Male Anal & Prostate 101

[Farlon42]

Guy here very curious about this prostate stuff an im seeming to have troubles finding it. is this prostate thing a hoax >.< Grrrr iv used so much vegtable oil tryin to find this thing. i know its suposidly a walnut sized gland that you can find if you crock your finger in a come hither motion twoards the front of your body and ive "come hithered" all the way over my rectal cavity! a lil help here plz

[spellbound]

Hmm...Maybe I should have read this before I posted a topic about the male G-spot. LOL. But there seems to be mixed feelings about the whole anal stimulation thing for guys and girls.

I, personally, do not mind anal play. It kind of happened on accident, after my man "slipped" and OMG it hurt something terrible. He was soo excited after that and kept talking about how he would love to try it. He's an ass man. So we talked about it. Using a condom was an absolute must. But in order for a woman to enjoy it thoroughly, there has to be a huge amount of trust in her partner and LOTS of communication both before and during. He was quite gentle and kept asking me if it hurt, which it did at first; but felt much better after I got my vibrator out. OMG it was great. We do it every once in a while, but never spur of the moment. It's always something that we discuss doing before, as preparation is essential for hygenic reasons.

As for him, hmm...this has been a topic that HE actually brought up. I do stimulate his prostate via his perineum during BJs and he has said that I give the best head ever..HEHEHE. So, I went out, purchased some small anal beads and am waiting for the right time to try them. He is just as excited as I am. I don't necessarily find the act of anal play a HUGE turn-on. But what does turn me on is the idea that I can give him a mind blowing orgasm..to reciprocate the mind blowing orgasms he gives me.

The biggest thing I can stress whether you are giving or receiving is lots of commuincation. If you don't like it, don't try it. Educate yourself. Sex is not merely an act..the more you know and understand, the better you will be at performing and that works both ways.

[clare33]

I want to try exploring that with my boyfriend. he's acting like he wouldn't want it, you know the typical guy act. ugh

[fenceguy]

Anal play is awesome..........feels great. I'm a bi-guy and love it from men as well as women....You just have to get over the "gay" thing and enjoy the feeling......Great orgasms!

[southern_guy]

I agree, it's great! I seem to cum a lot harder when her finger is playing around back there. She brought it up one night without asking, and I have loved it ever sense.

[GenXwife]

I stimulated my husband's prostate one night in bed- I was sucking him off and I put my finger in there, about 2 inches and kept stroking it.

He was moaning like I've never heard before, he LOVED it. When he ejaculated, he held my head down and so much cum was coming out I was unable to swallow it all and it was leaking out the sides of my mouth.
The squirts seemed like they were never going to stop.
My face all around my mouth was wet with semen, and he was VERY satisfied!

[wildgirl87]

with anal.... take things slow with plenty of lube.

i finger my clit at the same time, man i get the most amazing rush

[Lackadaisical]

My boyfriend is VERY against anything around his ass at all, I'm guessing for embarassment issues, maybe? I don't know...it's just his only no-no, so I try to behave and puch the boundaries a little bit at the same time. I guess I just wonder why guys can be hesitant to try something, cuz I would LOVE to find out if that will make his orgasms even better....it's my favourite thing.

[katiebug]

Originally Posted by Lackadaisical

My boyfriend is VERY against anything around his ass at all, I'm guessing for embarassment issues, maybe? I don't know...it's just his only no-no, so I try to behave and puch the boundaries a little bit at the same time. I guess I just wonder why guys can be hesitant to try something, cuz I would LOVE to find out if that will make his orgasms even better....it's my favourite thing.

I wonder the same thing. My BF doesn't want me to touch him anywhere near there either. In fact, every guy I have ever been with has cringed at the very thought of any kind of anal stimulation and refuses to let me do it. To be honest I am very curious and have always wanted to try it, I am not shy with exploring and wouldn't mind doing it for him to find out if he would really like it. But he keeps saying no. It's disappointing to me! I think for my BF it's embarassment issues - he keeps saying it's "dirty" and he doesn't want my hands/fingers to be "messy" or to gross me out. But I told him, as long as he washes well (which I know he does) and doesn't feel the need to go to the bathroom at that moment he should be fine. I let him do anal on me and it's never messy - so why would it be messy for me to do it to him? I assume anatomy for guys and girls is the same there. It's the only thing he absolutely WON'T do (and rimming) and I guess I just wish he'd be more open to at least trying it. How can you know you really don't like it if you never try it?

[pk91]

I am really interested in trying this, but have no idea how to approch it. That is to say, what do I do specifically? Any ideas? My wife is interested as well, but again, we are clueless.