My method to prolong ejaculation.

[VooDooDaddy]

This is my first post. I stumbled in here looking for sex positions. I noticed a few post about prejaculation. I wrote this to hopefully help. Long Read but should be worth it. If you just wanna learn how skip to next post.

First a little about me.

I haven't had many sex partners. I started young though. I was 13 when I had my first sexual encounter. I had six more up until I met my wife when I was 21 and one more when I was about 24 while we were broke up for a while. I am totally monogamous so as far as I knew I was normal. I had talked to a few guy friends about sex. Funny thing was when I would tell them my story most didn't believe me.

The first time I had sex I came within like a minute, understandably since it was my first time. My erection remained and we continued for maybe 3 hours or so until my dad was about to come home.

I have always been able to last for hours and hours. Sometimes not even cumming, or controlling my ejaculation. I wasn't aware until I started researching and reading stuff online that lots of men can't control their orgasm.

I thought it was weird to hear that most men once they have one orgasm they usually lose erection. I have have went as long as 7 hours straight and cum probably 10 times within that time frame.

First from my experience, the first orgasm feels good, the second feels ok. Anything after that it feels as if someone kicked you in the prostate. It begins to hurt after a while. Basically you are having the ejaculation spasms, but nothing but clear liquid is coming out. Plus I have always had a very low sperm count. I am lucky if I could fill a teaspoon with even my first orgasm.

I haven't read anywhere online of someone offering or explaining my methods I use to keep and maintain an erection for extended periods of time. I am not even sure if anyone else can do it. I am sure if I conditioned myself on how to do this. I am sure any man reading this that wishes to last longer to please his significant other can do it to. I am sure if I knew that my method would work for others I could write a book and make lots of money from it. I would rather share it with you for free and hope I have made someone happy. Maybe save a marriage, or someone of a broken heart, boost someone's self-esteem, or just bring joy of sex back into the bedroom of some couple.

For starters, let me get a few things out there. I am all of about 7” at full erection and large girth. I am not hung but very flexible. I even know a few positions not listed here on this site. I will contact them and try to explain these almost contortionists sex acts. As far as achieving flexibility that is another whole post. I will write one after I sit back and think about how I managed that. I know one woman I was with during a separation with my wife looked at my size and seemed some what disappointed but after the night I gave her she said no man has ever came close to fulfilling her the way I did. This was all in the positions though not as much as it was the amount of time we spent. I gave her first vaginal, clitoral and anal orgasms. Hell I didn't even know a woman could have an orgasm from anal intercourse.

I know I use to drive my roommate nuts when my wife (girl friend at the time) would make love all night long. He said you have no idea how hard it is to sleep with all that going on. LOL! Even his girlfriend at the time cornered me one day trying to seduce me. This put me in a odd position cause I knew how crazy he was about her. No way I could do that. I didn't tell him for some time but eventually I did with help with another close friend. It strained our friendship for sometime. I told him I didn't make the move she did. She kept saying she fantasied that it was her with me instead of my girlfriend when she heard her ecstasy going on in the next room for hours and hours. Your not human she said.

Anyway sometimes I wasn't sure if the compliments I received was genuine. Years later I ran across my second girlfriend. I was 15 at the time. We had went out for about little over a year. Unfortunately she had cheated on me with a close friend. I never forgave her and we parted ways. Anyway I bumped into her in the mall. We talked for quite a bit. Then she started coming onto me. She started telling me how amazing I was during sex and for 10 years she has been searching for that with someone else. I told her I was married. I strongly believe in commitment. She knew that. I guess she thought everyone cheats.

(I will never ever cheat on my wife. If you have ever been cheated on and experience the pain of a broken heart, then for god's sake don't put someone else through that. It is very selfish plus if your sex life is good at home there is no reason to stray. If sex isn't that good at home then communication is the key. I know me and my wife went through a dry spell that lasted 2 years. Why bring that shame onto yourself and your companion. Especially if you have kids. This isn't from any religious morals. I am an atheists. OK sorry for the rant.)

I was blushing and somewhat proud of myself. I also felt vindicated that she was unable to find someone that could satisfy her sexually because she thought cheating on me was such a good idea at the time. I walked around with a egotistical grin on my face all day.

Well now that you have read a little about my history. I will try my best to explain how I think I have conditioned myself to maintain long lasting erections. I hope that it helps someone. I have had to sit back and think about this for sometime. I also the other night tried to take mental notes while me and my wife were having sex. I was analyzing what was going on and what I was doing. I have done it for so long it is more subconscious for me. I just do it without even thinking about it. I can hold off to the point sometimes I do not even have an orgasm. This makes my wife sometimes disappointed because she thinks it is something she did. I have to reassure her even after all these years that it is me. If I put it off to long sometimes I just don't and that is fine. I would say probably 9 out of 10 times I don't achieve orgasm. Unless she is focusing all on me. Sex should be more about the physical and mental connection. I love being with her. I love watching her. I get more out of sex than just an orgasm.

So here goes.

Make a mental note. Being able to go for hours can be boring sometimes. Make sure you have plenty of positions to help spice things up. Also sometimes a woman may become dry. Always have plenty of lubrication on hand. I made that mistake once. I had blisters an inch wide and up and down both sides of the shaft of my penis. It was very excruciating and lasted for days before healing. Also the girl I was with was plenty sore herself. She also developed a UTI. Not sure if that was directly related. I am sure it didn't help her situation. Also if it is getting a little dry down there take a time out for some oral sex to get the juices flowing again. Also always communicate with each other, too fast, too slow, harder, softer..... etc.... etc.... and one more thing... when you two go at it for long periods of time sometimes the desensitizing of both of your genitals, you might not be aware that you are drying out. Believe me LUBE UP!

[VooDooDaddy]

Super Penis Workout

First I guess just as a woman has to know her body, you have to do the same. Masturbation is the key. I masturbate sometimes at least 3 times a day. I have since before I had pubic hair. You can learn a lot about yourself through just masturbation. Rhythm, sensations, fantasies, hard, fast, slow etc... Now that have learned how you react:

Try this exercise. Without porn or fantasizing, just laying there while your penis is limp. Don't even touch yourself. Keep your mind free and clear. Contract the muscles around your anus, (sphincter) as weird as this sounds, almost like trying to hold back passing gas. Try to get deep contractions. Not to the point it causes pain but deep contractions from your groin area. Think of nothing but the contractions. Contract those muscles. Keep doing it, contract release, contract release, then try contracting and holding for 5 seconds and repeat. You should feel and see your penis move a little even while limp. As it gets more erect you will see it throb with each contraction. You should also feel your prostate being squeezed when doing the contractions. Keep doing this. This helps get the blood flowing to your penis. Contract and release. You will soon get an erection with out any stimulation. I don't even pretend to know how this works. I just know it is how I do it. It is also how I maintain my erection for long periods of time. You will get sore after a long period of time. I still get sore after keeping an erection for more than 3 or 4 hours. Sometimes, which is not often, I can get an erection when I am not even in the mood. Sometimes my wife will want a quickie. I just lay back and let her. It is amazing feeling to let her give me a blowjob while limp and get an erection in her mouth.

Now masturbate, once you have had an orgasm, don't stop thinking about your erection. Contract the muscles around your sphincter (anus). Sometime contracting and holding it for 5 seconds. This helps maintain the penis erect. While wiping yourself off maintain the contractions. You will go limp just a bit. Focus on a fantasy or what ever to keep your mind on maintaining the erection. Start masturbating again while still contracting those muscles. You will find when you are in a real excited state these contractions happen naturally. They key is your awareness of them and keeping them in the back of your mind. When you find yourself actually having sex with someone keeping your mind and focus on these contractions is key to preventing ejaculation when you are not ready.

While using these contractions can help maintain an erection. I have found they also help me control my orgasm. It may be hard to do at first while in the moment but while you are having sex and feel a orgasm coming on. Slow your rhythm and pace a bit, notice the contractions are now involuntary. They are contracting without you even trying or focusing on them. Start relaxing that region. With all your might try to stop the contractions by mentally focusing on slowing them.

Usually they are more dominate right before love making starts. I assume this is where most guys prejaculate. They loose control. You have to learn control.

If you are a prejaculator, try to stick with foreplay for a while. If she is trying to give you oral and you don't think you can take it at the moment. Just caress her face and say don't worry about me just yet. This is your time. You may feel after a while your excitement may start to fade a bit. Don't let anxiety build on your part. Take your time. This is one race where finishing first doesn't get you the gold medal. Concentrate on her, give her a sensual message working your way to a sexual one. Explore her body, this mental activity helps pace yourself even before intercourse can begin. Enjoy the moment but learn to pace yourself.

Learn how to slow down and concentrate on something else right before you feel an orgasm coming on. Obvious right. Also you have to have the desire to only to please her and only her. Keep that in the back of your mind.

Now she is worked up and she can't take it anymore. Once you have relaxed some go for penetration. Slowly at first. Pull out if you feel it coming on. Make it seem you are teasing her with your cock. Taking it out, then slowly putting it back in. Do this for as long as she can handle it also to help ease your mind while trying to take the focus off of the intensity you are feeling. This takes a lot of control and even patience on your part to learn and master.

Once you feel the orgasm subside after you do this a few times (at least for me when I was younger) you should be able to go for quite a while. Always remember to change your pace sometimes even stop the penetrating motion and just lay there with your cock inside her.

Ladies first is my motto. Not all women can achieve orgasm. So basically just enjoy the moment. Some women don't really care for marathon sex. My wife maybe 1 in 5 times wants a marathon. If it is your first time with this person feel free to blow their mind. Remember every woman is different so make sure to ask questions. Some women like confidence but still I think it shows more that you respect her well being to ask questions about what she wants.

Now back to mind over penis, I find the more I concentrate on the woman the more I put aside my own pleasure. Sometimes you just can't help it is things are really feeling good. This is where you take what you learned from masturbation to the forefront. If you feel it coming on slow down. Wiggle inside of her for a bit until the feeling subsides. Try to steer clear of start and stop methods. My wife's previous lover, always did this. She said it was irritating. Once she started feeling good it was like he would pull the rug right out from under her.


I use to use the method above when I was younger to stop and prolong orgasms. Now that I am 38, I don't even have to think about it. I guess that is why I had to analyze what was going on when I was having sex with my wife the other night. Once I started writing this some of it I started remembering as I was writing. I hope this works for you or maybe a starting point for you to experiment and learn what helps you maintain.

Also if you are in a relationship. Discuss it with them let them know about this technique and that you are trying it out. Their understanding will go a long way in helping you overcum I mean not precum... I mean overcome your testicles... obstacles.

[oaktree]

ok, i am a bit lost. Do you do this by your self or with your g/f, wife.

[VooDooDaddy]

The masturbation technique you can be alone or with your significant other. It is just an exersise to do alone to mentally and physically prepare you ahead of time. The bottom half of the workout is kinda explaining ways to help control your orgasm during sex.

Sorry if I wasn't clear, I felt I had some difficulty in even explaining it. It is something I do more or less without even thinking about it while I am having sex.

[oaktree]

Originally Posted by VooDooDaddy

The masturbation technique you can be alone or with your significant other. It is just an exersise to do alone to mentally and physically prepare you ahead of time. The bottom half of the workout is kinda explaining ways to help control your orgasm during sex.

Sorry if I wasn't clear, I felt I had some difficulty in even explaining it. It is something I do more or less without even thinking about it while I am having sex.

It was clear, just want to make sure i am reading it correctly. How long and offten should this be done?

[VooDooDaddy]

I imagine everytime you masurbate at least try to recognize your bodies signals that you are about to have an orgasm. Once you learn these signs watch for them while having sex. Then you can use those signals to try to slow or stop those natural contractions or also slow down thrusting until the feeling subsides.

If you masturbate more than once a day. I would say use this technique once. Let the rest of them not seem like a chore and just enjoy them.

I imagine it would be kinda fun with your significant other. It may even be more effective if she is doing oral. You can tell her to slow down or stop while you learn to control the contractions and learn to focus menatally on delaying your orgasm.

I imagine this is something that isn't going to work after the first few times. It will take practice.

[bunbury]

hey, i know what u mean bout the whole stayin up after thing, but i start to hurt after about 2 hours and it really hurts when i climax, ne ideas on how to extend not so much the staying up but the delay b4 pain, i have a higher sperm count than you deatailed do you think it could have nething to do with this?

[VooDooDaddy]

Wish I had an answer. I still get sore even if I haven't had an orgasm after 2 hours or more. I feel it at the base and deep in my prostate. Even after years of being able to do this I always figured that I could overcome that. Guess it is a physical barrier.

[Lonewolfajk]

Haha, I thought staying hard even after cumming 1-2, even up to 4 times was normal O.o

Usually I try to keep it from hurting by not hitting my orgasms as fast; Slowing down my pace and then speeding back up again, that way its always feeling good. After about 4 orgasms I'll still be hard, but it starts to lose that awesome, great feel.

The only thing is, I can only stay hard after cumming when I'm really turned on which is pretty much just with a partner. If I masterbate then it doesn't work.