opinion needed

[nobody]

i love my wife and i love the sex but there some problems.
first off i am a premature ejaculater i can not last 2 minuets inside here but the best thing is that my pines dose not go numb, it keeps erect for a long time 1-2 hours ( thank God ).
now she dose not like going down on me but i like going down on here ( and i am pretty good at it ) when she reaches orgasm from me going down on here we start having sex but she gets sore after 20-30 minuets. so i go down on here agien and she still has the amazing orgasm. now the problem.
i like to go down on here becose i ejaculat fast so i like give her an orgasm becose i have.
i think that she reached orgasm by intercourse 3 times since we got married ( 5 years ) and that is one of the reasons that i like to continue pleasing her. now she dose not like me going down on her, she likes it very much but she wants some passionate kisses in the proses but she dose not want a kiss from me after orally pleasing on her.
i am thinking of getting a vibrator for her but she dose not want it, she is afraid that she may like it and turn to it instead, i am afraid that she may like it but i love the site of her pleasing her self.

[Brandye]

The fact is that only about a quarter of women ecperience orgasm from penetration and thrusting on a regular basis. About half of us need added stimulation in the form of digital or oral. A quarter never experience orgasm.

She needs to know more about her own body.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by nobody

i love my wife and i love the sex but there some problems.

Have you looked through the Index and read any/most of the articles?

first off i am a premature ejaculater i can not last 2 minuets inside here but the best thing is that my pines dose not go numb, it keeps erect for a long time 1-2 hours ( thank God ).

"Pines", please clarify. I suppose this is a word for penis.

Two minutes does not meet the definition of Premature Ejaculation. The time does, however, indicate an untimely event. Either way, the solutions are the same. Here are some things the two of you can do:

1. Slow yourself down by having an ejaculation first, by whatever means--like oral or a hand job, then after your recovery period of between a few minutes and half an hour, rebuild your arousal and excitement and go for intercourse
2. Work on and master the exercise described in this article:

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

3. Using the ability to associate those feelings associated with an approaching climax, use the Squeeze technique in the here and now by having her apply a lot of pressure to either the base of the penis or the top of the shaft behind the corona rim and holding it until the sense of urgency subsides.

now she dose not like going down on me but i like going down on here ( and i am pretty good at it ) when she reaches orgasm from me going down on here we start having sex but she gets sore after 20-30 minuets. so i go down on here agien and she still has the amazing orgasm.

Many women do report that they become SORE, bored, and, tired, if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes.

My suggestion is that if you wish to prolong intercourse, you do it in stages, pausing and returning to fooling around, then carrying on. You can also incorporate any of the techniques above to help keep you from climaxing before you intend to.

now the problem.
i like to go down on here becose i ejaculat fast so i like give her an orgasm becose i have.

Helping your partner climax first, last, and in between is good etiquette. Helping each other to climax from foreplay is good for the reason stated, and, because this will slow you down.

It is important to understand that once you have climaxed, it does not mean that intimacy is over. Women can enjoy a series of orgasms (multiple), and, guys can have a few spaced out as noted, so lovemaking can go on for hours if desired. Just do not indulge in intercourse for a prolonged period of time where you stroke and stroke away "forever".

Try having intercourse when you are at your peak, climax, then go back to fooling around and begin all over.

i think that she reached orgasm by intercourse 3 times since we got married ( 5 years ) and that is one of the reasons that i like to continue pleasing her. now she dose not like me going down on her, she likes it very much but she wants some passionate kisses in the proses but she dose not want a kiss from me after orally pleasing on her.

If the two of you have bathed prior to making love and she is not on her period, there is no reason not to kiss.

Very few sexual positions place a woman's pieces-parts in close constant contact with a man's pubic area to generate the necessary friction. So, not many women will have a climax directly from intercourse without some assistance. What a wise, caring, skilled, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner at the same time.

i am thinking of getting a vibrator for her but she dose not want it, she is afraid that she may like it and turn to it instead, i am afraid that she may like it but i love the site of her pleasing her self.

There is nothing wrong with having a vibrator. As with any indulgence, excess can be a problem. Vibrators do provide stronger stimulation, yet used in moderation, they are fine. If she enjoys your love making, I rather doubt she will turn to it regularly, and therein lies what is important.

Good vibrators to get are the large general purpose ones like the Hitachi Wand or the Wahl Coil with interchangeable heads. Both can be used for giving a general body massage, then switching to an erotic massage, then finally, to stimulating her genitals. When using the Wand, cup the ball with the palm of your hand and extend one or two fingers in order to stimulate her clitoris, etc.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Get a good vaginal lubricant. Learn how to use your penis effectively - read The Program - AND - learn how to do Body Worship - see the sticky post.

This way both of you will learn about eachother and learn how to have great sex. She can even take over and do it to you. I'd recommend taking turns leading.

You never know until you try.

[dlb]

The two of you might do well to get a sex manual and go through it together. There are many of them out there. It sounds as though you could profit from learning more about cunnilingus. Be aware that no matter how good you are, some women just do not enjoy cunnilingus. Many women do not want to perform fellatio. Once a woman has decided that she is against it your chances of convincing her to go down on you are slim. Still you can try. I repeat: You could both benefit from acquiring and reading a good sex manual together.

What has me puzzled is this: you say that you are a premature ejaculator but your penis stays erect for one to two hours. If you have a one hour erection even after ejaculation-what is the problem. USE IT until it goes away!

[nobody]

thank you all for your help
i will try