Help!!!

[Wrave]

I was talking with my girlfriend and we decided to masturbate. I was like OK, and then she told me she doesn't moan. I took it with pleasure, and went on with mine. She tells me she is done, so no big deal. I asked her if she wanted to go another round. She agreed.

This time I told her to change it up. Don't just use your fingers, rub and focus. I heard her breathing heavy, and knew it worked. Only problem is that she came without an orgasm.

She was under the impression that the more fingers the easier it is. She could insert 3.

Anything that can help he achieve her first orgasm?

[dancingdoc2]

Please clarify some points, below.

Originally Posted by Wrave

I was talking with my girlfriend and we decided to masturbate. I was like OK, and then she told me she doesn't moan.

To each his/her own. Some people moan some of the times, some all, some not at all. It is the same for tensing muscles, squirming, or any other aspect of the act you care to focus on. NBG.

I took it with pleasure, and went on with mine. She tells me she is done, so no big deal. I asked her if she wanted to go another round. She agreed.

Do you mean she went thru the motions, decided to stop, and did not climax?

My question is can she? Has she learned to masturbate to completion and enjoy orgasms regularly and consistently? If not, then there is nothing you can do to cause this to happen. There is another thread on this, yesterday. Please read my comments.

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This time I told her to change it up. Don't just use your fingers, rub and focus. I heard her breathing heavy, and knew it worked. Only problem is that she came without an orgasm.

You knew what worked? What is "it"? Do you mean she climaxed, or, do you mean she just got into the arousal process more?

Came without an orgasm? This is an oxymoron. They are one in the same.

She was under the impression that the more fingers the easier it is. She could insert 3.

That is quite an accomplishment. One is about all most women who have not borne children can accept. Whether or not more is easier or not, has more to do with technique than anything. If it works for her, it works.
Anything that can help he achieve her first orgasm?

Yes, have her read all the articles listed in the Index that pertain to the female "O". There are about four or so. Then, encourage her to practice when home alone, and when the house is quiet and she will not be distracted or inturrupted. This will take some time so she should not expect instant results, nor should you. Learning is a process and also depends upon how often she practices. Once she learns how, she can then help you learn how to mimic her technique. As mentioned, providing feedback is important, also.

[Brandye]

Let me get this straight. You, an inexperienced male, are teaching her, an inexperienced female, to masturbate. And, you want her to reach an orgasm, which she has never done.

How about if you each read around the Board and learn a bit about the realities of female sexual response. When she learns to explore her own body, she will be making progress. When she learns to masturbate, that will be a big step. There is essentailly nothing you can do to help her achieve her first orgasm.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oookay but I have to tell you that inserting anything is unnecessary - her clitoris is external. Stimulating the other three hotspots will require insertion, of a vibe, etc., but this is something she has to explore ON HER OWN.

Men can be supportive and assist but this is something she has to OWN so it is best if she does this on her own and by her own hand - so to speak.