonin32]

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting handjobs. See like the thing is, for me, if I hold off cumming for a while like and take longer it feels ten times better in the end, but its like when I masturbate I'll be like alright I'mma slow down and make sure I don't cum so then it'll feel better but then I'm just like eh screw it and end up going all the way and then being pissed. See the thing is we don't have self-control, but a girl can control it.. They can tease us. I was seriously panting a week ago for 30 minutes afterwards because of my girlfriend. So handjobs can be fun.. just give us something different too though cause it'll get boring if thats all you get.

[ty_guy]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (xx22xx @ Dec. 24 2002,10:13)]i just have a question about handjobs too...i mean i've obviously been doing it right, but how far can you stroke up and down.........is it like the entire length or does it not really matter 2 much

Personally, I feel it depends on how close the guy is to orgasm. It's just like sex - at the start, short distances up and down (or in and out) might be okay, but when you're really close, you put it in as far as you can go.

Rhythm is also important. I think the guy can help you with this, and probably does if he's really into what you're doing. Actually, this works for girls too - if the one receiving the oral sex is liking it and is really into it, they start to move their hips back and forth in response to what you're doing. I think it's a pretty good indication they're not liking it if they're just laying there like a corpse.

To answer why we like blow jobs better than hand jobs, I think it might just be that A. we can do a better job ourselves (as smoove said) and B. that most of us have probably had more bad or painful hand jobs than blow jobs (I know I have).

Also, I just posted another tip about handjobs in
Sex Info 101 Message Board » MEMBERS FORUMS » Pleasing Him » Mind blowing sex/blow job.