Dating a lady in her 50's

[ziabis]

She is in her 50's and im in my 40's. The last time we had sex, I went for about 20 min and she came out and said i should stop, she was getting sore.
I want to be able to go longer. She feels really good inside and I don't want to have to stop every time just as im getting to really enjoy her.

What can I do to get our sexual encounters longer lasting?

[dancingdoc2]

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Much has been written in the articles and on the forums about this topic. Many women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired. So, what is a dude supposed to do with and for his dudette?

The answer is to begin intercourse after being invited inside, and only when she is ready--AND, WHEN YOU ARE VERY AROUSED AND NEAR THE POINT OF LOSING CONTROL. For whatever reason, many guys nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the way to their climax if from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking. WRONG. This is what all the making out is for--Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and then eventually Foreplay!

If one or both of you want to prolong intercourse, I recommend doing so in stages. Pull out, return to making out, then return to intercourse for a bit. Doing this you can easily continue your love making session for an hour or more--and enjoy multiple orgasms if desired. There is more on this topic in the Index, also.

Give this a try. Got questions?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Where is your lubricant? Women around this age begin to get a bit dry and this is solved by the judicious application of lubricants, so carry the bottle or lay it nearvy and drizzle some on as needed.

Please find and read a sticky post entitled The Program, then go and do it. It works and she will think you're the BEST lvoer EVER!

[mikkiji]

My 55 year old wife and I can go for an hour or more, on occasion, but lovemaking for that long does have to be with many changes in tempo and position. We need to stop about every 10 or 15 minutes to slow down or sometimes even stop--usually with me still inside, however, she seldom wants me to pull out unless the change in position requires it. In say, a 40 minute session, we might go through 4 different positions, and slow to near stillness for a few minutes perhaps 2 or 3 times. Otherwise going for that long is impossible.
Michael

[Alexxx]

And my girlfriend is against stopping during sex. Once I decided to stop to prevent my ejaculation, but she said that was awful because she almost had orgasm and I suddenly stopped.

[EvilEvilKitten]

That sounds odd, Alexx, I mean how were you to know? She could have made it obvious.

[Alexxx]

Unfortunately she doesn't think so

[EvilEvilKitten]

Try The Program - that might stimulate her into having more orgasms faster and more obviously. Besides that, a pause here and there (akin to teasing) cannot seriously hurt. She might then decide to tackle you instead and think how wonderful that would be!

[pinkFlames]

Originally Posted by ziabis

...I want to be able to go longer. She feels really good inside and I don't want to have to stop every time just as im getting to really enjoy her.

What can I do to get our sexual encounters longer lasting?

Maybe just laying still while joined together. I like to stop during sex and look at him, kiss his face, caress his chest and so on without thrusting. That way you can stay connected longer without getting sore.

[Brandye]

If you pump away in me (I am in my fifties) for twenty minutes, you will on the floor. Ten minutes is great; twenty is pushing it; and, thirty minutes of thrusting is just too much.

And, if you brought her off first, then five could be plenty od she may be able to tolerate more.