Unprotected sex As part of a Couple (Where a Guy Comes )

[Kitt]

when a woman lets you have unprotected sex with her where she asks you dont cum inside her where would you cum??? On her where??? arround her??? this topic had me confused before and have never got arround to posting it handjobs are ok but blowjobs and penetration where would be the safest place to cum so i do not offend or disgust her???

[nuttychick]

Ask her.... If she doesn't want it inside of her then she should tell you where she wants it...

[dancingdoc2]

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Making love is a partnership and as such communication is key. Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other. The question about where to ejaculate is a matter the two of you can discuss and maybe should. There is nothing wrong with making a puddle on her abdomen or chest unless she has a dislike for this, although, I rather doubt most women do. Just have a tissue or damp washcloth handy in order to wipe up, later.

Do not aim for her face or hair. This is just not cool. You can also ejaculate on your body and let the semen fall where it does when masturbating.

Women set the boundaries and we must respect them. There is an article on all this and how to test if she has extended them. Please read it. As for oral sex, if you date a lot of women you are bound to learn the following:
* some women do not like to give and/or receive oral stimulation
* some will stimulate her man orally yet insist he climax someplace other than in her mouth
* others will accept semen going into the mouth and will spit it into a tissue, later
* some will swallow

If she has no clear cut limit then I suggest your work up to the latter. Read the article on the how-to's of oral stimulation and then explore and learn together. If she does not want to swallow, so be it. Do not whine, cajole, or try making her change her mind. As she learns the techniques for keeping the ejaculated semen up front in her mouth and not triggering a gagging reflex, she may be content with letting you do this. Doing so helps intensify intimacy.

After reading the relevant articles, please feel free to ask any questions not answered here. I hope this is of help.

[Brandye]

The first question is whether you really want to risk it. A young woman taking chances of this nature can be big trouble for herself and for you. I do hope that you and she are not counting on the withdrawal for contraception. Given your other posts, you are not ready to be taking this kind of risk.

Do you really know she is disease free? Do you know what birth control she is using? Are you ready to tell your father that you are about to be a dad. Or, tell your mother you have clap?

I guess the short answer to your specific question is "anywhere outside her." Just pull back and let it fly. There is no reason she should be offended or disgusted. If she is asking for unprotected sex, she should know what happens. Go back to paragraph one and then forget the whole thing.

[dancingdoc2]

"Unprotected" means exactly precisely that.

A couple wanting to play adult games must also bear the responsibility that comes with it. If your girlfriend does not want to become pregnant she must use a contraceptive.

If you do not want to be an unwed father, you must use a condom.

As a couple the two of you should also have a back up. Use a spermicide.

Please understand that what you hold in your hand is the equivalent of a fully loaded and armed cannon! This is not the same as a six-shooter with one round in the cylinder. Any time it is pointed in the general direction of her vulva, a pregnancy can result.

[Kitt]

yeah thanks dancingdoc it was just a query i just wondered how it is done im not planning on having unprotected sex untill i am in a relationship and will still be using contraception whether it be patches injections or the pill i just wanted to be prepared for it if it happens in the future!!

[Purdykat]

Ask where she wants it, on her stomach, back, chest, a cup ? lol

Why doesn't she want you to cum inside her - the only thing I can think of is that she doesn't want to get pregnant etc - she's silly ! pre cum contains sperm it's not safe sex !

[YHeloThar]

well with an advanced contraception technique like pulling out you can probably assume she wants it all over her face...

you should pull out and ask her where she wants it and then make a show of putting it there (i guess just like porn).

[YHeloThar]

Originally Posted by Purdykat

Why doesn't she want you to cum inside her - the only thing I can think of is that she doesn't want to get pregnant etc - she's silly ! pre cum contains sperm it's not safe sex !

i dunno a lot of girls don't like the feeling of semen in them after the act is over. especially if they have to go do something.

even if they go and take a shower often they can feel it draining still over the day (or maybe i just have a really big load).

[EvilEvilKitten]

YOU DON'T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX unless you are trying to have children.

Are you trying to have children?