Male Anal & Prostate 101

[oberon]

As a gay male I find all the hoopla about this topic somewhat amusing. *Most of the trouble seems to stem from misinformation and sociological ideals.

Anal sex does not "make" anyone gay.

Normally the rectum is free of fecal matter; however, a warm water enema beforehand can make certain and make the participants a little more comfortable with the idea. *It also has the advantage of "warming things up".

The "well lubricated" finger is most important, but as important is to remember to go slowly-especially for someone unuse to this experience. *Half steps and retreat, a little deeper over time. *The more relaxed you are with your partner the easier all of this is. *You can always work up to more fingers, and deeper insertion if you find you enjoy anal stimulation.

The MOST important thing to remember is that if you truly don't enjoy anal play- DON'T DO IT. *Believe it or not, there are gay men who don't enjoy it- the whole "you're not putting anything 'in there'" attitude. *Sex is suppose to be fun, and if what you are doing isn't, change what you are doing.

[Tessie]

My hubby has wanted this forever and I know it and still I resit going there. I don't know what it is. He is extremely clean and we have a very open sex life so I don't know what it is that holds me back from doing it. Well I do sort of think its gross. I think its gross if he wants to do it to me. Although I can give into that easier then me.

I want to open up more sexually and this has really been bugging me. Maybe its not knowing what to do or for how long to do it. It is the last virgin territory that we haven't really done, so to speak.

Any advice?

[TexasGuy]

Two years ago I would have said it sounded disgusting, but now I have to tell you that we both love and engage in it about 20% of the time we make love. Nothing too major, mind you, and never very deep... a well-lubed finger or two, or maybe just the tip of the head of my penis or a vibrator. The sensation, once you get over the initial hesitation, is intense and really adds to an orgasm.

My wife did let me try f***ing her in her ass once a few years ago, but it hurt her too much and so we stopped right away.

But like the other person said, you have to do it in small increments... a little in, a little out, a little more in, etc.

So c'mon, Tess... try it, you'll like it! Break that last frontier!!

[Tessie]

LOL ok TexasGuy I might just give it try. I would love to really surprise him and blow his mind.

My natural tendencey is to be submissive and he just loves it if I go against myself and be bold and aggressive.

Nothing more fun then doing something that he never thought I would do.

[duckie]

Tessie I'd have to say that I feel the same way. I'm curious but maybe subcontiously a little grossed out and also affraid that it'll hurt). Maybe I might of thought about it more before going through labor but now it just may hurt more than I would like. Maybe it's all in my imagination. I'm pretty well open to lots of things and open in our sex life. Just not sure if this is one area I will be or not.

[Engulfed]

Not to freak any of you out but I'm married and quite straight and find anal stimulation quite intriguing. I go as far as finding certain things to penetrate with. Maybe looking with a little more patience when in the produce isle.

I've never been comfortable with sharing information like this but I don't understand why I feel so compelled to do these things. I mean, just the simple thought of it really turns me on.

I like to do it myself and have never told my wife about it. I think that it would freak her out. But yes, I find it quite stimulating.

[oberon]

Tessie, I'm a little confused (at least act surprised!). You don't want anal performed on you, or you don't want to do it to him?

If the latter, I can suggest a few thing to make it more comfortable for you. *First, as I said in a previous post, a warm water enema beforehand can make sure everything is nice and clean (I mean, after all, you women have to douche, too, right?) *You can also use latex gloves- sort of a condom for the hand. *One more thing: dildos come in all sizes, so you might get a few and use those. *Some women even like using a strap-on- they actually get to experience being the "dominant" partner. *The longer two headed variety can even be used on both of you at once.

The most important thing to remember is have fun. *If it's not fun, then don't do it.

[lilly2279]

I got all kinds of experience with this when I was seeing a guy who was VERY into it! Had his own toys and everything. I actually got very turned on doing it with him. I made a kind of strap-on out of a very slim dildo and a pair of thong panties. lol. Yeah, I didn't feel like paying $40 for the harness and it worked great! I gently slid it in, with plenty of lube and working up to it. Once we got going, I reached around and stroked his cock. Ohhh, man. I got so turned on because he was moaning and bucking so much! it can be very very fun with a willing partner and open minds on both parts.

[flexx76]

It was one of my first girlfriends that introduced me to it. One day when she was on top, she started to play with a finger...yummy it tickled in a nice way. Just before I came, she had it 2 inches up and was rotating and wiggling it. I had the best orgasm. My "new" girfriend was quite sceptical about it in the beginnig, but got used to it. It was actually her idea to get a strap-on. That on the other side, was a bit harder for me to feel comfortable around as a straight male. But trust me, it's a thing you'll love being used to!
But get on top of your guy, an just as he is about to come, press a finger (lubed) about 2 inches in, and rotate...

[str8downtheline]

That is sick, sick, sick, sick, sick. There is no way in hell anyone is sticking anything up my arse. Mother nature did not intend for someones anus to have things in it.

If someone did this to me I would immediately leave them. A working vagina should be pleasure enough. Without resorting to something as sick as this.

Who the hell thought this up?? They need psychiatric help.

Im not sticking my finger or anything up anyones bum. Thats just sick dude.