Male Anal & Prostate 101

[SexySlave]

Hi i am new to the forums but i have a question? Me and my wife have tried anal play a few times. I do enjoy my wife violating my anus and it intensified my climax. Now she is afraid that i am gay. I explained to her that i was not gay. That she would be surprised at how many men actually enjoy their wife or girlfriend inserting a finger into his anus. That it was more common than she thought.
My question is:
How do i explain to or show her how common it is?

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. Clicking on the site's Home page will provide even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read the following articles:

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

As for how popular the activity is, use your favorite internet search engine and ask. You can also go to a local adult store or seach on line for sex toys and dildos. Click on the site's Home page for more information, also.

Anal play can range between fingering outside and just inside the anus for both genders, to prostate massage for for guys, to inserting dildos, to intercourse.

Being "Gay" is all about sexual attraction, not what form of stimulation is found to be pleasurable.

[Luckyman]

I am a male in my late 20's and have an amazing gf of just over two years now. We have a great sex life and im very happy with her. A wile back she introduced me to anal sex wich we both enjoy. Eventually she expressed interest in anal play with me. She started with just using one finger on me and then upgraded to two fingers. It was scary at first and it took a lot of trust but I did enjoy it. It took me some time but I started to relax and understand that me liking this did not make me gay and there was nothing wrong with enjoying anal stimulation. As I began to get more comfortable with it she started using toys on me wich also felt good. We have a strap on that is designed for me to use on her for double penatration wich she likes from time to time. Its really hot by the way. Anyway, I opeaned up one day and asked if she would ever like to use the strap on to do me in the ass. She seemed very excited by the idea. We just tryed it for the first time the other night and it was incredible. She pounded my ass for at least a half hour. We started out in the doggy style position and tryed a bunch of other positions after that. After a wile she really got the rhythm of it and I would back myself up onto the dildo as she rode me to let her know how into it I was. I loved every second of it and she really enjoyed the power of the role reversal. She had the biggest smile on her face. It was great. We will definitely be doing that again.

[ClosetFreak]

Absolutely wonderful forum/web site. I have found this very interesting and informative thank you to every one who has posted comments/ideas.

I am a strait guy and have been married 13 years now and when my wife and I first got together I was very taboo about the anal region on both of us. This forum topic has made me curious and we have started talking about exploring our sex life further.

My 2 cents: If a guy has an intament sexual experience with his wife that involves the anus this dose not make you homosexual. If you are comfortable with her and this is pleasing to you both then you should be ok with it. Don't let your ignorance hinder your sex life. You have a limitless amount of information at the click of your mouse. USE IT!

[selfsuckcuri]

Just try to convince her that that is normal

[Deviantdesire]

My Boyfriend says " I know i have a g Spot up there and i like it. So i want it"
But my ex despised the thought of anal. Depends on the guy to be honest.

[LivvyxBaby]

Ive had anal done to me and at first it hurt but it's so hot to me and my boyfriend loves doing it. He likes to get rough [but not to rough that it hurts I must add] but it's just an amazing feeling. Actually that was how I lost my virginity. He would usually just rub the tip of his penis on my ass but then one night he pushed and he was in and then we had sex for the first time.

[YippieSkip]

D- are you giving or recieving?

I love anal, but my boy won't even try it. he'll do it to me, but I dn't get to reciprocate.

[sehyma]

Originally Posted by Jen

I've tried anal intercourse once with a relatively large partner. It wasn't the most pleasing experience, but neither was sex the first few times.... I haven't tried it since, but I love the expression on a guys face when I am giving head and surprise them with something they've never had...

One partner had some issues over it, he liked it very much, but thought that it was a homosexual thing... It took a little while until he was fully comfortable with the topic, and it taught me really quickly to raise the issue more delicately.....

and what do you&your partner think about analingus?

[Thonger]

For all you guys who are afraid that you're gay if your g/f gives you anal sex, get over it. That is the most ridiculous thing in the world. You have no idea what you're missing. Receiving anal is one of the most intense sexual pleasures you will ever receive. If you have a g/f willing to do it to you, you don't realize how lucky you are. That includes all anal - a finger up your ass, a strap on dildo being wielded by your loving g/f, or best of all a wet squirmy tongue rimming your ass! I go absolutely nuts when I feel a tongue licking me there. For me, it truly is the most intense pleasure I've ever felt.

For you ladies who are wanting to do it to your guy, good for you. The world needs more ladies like you. Like everyone says, just start gently and use your finger with lots of lube. Wear a finger cot or condom if you're afraid of getting your finger dirty or if your nails are long. Bathe or shower together and then rim his ass. If he's not a willing participant, try some b&d and rim him. He won't be able to get away and he'll learn how pleasurable this is. Once he figures it out, he'll be begging you for it! When you graduate to a strap on, start with a smaller taper shaped dildo. The tapered shape will go into his ass easier. If he feels discomfort, you don't have to go all the way in and just f* him with the tip of it.

If your guy gives you anal but won't let you do him, then make a deal with him to allow you to do him or cut him off. It's only fair to receive if he's giving too, right? If he absolutely refuses to have an open mind about it, it really is his loss because he'll never experience the pleasure he's missing. As for me, I can't get enough!