Does this mean she liked it?

[I_Wuz_Here]

Me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time yesterday. Eventually I was fingering her and we were kissing at the same time. The thing is, when I started fingering her she would stop in the middle of the kiss so our lips were just sitting on each other's. I wasn't really sure what to make of that. Does it mean she was enjoying the fingering so she was concentrating on that instead of the kissing? Does it mean I was hurting her? Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

[Massdebator]

That could mean any number of things, considering that everyone reacts differently in their own small ways to stimuli. Your best guess is as good as (or better than) my own. The only person who can answer that question is her. Ask her to provide feedback during the act, so you know, then and there, what she's thinking and feeling. In the meantime, please take the time to check out some of the stickies in the "New to Sex" forum. They are a veritable wealth of knowledge, and the one entitled "Fingering 101" might be especially useful for you. The stickies should answer some of your questions preemptively.

[I_Wuz_Here]

Originally Posted by Massdebator

That could mean any number of things, considering that everyone reacts differently in their own small ways to stimuli. Your best guess is as good as (or better than) my own. The only person who can answer that question is her. Ask her to provide feedback during the act, so you know, then and there, what she's thinking and feeling. In the meantime, please take the time to check out some of the stickies in the "New to Sex" forum. They are a veritable wealth of knowledge, and the one entitled "Fingering 101" might be especially useful for you. The stickies should answer some of your questions preemptively.

Thank you a lot for your help. I talked to her shortly after I posted this and she said she really enjoyed herself. Thanks for letting me know about the "Fingering 101" sticky as well. Didn't see that there. Thanks again for your help.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful articles.

A successful relationship includes a key ingredient: Communication; either verbal or non-verbal. The same goes for the romantic aspect. You need to form a partnership and ask her these questions. She is there, not us, and it is her body and mind.

Now, having said that, I can state with 99% confidence that the fingering got her attention and her focus to the exclusion of the kiss.

Were you hurting her? Not likely because if you had, she would be telling you to stop, yelling, or grabbing your hand in order to stop you.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[I_Wuz_Here]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful articles.

A successful relationship includes a key ingredient: Communication; either verbal or non-verbal. The same goes for the romantic aspect. You need to form a partnership and ask her these questions. She is there, not us, and it is her body and mind.

Now, having said that, I can state with 99% confidence that the fingering got her attention and her focus to the exclusion of the kiss.

Were you hurting her? Not likely because if you had, she would be telling you to stop, yelling, or grabbing your hand in order to stop you.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Thanks a lot Doc. Like I said, me and her talked about it with no problems. We always had a great amount of communication between each other but I think since this had to do with sex I was a little hesitant to ask her. But like I said, shortly after I posted this thread I decided to just ask her about it and I got the answer I was hoping for. Thanks again Doc.

[dancingdoc2]

You're welcome. Glad my 2-cents was useful. Sounds to me like you are well on your way....

[weasel]

how about you just ask your girlfriend

[I_Wuz_Here]

Originally Posted by weasel

how about you just ask your girlfriend

Umm...This would be the third time I'm saying this now: I already did.