Male Anal & Prostate 101

[Caitlain]

Originally Posted by bruins76

I just want to share something since I can't stop thinking about it.

I've been w/ my DH for over 2 years, I LOVE anal play on me when we are being intimate. I've said MANY times how much I've wanted to "return" the favor on him & he'd always say "no way, no how, don't ever think of it"...

Well... he has changed his mind. When I give him blow-jobs I started to lick/suck his balls...and slightly touch his prostate while doing this. Wow...he has changed his idea on that one. Not only does he lift his bottom up more for me to "get to that area" the other day he finally said out-loud "play & lick my ass"...HOLY SH*T! I almost died, it was such a turn on that he finally allowed me to do that to him. I want to do it again & again & again.

Sooo...if you are trying to get your man to do "that" or want "that" then I'd suggest doing something similar to get him to want that like mine did. For 2 year's he's been saying that his "area" (anal) was off limits cause he didn't "swing" that way, homephobic, anyways...he's finally realized (from my good touch/tongue) that enjoying anal/prostate play doesn't mean that you are "gay", it just means that you are normal & holly cow, it feels freaking great!

I just had to add this story here cause as I said I've wanted to explore this on him for 2+ years & now that he's allowed me too, it's takin' our sexual relationship to a whole new level, it turns me on just thinking about it. In fact I think I may have to double click "my" mouse before I head out the door this morning (we're renovating our dream home & he's not here to play w/ me)...that's okay though

Good job! That's neat.

[LastCallCasualty13]

What is the size a typical man's anus can handle? I know everybody's body is different, but my girlfriend and I have been curious about experimenting, and are wondering. Any ideas?

[little_me]

i was just readin a few of these posts last night, we my gf gave me a bj she tickled round the back, i guess she thought i wanted her to do it cos i was quite interested in the posts, i didnt mind it at all, actually felt quite good, we never insterted anythin, just tickled the entrance a bit.

wen i had a wank today she helped out and again tickled the entrance, she applied quite a bit of pressure but didnt go in, wen i came it was really good, we prob will goin at some point but i dunno wen, imean am not against it or anythin, dont like the idea of toy gon in but hey... iv got the rest of my life am only 18 who knows wot we'll do eventually lol.

id say guys should try at least ticklin the entrance a bit then maybe takin it further

[bruins76]

Everyone's different but it's all about how aroused you are, cause if you are uncomfortable, your anal muscles will tighten & then it will hurt. You need to be 100% comfortable, make sure you are clean down there too, & apply a little bit of pressure, massage the anus if you will, use lub, lots of it if you want to insert anything AND if you have nails (ladies) make sure you cut them down all the way OR put cotton balls on them & then use gloves so that it's a soft insertion. I know if my man fingers me & has nails at all, it hurts/scratches so you don't want to do that to him either.

As far as plugs or dildos...I have yet to try that on my guy. My next "adventure" is to insert my fingers & massage his prostate, I guess it's suppose to do wonders. They "say" that if the man is on his back & you are inserting your fingers, make the "come here" motion w/ your finger as if to tickle him upwards. They say it makes a guy go crazy. I know that this morning when we had some BD/sex I touched his prostate from the outside a lot & boy oh boy was he hard in like a second, didn't take long.

There is a place on this site (sexinfo101.com) that explains a mans places for getting hot & so far they are on the money cause everytime I've tried them it's been successful. My next step is to have "him" become more adventerous.

He's always telling me "I'm old" or "I'm tired"...meanwhile I am hot & heavy for him ALL the time, especially when I am pregnant (which we are TTC)...lots of blood in that area when you're preggers. Any who... when my DH said "I grew old" as his reasons for only wanting sex every week or every other week I looked right at him and said "you're full of it! I know plenty of men (referring to others I've been w/, male friends & older men who post on this board) that want sex all the time & it's usually the gal that is pushing away"... It's all over TV too, they say men think about sex all the time, they want it all the time. Then they make jokes about it on sitcoms all the time on how much a man wants his wife to "make love" to him. Meanwhile my guy falls to sleep in like a second & RARELY to we have nighttime sex, that's like I can count on 1 hand how many time's that's happened.

During the day, rarely...and not cause of the kids, b/c "he's tired"...it sucks, really does. I "double click my mouse" a lot, watch lots of porn & try to take care of business b/c I am done "asking" cause I feel like am begging for sex at this point & it's not good for one's ego. On the other hand...like this morning he came a little on the quicker side & I said "if we did this more often you wouldn't have this problem"... now I don't think he should use me for sex daily (although I would have no objection to that) but at least a couple of times per week would be nice, not every 7-14 days crap, it sucks! I am surprised that I ever became pregnant since we do it so little.

Sorry, going off on another topic here. I guess what I am trying to say is that when you're comfy enough w/ a person (man/gal) doing it all, anal, what ever is great, if you do it the RIGHT way. I wouldn't recommend doing that sort of thing w/ someone you just started dating or didn't get the "okay" sign from the person to go that "route"... I wish I could have more anal sex w/ my man but to be frank, he's too big, we've tried many times & it hurts like hell & I end up bleeding, it's horrible. I know I am capable of having anal sex & enjoying it as I've done in the past w/ another partner & it was amazing, but again...now I am so freaking paranoid about him doing anal sex w/ me I think I tense up immediately in fear of the pain, I am probably making it worst than it needs to be.

Oh well.... happy anal play!

[osundayo]

ive tried it

i say my bfs penis hurt when it went up my anus

alot

but when he put his finger up

it felt so damn good

i think it depends on who likes the idea of doing that

and the penis size

[shaved bi]

Anal sex is my favorite! When a cock or dildo rubs my prostate, I really get turned on. I often wear a butt plug for hours.

[kaileyC]

Hi every one im new to this sight.

I have had anal sex with two guys, i was never exactly grossed out by doing but not really that keen to do it just i suppose a bit curious as ill try anything once. I met this guy we'd been together for a couple of months until he told me his ultimate fantasy was to have anal sex with a girl so after a lot of ky we tried it and he loved it and i agree with all you girls it does seriously hurt at first cos its really hard to relax cos as soon as it hurts you tense up and the muscles in your arse are really strong and tight so when you tense it can really hurt both of you so you just have to be really slow and STAY RELAXED but i found if he stroked my clit at the same time it relaxed me and then it feels great.
So anyway with a new guy now who i love loads which makes such a difference cos we're so comfortable talking bout things but straight away he said it was a definite no go area and got a bit annoyed so i didnt mention it for a while until we had anal sex which he loved so i mentioned fingering him but again a no go area but he loves playing with my arse so i thought he'd like it back finally last night whilst licking and sucking his balls i slipped a finger near his arse and i could tell he really liked it but he told me to stop and said he didint want it so again went back to what i was doing and stroked just under his balls which he loved so slipped them down a bit again i could tell he really liked it he just wouldnt relax and enjoy just kept saying it was gay so i just firmly told him to relax open his legs and took it really slow i didint put my finger inside as i know from personal experience he's got to be relaxed and comfortable with it, so i just stroked round his arse and applied light pressure as i sucked his cock and he loved it he said afterwards how shocked he was how amazin but different it felt, so this wknd we'l go all the way but i wanted some help for once your in there is it similar to a girls arse so should i do similar to what i would do to myself? i think im so keen to do it to him cos its the only thing really similar in sex like foreplay obviously feels very different for a male than it feels to a girl but if you both finger each others arses i guess it must feel quite similar so its easyier to relate to each others pleasure if you get what i mean and also it feels a bit naughty which is such a turn on to me!

Sorry my first post is so long!!

[stephwinny]

i got to 40 without anal sex and tried it and love it as long as your partner is patient and you just take it slowly and please plenty of lubrication without it dont even attempt it now we are trying it in all different positions and we both find it so intense he likes having his anus liked and poked with the tongue i want to go further but am approaching it slowy but i know that once he lets me play he will love it

[CuriousChris]

my gf and i have recently discussed this. While we are both bi and have experienced both sexes, I myself have never had anal sex. Hence why I am here. Im embarrass to ask this, which is strange. Do i have to, uh, clean it out? I know to take a shower, but i mean internally. I apologise if this seems immature. I am very serious though.

[CuriousChris]

my gf and i have recently discussed this. While we are both bi and have experienced both sexes, I myself have never had anal sex. Hence why I am here. Im embarrass to ask this, which is strange. Do i have to, uh, clean it out? I know to take a shower, but i mean internally. I apologise if this seems immature. I am very serious though.