Hand Jobs 101

[Doug's]

I was quite surprised when my hubby told me that he almost never used lube on himself, when I chased him down with massage oil it was a whole new thing for him!
He likes me to just play with him casually, not necessarily to make him come, especially if he's tired. He says it's relaxing.
When our skin is totally dry a light grip will slide easily, but if either of us is sweaty or damp (from a shower) then the skin sticks together and is painful. I think a good lube is required for those "killer" handjobs that everyone wants to learn to give, but for mild play it can be done without.

[Browser]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Take your panties off and use them to rub him...

I just read this; must have missed it before.
Handjobs with panties are major turn-ons for a lot of guys. I fully recommend trying it. Just remember to wash them well afterwards!

[eddy]

try taking a shower together and having her hands really soapy

[Browser]

That only works for the people allowed to use soap though

[Taddeo]

i was holding my friends hands behind ehr back and she started to unbuckle my belt and then my pants and well i should have stopped her but it felt really good. well anyway there was something about that, that just got me really turned on

[tastes like kinkky]

mmm hand jobs, not my favorite thing to do.. but thats just me... anywho, it can be a great part of 4 play. just dont take forever with it..might ruin fun later...a lot of people like different things, it might just be because you're not getting enough out of the stuff that most other people love to do.. like some people think that eating out is better than sex...either because they have been eaten out by some one thats very talented, or just really bad sex... then again people have different opions.. i see your point because guys can jerk them selves but its just like playing wiht peoples hair.. doesnt feel as much fun when you do it yourself compaired to how other people do it... so yeahh. =]

[smoothgurl0188]

HELP!!!!!!!!!! I need to know word for word exactly how to give and amazing handjob!!! I wanna give my boyfriend one but he's older and i dont wanna embarass myself! HELP PLEASE ASAP!

[coveresid]

Don't worry too much about technique for giving your bf a handjob. It is almost impossible to fail at this. The technique is to use your hand on his penis and his scrotum. You may want to start just by rubbing his penis through his pants. Advance past that by sliding your hand down his pants onto his penis. To get the most access you will need to undo his pants and pull them down along with his underware. Then the whole package will be exposed and available for some great stimulation.

Wrap your fingers around his shaft and squeeze a little. Then while squeezing, move your hand up and down on his shaft. Slide your hand over the head of his penis. He may have a small amount of lubricant which has eased out of the tip of his penis. This is good and will help with your hand sliding up and down his shaft and then over the head of his penis. If additional lubricant is needed, saliva works temporarily and will need to be reaplied or if you have some lubricant for intimate pleasure you can use that. With the other hand you can reach down and hold his scrotum and balls in that hand. Don't squeeze his balls too hard, but just hold the scrotum in the palm of your hand and sqeeze gently. Then work the other hand up and down on his shaft and over the head. After awhile move mostly to the head of the penis and keep moving you hand over that. This will cause him to ejaculate and you will have completed a very successful hand job. After a few times you will know what to do and be very good at it. Just pay attention to his reaction while you are working it and you will find out what he likes. Each person is different on exactly what works for them, but you can't go wrong with the above. Just be ready to refine it for him.

A memorable time for me was over 20 years ago while I was dating. We were standing up making out saying good night. We had been dating for awhile and had done some dry humping and we enjoyed the feel of each of our bodies against each other. We had been rubbing against each other while kissing and she stepped back slightly and slide her hand down on my penis on the outside of my pants. This was the first time she had ever done that and she admitted that it was the first time she had ever felt a penis with her hand. After a few minutes she then moved her hand and slide it down my pants right onto my hard penis. First she just used the palm of her hand and pressed my penis between her palm and my skin while rubbing up and down. Then she actually wrapped her fingers around my penis gripped it and was squeezing. I was speechless and could barely breath it felt so good. When she finally moved to the head of my penis I couldn't last any longer and ejaculated. She was startled and didn't know what to do, but just left her hand there until I finished cumming. I thanked her and then left to go home. The drive home with the warm sticky feeling in my pants was just something else to enjoy the moment. So even without my pants being unbuckled or pulled down, she was able to do a great hand job. She later told me that was the first time she had ever touched or held a hard penis with her hand. She said she was suprised when I ejacaculated and didn't know what was happening at the moment, but enjoyed it. She had enjoyed me with my hands down her pants and as we were making out she just wanted to touch my hard penis and feel it which lead to the whole session. We are married now so we get to keep enjoying each other.

[katiebug]

I had an interesting convo with my boyfriend last night, in which I brought up that he never lets me finish him off just with a hand job. I can get him really hard and really excited manually, but then he always pushes me away and wants to orgasm in another way (oral or sex). That's fine, but it makes me feel like I am doing a crappy job.

Last night I spoke to him about it and basically he told me that hand jobs are not that exciting for him, and that I will never be able to compare to his own expertise at it. Understandable - I haven't had 25 years of experience and constant access to the equipment! But I'd like to get better at it. I have asked him to masturbate in front of me to show me what he does but he's not really that into it and doesn't seem to care to ever teach me.

I guess this isn't such a big deal, I just feel pretty inadequate in this area. It'd be nice to be able to give him a hand job to completion at least once, and I'd also enjoy watching him cum. Should I just give up at this point and accept it's never going to happen?

[Caitlain]

Katie, in some ways masturbating in front of someone else is even more vulnerabilty-inducing than actual sex itself (largely because of the fact that, as you grow up, you're alway trying to hide the fact that you masturbate, so this carries over into adulthood, even with a sex partner).

All you can do is communicate with him, and hope that he will eventually come around as the two of you become more comfortabel with each other. Obviously, you are not going to be able to force him to allow you to do it, but occasionally as you get him hard, mention the fact that you'd get so hot if you could make him cum through a handjob some day, and that you look forward to being able to do it.

Maybe the next time, as you do masturbate him, see if you can get him to put his hands on yours as you do it and guide you or show you a little bit how he likes it. If you can get him to do that, maybe things will build from that point and you will eventually be able to get him off.

And, by the way, don't feel "inadequate" because you can't get him off that way - you're learning how to deal with a whole other body, and it would take some time to learn to do something that someone else has been doing for so many years. I'm sure you make up for it in many other ways.