Hand Jobs 101

[sweetheart05]

I thought I'd try the "Shaft" method and then end with perpetual penetration, but how will I know when to start the penetration? Is it pretty obvious? I mean, will I just know when it's time?

Also, does anyone know the most pleasurable method of hand jobs?

[Lass]

I don't mind giving a blow job--Hell, I even like it a bit myself--but whenever my guy asks me to do a hand job, I tense.

Because I don't have one of those things...I don't play with them on a weekly bases...and it seems like every time I do give him a hand job it doesn't get him off as much as it should. He always ends up gently pulling my hand away and doing it himself.

I've even done it the way he does it when he's alone....any advice?

[RayzorSharp]

Originally Posted by uncreativename

where do u buy lube from neway?
uncreativename

Over here in the UK Superdrug is the best place, however Durex have a mailorder service from their website (durex.co.uk) They now do several different lubes (which are suitable for use with condoms too)

[bob44044]

Most females give a handjob to hard and fast. Slow down and do it like you find his cock fasinating. Like you love what your doing. Explore it and have fun. You will be surprised what the resluts will be. Most guy see how women do it in porn movies and think thats the way it should be done. Hard and fast. Wrong, that's a sure way of maklin g sure you do not cum.

[Friden]

Hard and fast during it would probably not feel too well.
I think maybe as the guy is about to finish she goes faster...I found that feels great when I did it to myself.
Havent had a handjob yet...but im sure the first time will be great.
I think shes a little nervous at doing it but its understandable.
I dont really care what she does...do what you want really.
Just not so hard but keep that idea mentioned above in your head.

[Jin]

Personally, I thoroughly enjoy handjobs. I find them even more pleasureable than oral sex. Someone asked about the proper technique. I have been with several partners and I can definately tell the ones that have been trained well. The secret to the handjob is for the woman to grasp the cock using the first and third fingers about 2cm past the bell or head of the cock (erect of course). The second finger then feathers over the edge of the bell. One of my past girlfriends used Ultraglide to stroke me, and it feels amazing!!! Another thing really gets me going is verbal coaxing. I really love it when a woman talks me through to a spectacular orgasm!! The speed is less important, if the technique is correct. Surprisingly, I have found very few women who use any of these techniques!!

[adam]

Okay, I have a trick for you ladies whose boyfriends are uncircumcised.

What you want to do is lube up the glans and foreskin well. Retract the foreskin behind the glans so it stays put, then push it back over the glans. During the course of a hand job, it's extremely pleasureable. If, however, you do it during the course of his orgasm, it feels absolutely amazing. Be careful, though - doing it too much or too fast will actually cause pain. So if you're going to try this method, do it extremely slowly at first and gauge his reaction.

[Maribelle]

http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_handtechniques.shtml has helped me out After I read that I tried a few various techniques & my BF was noticeably impressed We just use saliva -- his/mine/ours....

[meganbinky]

I was scouring the internets looking for techniques on hand-jobs and came across this site. I have read most of the threads I think would contain the answers to my problem but alas, I didn't find them.

So, I thought with my first post I would ask my question. A little back-ground first?

I am 24 years old and HORRIBLE at hand-jobs. I have never gotten the rythme right, or the pressure is to soft. I really find the whole experience to be embarrassing and wrong feeling.

I am with a man who is trying very hard to talk with me and keep comunication open. He has 'shown' me what he likes and I find I get so hot watching that I can't take notes. So then he tried to show me with his hand covering mine, and the same problem. This man is just to sexy and distracting! LOL

So, to get to my problem. I find that I can't <please note 'can't'> can't grip him hard enough for him to find the most pleasure with me. He gets frustrated and I get embarrassed. I really wish to please him but my fear of hurting him is really getting in my way. Even when he reassures me, I still can't grip him hard enough. As I worry more and more about doing this act 'wrong' my rythme gets screwy and I tend to just either stop the HJ and BJ him, or ask he finish himself.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can alter my perception of 'to hard'? I really honestly want to please him.
thanks for any advice-Megan

ps-Lilly, great idea with the sleave. I saw a sleave like that with a female's mouth sorta scuplted into the front.

[dancingdoc2]

The learning and demonstrating is exactly what I recommend. That you are distracted is something that you will have to manage. One thought is to practice at a time when the two of you are not making love. Call it "lab work" for lack of a better idea.

When you do the lab work, don't make out, just cut to the chase--er penis if you will. Have him demonstrate how he masturbates, and then have him guide your hand with his over several of these sessions until you learn to mimic his unique and specific movements.

Each of us is responsible for your own orgasms. We do not give them away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve their own. To do so, we must duplicate the movements that each of us has come to rely upon over time. If we are off the mark just a little, either the orgasm will not happen, or if it does, it won't be as expected.

Pressure is not always a necessity. If you are unable to squeeze the shaft hard enough to suit him, then take the opposite tact--liberally lubricate his penis and use very little if any pressure. Both tactics work wonders.

How hard is "hard"? Well, ask him. The nerves in the penis are responsive to pressure. You cannot squeeze too hard by hand, only pinching hurts.

In addition to learning how to mimic his movements, I suggest learning where his hot spots are. The number 1 hotspot is the Frenulum {Y-shape ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). Rub this when he is at the brink and an orgasm will immediately follow. He probably has one or more other hotspots distributed around the Corona Rim. Ask him where these are and then rub them with a moist/lubricated finger, taking your cues for what what works from his reactions.

Although not considered "hotspots" per se, rubbing along the urethra and one or the other sides of the shaft will often quickly build his excitement and tension.

Continue to work together and plan these sessions when you are not in a randy mood. Doing so will help keep you from being distracted. He doesn't need the kissing and caressing to get it on, so this is a great way to practice. Once you get his movements down then use them when you are in the heat of the moment and all should work out. Good luck. Got questions?