Male Anal & Prostate 101

[Turboshandy]

the key to it is lube lube lube!!.

its not something u can jump straight into

in my opinion you need at least 30 mins of heavy petting before even entertaining the idea. because even if you feel you are ready your anus has a mind of its own!!

start with fingers working on depth this will help 'loosen'
for him i usually use my middle finger slowly working up to my 7'' smooth (has to be smooth) vibrator.

I know there are a few peopl out there who freak at the prospect of clenliness. as long as they have had a good poo that day at least 2 hours before your experimentation and a shower everything should be fine. but go into it with an open mind. accidents can and have happened. not necissarily(sp) mess everywhere but sometimes you do encounter residue. this is totally unavoidable unless you use a douche which i find is less hygeinic than not using a douche. as it laves the area damp and prone to infections. also it takes the spontianety out of it.

Not to mention farts (lol) this will happen but to be honest when ur poking things up someones bum then what do u expect.. do what we do... just laugh!. sex is meant to be fun anyway.

Good luck !!

[Katied]

Well, I am trying to learn about this entire topic now.

I want to try prostate stimulation, but I am afraid that my fingernail will hurt him.

I would like a 'how-to' on this topic. Also, do I have to cut my nails really short? they aren't long now (just past the tip of my finger) is this a problem?

[prettybee]

hey, my sex patner has asked me to lick his anal area, iv have said no beacuse i have never done it before.... but i want to.... as for the finger i am thinking of doing this next time.

BUT.... i have fake nails.... do i have to cut one???? can some one tell me??? please.... also he has said to me his butt is clean, but im still afraid to use my tounge... any suggestions to hint to him to ask if it is really that clean..... and how long does it take for a guy to cum stimulating the prostate with your finger as he lasts pretty long during sex.

[Angelic]

Wow I never knew there was this much information out there!!
I was looking for some information about anal play as lately i have been having the urge to use a finger with my boy friend!
He wasn't too thrilled when I brought up the idea but slowly agreed (always ready to try something new) but he says he didnt enjoy it so I haven't pushed it but i thought perhaps I was doing something wrong or if i ever got the chance to do it again i could do something to make it better for him although after reading the fantastic information in this site i have decided that him being uncomfortable was probably due to him being nervous and cleanching.

[Sumimasen]

Originally Posted by prettybee

BUT.... i have fake nails.... do i have to cut one???? can some one tell me??? please.... also he has said to me his butt is clean, but im still afraid to use my tounge... any suggestions to hint to him to ask if it is really that clean..... and how long does it take for a guy to cum stimulating the prostate with your finger as he lasts pretty long during sex.

Well, my gf has short nails so I can't talk from experience, but something tells me that very long nails might be a bad idea ^^

As for time, it depends from guy to guy. I personally don't feel that much but another guy will go trough the roof.

[Tommyhot]

I'm new here as of today. I LOVE anal play!

Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..

The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
Anal play for beginners

Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!

The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.

[oldkinky]

My wife always uses an anal toy on me while she gives me a blowjob. Really intensifies my orgasm. The Toys we use are: Spectragels Anal Tool, Anal T, Anal E-Z Bend and Anal Beads.

[newbieintexas]

My lover wants me to do massage his anal area and prostate...
Neither of us have ever done it and are very curious.
Should he get an enema before any suggestion on a good toy to use as well
Thanks

[dancingdoc2]

I do not believe an enema is called for. Just go to the bathroom sometime beforehand. Also, bathe the area when expecting to play around there. Bathing just makes good sense anytime the two of you plan on becoming intimate so one takes care of the other.

Before any fingers, before any toys, please read up on what I have had to say on the "how-to" of it. There is a right and a wrong way to introduce objects. There is also a right way for stimulating the various nerves of the anus and sphinters. As for fingernails, well, trim the one doing the probing!

Before playing with commercial toy products, I recommend using a finger for awhile. If you want to introduce a toy, why not start with a carrot stick, candle stick, English cuccumber, etc.? Once you are accustomed to objects other than a finger, then if you still want to experiment with actual dildos, just visit an adult store in your area or on line and choose something of interest that is not hugh in size. There are all sorts of toys from Ben-Wa balls (vagina only) to beads to plugs, to penis shaped devices and vibrators in various forms. Whatever captures your interst should be fine. Whatever you purchase to insert, make certain that you insert a well lubricated finger first in order to precondition the sphincters to accept something going the wrong way. The toy should also be very well lubricated! Always use gentle pressure to insert an object. Never ever use force or shove or jab.

[Caitlain]

Originally Posted by newbieintexas

My lover wants me to do massage his anal area and prostate...
Neither of us have ever done it and are very curious.
Should he get an enema before any suggestion on a good toy to use as well
Thanks

In additon to the good Doc's information, I jave a page that has some information about how to do that (along with a short video on the subject) at

http://www.caitlainscorner.com/13/sex/sex_aspot.html

I agree that an enema is certainly not necessary, generally speaking. As long as he doesn't feel like he will be needing to go to the bathroom, there shouldn't be anything in there. You might have a towel handy just in case, though.