G spot technique to orgasm

[seil]

I have studied alot about the g spot technique to make my girl orgasm but I am still having trouble with it.

Me and my girl have established where the g spot is in her and how to stimulate it properly when i'm fingering her (firm strokes) but I am still having trouble. I know I need to keep doing this for about half an hour or 40 minutes or so for her to climax but when I do I just can't seem to tell what I need to do other than the firm strokes to 'push her over the edge' and she never cums.

I was wondering if anyone could tell me if I just need to keep at it at a steady rythm longer, if there is a time when to start going faster or a time to chage my technique in someway to help bring her to orgasm (for example I noticed the other day when we were doing for quite a long time her vagina started to feel rougher all around.

If someone could maybe help I would really appreciate this. Thanks

[dlb]

seil there are many very good posts already on the forum which address your question. Here's one: What We Know: G-Spot and Ejaculation
and another: G-spot 101
also several posts on female orgasm. I'll allow you to do the rest of the work as that should make it more fulfilling for you.
I will say this. If you are stimulating the G Spot properly it should NOT not take her 30-45 minutes to climax. However she might be able to ride her orgasm like a wave for that long. The experienced women that I have been with begin G Spot orgasm within 3 minutes. Results may vary

[dancingdoc2]

> I have studied alot about the g spot technique to make my girl orgasm but I am still having trouble with it.

Have you read this article listed in the Index?
Chapter Two:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of G-spot massage
(Scroll down to this chapter.)

> Me and my girl have established where the g spot is in her and how to stimulate it properly when i'm fingering her (firm strokes) but I am still having trouble. I know I need to keep doing this for about half an hour or 40 minutes or so for her to climax but when I do I just can't seem to tell what I need to do other than the firm strokes to 'push her over the edge' and she never cums.

So long? This seems like a very very long time. Women often report back that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become SORE, bored, and tired. It it is taking this long then I'd say the two of you are not doing things right.

> I was wondering if anyone could tell me if I just need to keep at it at a steady rythm longer, if there is a time when to start going faster or a time to chage my technique in someway to help bring her to orgasm (for example I noticed the other day when we were doing for quite a long time her vagina started to feel rougher all around.

What We Know: G-Spot and Ejaculation

Communication is the correct solution. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership.

> If someone could maybe help I would really appreciate this. Thanks

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I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[seil]

I saw a video on stimulating the g spot at www.orgasmarts.com

(enter in any e-mail address and name to see it you don't need to get put on any mailing lists)

It says you need to make a come here motion with your index finger and sort of and pull down on the g spot and then start off with short strokes and work onto longer ones.

In the g-spot article you mention (INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of G-spot massage) it says 'Rub or massage it instead of trying to do something with it on a transitory hit and miss touch and go basis with the penis during stroking.

To be honest i'm not completely sure what that even means (if that could be explained) but the point I want, which method is right?

[lnt1103]

Basically it means find it and be purposeful about working it, instead of hoping you get lucky and hit it while you're thrusting.

[seil]

but i'm not thrusting when i'm doing this i'm fingering

this is all just vagueness

[Brandye]

Like too many young men you are expecting a recipe or a formula. Those do not exist with sexual response. It may vary from woman to woman and in the same woman over time. You and your willing partner must work on it to find what works for you. All the stuff you read may be good background but much of it may be irrelevant to the situation at hand.

Remember that relatively few women have ever had their G- Spot successfully stimulated and there is no certainty in the medical community that it even exists.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Palm upwards, using two fingers, curl the fingrtips upward and gently caress with those fingertips in a come hithe motion on her G-Spot (feels rather like a washboard) while moving your entire hand in and out - the speed depending upon her degree of arousal.

You will know when you have it right by her reaction.

Medical community or not - it is there and that is how you stimulate it.

[seil]

how long do I need to stimulate it like that for EvilEvilKitten?

[EvilEvilKitten]

For as long as she wants you there.
Don't be in a rush.