Sex drive

[calv]

I can only speak about our experiance to may be different with others

[sania]

Originally Posted by Blaze in time

Elaborate,well from what I can tell with my GF she's not interested In having sex very often, there are times when it's a few weeks inbetween when we do have sex....kinda a bummer for me,so I was just wondering are some wemon less interested or have less of a sex drive....

. We dont show that we are interested in sex with stranger. Otherwise, guys have lot of names for us. But sex drive has less relationship with gender. It is just the shyness to start with. But once hot you know what happens.
We also love intimacy. Dont thinks a girl as a set of holes. We have a heart and brain. The more you love the more we give, eventhough we dont like some of it.

[vixen74]

I think that is incorrect.Plenty of women , myself included have a very very high sex drive. Many things can affect whether a women wants to have sex or not eg stress, family, pms, tiredness, headache's.There could be a million reasons. Have you actually spoken about this with her? There could be an underlying reason such as sexual abuse. Some people just are not interested in sex as others.Talk to her.I have found as I have gotten older my sex drive has increased a LOT!

[Blaze in time]

I try and talk to her and when I do often her reapons is something like I just don't feel like it right now....

[calv]

Originally Posted by vixen74

I have found as I have gotten older my sex drive has increased a LOT!

i agree the wifes sex drive has and still is increasing

[lnt1103]

Originally Posted by Blaze in time

I try and talk to her and when I do often her reapons is something like I just don't feel like it right now....

From the way you quote her response, I'm guessing you only try to talk to her about it when you're laying in bed and she just refused you. No offense, but that's not a CONVERSATION about why not, it's PRESSURE to change her mind and perform. There's a difference.

Have a CONVERSATION with her. As in, talk to her about it when sex is NOT on the actual agenda for the day. This is not an attempt to get into her pants within the next half hour (which is precisely how you come across when you try to have this conversation right after you asked and she said no). This is working together, discussing possible problems/issues/opinions/mindsets, and finding out what if anything you can do to help.

Do you see the difference there? You need to make sex the longer term goal, and put it on the back burner for the moment in favor of the shorter term goal of understanding what's in her mind and what's holding her back. Think with the head that sits on your shoulders, instead of the one below your belt. The latter will get its turn to work once the former has done its job.

[Blaze in time]

Hahah that does make sence for sure,I'll keep that in mind and for sure try it that way instead...

[EvilEvilKitten]

If she's NOT interested, then she's not interested and there's an end to that.

But still TALK WITH her about her views and policies regarding sex because sex and sex drives begin in the brain.

[Blaze in time]

I understand that what she does or doesn't want is how it is....we tend to talk about sex,I ask her what she's did and didn't like,I have learned something about her that way..

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, not does she like this or that - pfft! No ask her what she thinks sex is for, how important sex is to her, and why; those sorts of things. How about her kids, what would she teach them about sex?