Male Anal & Prostate 101

[DVDBear]

Originally Posted by CuriousChris

my gf and i have recently discussed this. While we are both bi and have experienced both sexes, I myself have never had anal sex. Hence why I am here. Im embarrass to ask this, which is strange. Do i have to, uh, clean it out? I know to take a shower, but i mean internally. I apologise if this seems immature. I am very serious though.

If you think you're clean, you probably are. When you're in the shower you can take a little lube on your finger and check just to make sure. Personally I usually rinse with one of those Fleet-type enema bottles that I've emptied out and filled with warm tap water. If the water comes back clean I'm good to go. If not another one or two rinses takes care of the problem. Don't over do it though . . . . You really shouldn't need any more fluid than that, you only want to clean the lower part of the colon. If too much water is introduced you might not expel it all and that can cause more mess than what you're trying to prevent. Even with that precaution there's no guarantee there won't be residue, but it should be minimal.

[lbh1971]

My husband has been trying to get me to try this for years. I finally agreed to just using his finger. I can't tell you how great this feels but I often get the sensation to tighten. Can anyone tell me what to do to relax?

[Forgotten love]

Alright I have never done the whole anal thing, and my boyfriend and I decided to try it on eachother. Well at first it hurt of course, but then I kinda got used to it. doesnt really do much for me, but he really liked it. So i wanted to see if he would like it. So I tried to stick my finger in his anal, and I am not sure if he liked it, but mostly I dont think i did it right. Please help, cause i want to try it again and really WOW him!!! Also can a man really reach an orgasim through the prostate?

[DVDBear]

Yeah, a man can orgasm through prostate massage alone, but it's rare. If you do a search here on prostate massage there's probably lots of information, as well as the rest of the internet. Wikipedia's got a decent page on it. It's helpful if you can find some good anatomical graphics so you have an idea what you're looking for and where to find it. And finally be gentle, make sure you've trimmed your fingernails and/or using gloves and DON'T JAB OR POKE! That will get him "off", but not in the way you or he will like!

[Ommi1000]

this HAS to be tried. My woman got this for me a while back but for some reason what happened the other night didn't happen straight away.

I had intense FULL BODY orgasms. My body shuddered uncontrollably, jerked and bounced around the bed, my eyes rolled up into my head and my toes took on a curling/ twitching life of thier own. And this was NOT a penile orgasm.

Eventually my partner (whose eyes were popping out of her head) grabbed my dick (which was rock solid and leaking tons of precum) and I had massive gushing ejaculatory orgasm.

I'm not sure why this didn't happen before - maybe I was more relaxed this time or more comfortable with it but all I can say is that I had NO idea a man could experience this.

[DVDBear]

God, sounds closer to a stroke than an orgasm! LOL! But actually what you experienced is not unique. There's a "toy" out there made by a company called Aneros, I believe (you can Google it). They've made this prostate orgasm a fine art. There's lots of testimonials from guys who've experienced what you described almost exactly. I've bought the massager (it's expensive considering it's just a piece of plastic) and have used it. I found it pleasureable but never really got that close to orgasm. Maybe I'm too impatient or something.

[Ommi1000]

It was the aneros if you look at the title of my post

The reason it was weird was because it was so unexpected. I've tried it a fair few times and got nowhere near achieiving this. Then suddenly BANG - I went completely crazy. It has made me completely rethink what a man can go through sexually.

I've had big orgasms before but I've never before succumbed and lost control so completely.

[DVDBear]

Oh sorry . . . . . . I missed that. Well, another satisfied curstomer then. I'll have to keep using mine and see if I can get that kind of reaction.

[Passionate Man]

I've recently discovered prostate stimulation, and am starting to love it (I admit it!) I find myself opening up and wanting more and more stimulation. I was suprised that, as a man, the desire to be penetrated in a sexual way (although it helps for me to be really horny first).

I'm wondering if women enjoy making their man hot this way. The posts so far seem to indicate that they do it to please their partners, but I'm wondering if some women get off on penetrating their guy ... experiencing the "male" role for a change?

Passionate Man

[DVDBear]

Interestingly, Dan Savage ("Savage Love") has a column dealing with this subject this week. Evidently it's even gotten the nickname "pegging" (as in strapping on).

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove

I've an admitted bias in being gay, but I've always said if guys could lose the preconceptions that having something stuck up their ass to massage their prostate is "homosexual" a lot more of them would find out about it and enjoy the sensation.