How important is it that your guy climaxes?

[wet_suit_one]

Ladies,

I have a little problem. It is best described here on this website: Healthy Strokes - Masturbation and More

I am curious as to how important to the ladies it is that their guys climax when they are having sex.

It's been an issue in a past relationship, but it's not really an issue for me (yes, I have TMS). Should it be an issue for me?

Thanks a million!

[Brandye]

We women generally assume that ejaculation is our partners goal. As a young woman, it bothered me greatly when it did not happen (rarely). As an older woman, I simply ask if he wants more help.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Well, how do you feel if she doesn't orgasm during sex?

Same here, buddy.
We all enjoy knowing we have contributed to our partner's pleasure.

[wet_suit_one]

I always enjoy her orgasm, but I don't know that I'd consider it "Very Important." That a good time was had by all is very important, but her climaxing not so. I understand now that it's not the same for everyone. For myself, my climax is totally irrelevant. It won't happen so I don't care. Simply spend time with the partner is my pleasure.

Ya, I'm a freak, I know.

[hazel]

Originally Posted by wet_suit_one

I am curious as to how important to the ladies it is that their guys climax when they are having sex.

Depends on the guy I'm with. It's more important he enjoys the whole experience. Some guys enjoy going for a long time before climaxing, and in that case I wouldn't want to rush him. In a world where climaxing too soon is some mens' problem, it might be a good thing that a guy doesn't easily climax during sex.

If it's a guy who has physical trouble climaxing during sex, if/when he's ready to climax we can do others things to help him finish. For example, I find it hot when a guy masturbates and lets me watch, so that would be cool. Or he could teach me his personal tricks on how to stroke him off. Oral is also a fun way to end things, if he'll let me.

The bigger picture though is that if this is meaningful-relationship-sex, the intimacy and emotional benefit of every moment of the sexual encounter is worth far more. As long as he is ok with it, I'd be ok with it. I'm just happy enjoying what I do with him.

[lnt1103]

It's very important to me, partly because of what EEK said about contributing to his pleasure, and partly because I know it's important to him. To get that close, and not finish, is a huge disappointment for him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"All dressed up and no place to go"

and if he stopped before I had an orgasm - there would be hell to pay!!!

[Rouge]

If he doesn't, I haven't done my job.

[wet_suit_one]

Well Rouge, what if you can't "do your job" because it's impossible to be done? Just curious.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ah yes, well then, cattle prod anyone?

Zippity zap zap!




(WSO - you can 're-train' yourself.)