Communicating during sex

[Threads Of Fantasy]

When I have sex I like to ask the girl what is pleasing her, and what she likes to have done to her, or what if I am doing feels good etc. Sometimes I feel right asking the girl but there's also times where I feel like I might come off as unsure of myself, or like I might not know what I am doing. I don't want to do something she isn't enjoying though. I also do follow the body language and read the non-verbal communication though, of course.



So does it bother a women if a guy is asking what feels good during sex? Is it a good or bad thing if I ask?

[Brandye]

Whilst inside me, it would be disconcerting. Wait until later and then ask/tell what was good and what could be improved. If it really rings her chimes, you will know it!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Please be advised that some women will say anything before, during, and afterwards, just to get you to shut up or go away. After all, no one likes the Inquisition. Constant asking is also a sign of insecurity.

But murmuring "mmmm you like that" while doing something that WORKS! for her - that is something else altogether. You can do that but not too often.

As always - be guided by her actions and reactions and leave the words for another time.

[Threads Of Fantasy]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Please be advised that some women will say anything before, during, and afterwards, just to get you to shut up or go away. After all, no one likes the Inquisition. Constant asking is also a sign of insecurity.

But murmuring "mmmm you like that" while doing something that WORKS! for her - that is something else altogether. You can do that but not too often.

As always - be guided by her actions and reactions and leave the words for another time.

That's what I usually do. I'll whisper things and while we're having sex ask if that feels good and if she likes what I am doing. I never ask too many questions.

All in all, I do get timid if I want to go into a certain position and I'm not sure if she'll like or comply with it. I guess you never know till you try though!

[EvilEvilKitten]

You will notice that what I used as an example is NOT a question.
Paying close attention will save you from having to ask any questions.
Being timid is a total turn-off so just 'assume' that she'll be interested but move on to doing something else should she decides No.
Take note of what she said No to and any pertinent circumstances; edit your process as you go along.

[dancingdoc2]

PLEASE READ THE ARTICLE LISTED IN THE INDEX PERTAINING TO "IMPLIED CONSENT", THEN INCORPORATE IT INTO WHAT YOU ARE DOING WITH AND FOR HER.

In fact, please read all of the articles. Knowledge is empowering.

[Brandye]

This thread demonstrates why I prefer women partners - we "just know" with each other.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Naah! Nothing's more absolutely attractive than the 'gravitas' of a fully-grown adult male!
Esp when he's beneath my paws.

[YippieSkip]

Brandye are those your boobs? Just wondering...

And I personally LOVE it when my boy asks if I like what he's doing. It gets him to talk, and his voice sounds SO sexy, and I have to respond, so I moan more. Just make sure you ask her in a sexy voice!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Pay close enough attention and you will not have to ask.

Become unbridled, ladies, and the question "do you like this" will never even arise.