too much pressure

[not_so_great_sex_lol]

my fwb (friend with benefits) plays with my clit way to hard..like he'll start putting pressure on it nd it feels great but then he gets harder nd it hurts nd i lose my momentum

[Browser]

Tell him to be gentle.

[dancingdoc2]

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Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. As a partnership, communication is key! You need to be able to talk to your partner about his technique and what works for you and how he is to mimic your technique. Explore and learn together!

There is information on how to not hurt your clitoris or over stimulate it when it becomes too sensitive to touch. Please read the articles listed in the Index.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by Browser

Tell him to be gentle.

Telling and showing are two different things. This is why we often go into such detail.

[Brandye]

Most men think of the clit as being too much like the penis. As discussed before, the penis is an overdeveloped clitoris, not the other way around. They tend to treat us as they would want to have the penis treated. A straight forward discussion with him, with the demonstration Doc recommends, is the best way to go.

Few men will even believe that we are capable of masturbation lying right beside them without their knowing. Tell him that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sweety, you have got to TELL him what, when, when, and how - and don't be shy about it. Show him if you have to - but NEVER hesitate to say OUCH! or whatever may be needed at any particular time.