Does this seem unfair?

[fitzas]

Last night after I gave my boyfriend oral sex I was feeling rather horny myself so asked if he could return the favour, his response was he was to tired. Lately we never seem to have sex during the week but alot of the time i'll give him a blow job eaither because he asked me or i'll do it because I know it makes him feel good.

He has never returned the favour or offered to give me oral just for the sake of it so I asked him and all he said was after he cums hes to tired or he just wants to sleep. He will only give me oral if we have sex.

I cant help but feel a little cheatd here

[whyyknott]

Yes, I think this is unfair. I love to give my girl oral and many times I give her oral and never get the return action. But this is fine with me. If I ask her she will give me oral. Sorry he is such a deadbeat boyfriend.

[Niker411]

ask him to do it first alot of times after the guy cuns he becomes tired so ask him to do it first

[lnt1103]

Guys seem to take a little longer to recover than we do. This is especially true if the second round is going to mean him coming again--his body needs time to rebuild its supply.

T almost always helps me first. Even when he's the one that started out horny, after I start on him he'll decide to 'interrupt' and pleasure me first. And he knows that afterward, I'll kiss him and a couple other simple things while I take a minute to recover, but then he'll get his turn.

Try the 'me first' tactic. It would seem only fair. If it doesn't work, you have other things to discuss.

[Brandye]

His endorphins wiped him out. Good reason for "Ladies First." Until he shapes up, no more bj's for him.

[LustyLisa]

Yes, it's unfair and I'm with Brandye, since he has never reciprocated, he needs a taste of what doing without feels like! Since he enjoys your oral efforts he's already quite aware of the pleasurable feelings that oral provides and it's exceedly selfish that he has never-not once-suggested a ladies first encounter so that you are satified sometimes too.
I wouldn't say a thing but wait until he asks for a BJ, then announce that all oral favors have suspended untill the oral blessings are bestowed equitably and fairly. He doesn't get oral sex unless you get oral sex 1st.

[funinthesun]

There's also just forcing himself to get up and walk around and shake a leg. Getting the blood moving around his body will wake him back up, even if it is very hard to get up in the first place. He shouldn't complain, because if he wakes back up, he can just go again!!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfair is the wrong word for what he's doing. He is being SELFISH. And YOU are letting him get away with it. No need for further discussion at this point. What you should do now is - STOP giving him any fellatio. None. No more. Nada. Don't say anything just stop doing it. If he asks change the subject until YOU are ready to discuss the point..."Remember when I used to ask for for cunniligngus and you were too tired? Well, this is your reward for showing me that my desires mean less to you than your own."

The point being that YOUR desires are EQUAL to his and HE has to SHOW that HE understands this and makes an effort no matter how damned tired he is. Because YOU'RE tired of being taken advantage of by a selfish lover who only takes and never gives.

[noirblanc]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Until he shapes up, no more bj's for him.

Quoted for truth.

[wet_suit_one]

I thoroughly agree with EEK. This guys is disrespecting you. Have some self respect and make your voice heard. No one should put up with this nonsense. Btw, it works in reverse too.