I do not understand your sentence on "deems us unable...."

If that is saying he is functional when there is not possibility of pregnancy, then he really does not want to be a father and the two of you should talk this out.

If I misunderstand that sentence, then he is simply aging and may need some help with erectile dysfunction. One of the three drugs we hear so much about could help. You two really need to learn to talk about this.

> You two really need to learn to talk about this.

Yes, indeed. Making love is not what one person does to another, it is what we do with and for each other. In short, it is a partnership.

Pick a quiet time when the two of you are not going to be romantic and then discuss the matter. Be very aware of his "fragile male ego". If his performance is not what it used to be in earlier years, he might be very aware of how things are changing and self conscious about his lesser abilities. Be careful how you approach the matter or you could shut him down.

I agree that he should be evaluated and perhaps put on one of the pills for ED.

> When I try to stimulate his penis he tells me I'm not doing it right. I have never had complaints with other male partners before and don't understand what the problem could be.

Woe! Let's not get hostile. If you have been reading my other posts then you already know the answer to this. If not, here it is, again. The act of stimulating each other by the mechanics of stroking a penis or fingering a clitoris is only part of the methodology required to satisfactorily bring our partner to the brink of and then into a climax. The second part is what I term the "fine art". During the first few weeks after we learn to masturbate each of us develops a unique pattern of rhythms, movements, tempo, and pressures, that when modulated by what we get from our own internal feedback is what we rely upon to arouse and trigger our orgasms. Each and every person has a specific and unique way of accomplishing this and while we may vary what we do from time to time for variety and spice, if we are off the mark a little we will either not achieve an orgasm or it will be somewhat less than desired.

It is important to know and understand that we do not give orgasms away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own orgasm.

In addition to talking things over about all this, I recommend that each of you demonstrate how you masturbate. Second, that each of you guide your partner's hand with your own several times in order to learn to mimic his/her movemements. Once you can do this you should have no trouble building each other's level of arousal and triggering a climax.

As a man ages the first thing to change are the number of orgasms he can experience in a day

The second things that usually wane are his spontaneous erections.

The third thing that happens is that erections don't just happen in response to initial arousal.

The fourth thing that happens is that for an erection to occur, the man must be both physically and emotionally aroused--and then, his flaccid penis stroked and manipulated until an erection happens.

All these things happen at different ages so you will have to ask your man where he is in the grand scheme of things. If he greets you with a flaccid or semi-erect penis then it behooves both of you to work on his level of arousal and to take matters into your own hands and/or mouth and work on him vigorously and passionately.

I understand your anger; now you have the tools to make your sex life and our satisfaction much better.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

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