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[hunga121]

Just a few questions, things that are newer to me that I have never experienced before so I wanted to get some other mature womens input.

1) My girlfriend will not kiss me after I perform oral on her? I am willing to kiss her after she does it to me. How do all of you feel about this?

2) She also will not going down on me after we make love, unless I wash it off before hand.

3) Lastly, it isn't directly sex related but it bothers me. If any nudity is on the TV she looks away (guy or girl), she also looks away if women are dressed skimpy (ex: 2 piece bathing suits). It almost seems to me like she is a homophobe, maybe afraid if she saw this stuff she may like it? What do you guys think? Also, another pointer, to maybe help you understand her, she wears shorts and a tank top over her bathing suit cause she said she doesn't like to show skin.

thanks in advance to all of the mature replies. your help is appreciated.

[Steff]

1. Yeah, I'll kiss him after he goes down on me. I didn't at first but it takes some getting used to.
2. If we're not directly in the middle of having sex when he asks me to go down on him I make him wash too. There's nothing sexy about sucking your crusty vagina juices off your boyfriends dick... gross.
3. Maybe she's just really unsecure...?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Your girlfriend has decided that sex beyond a certain limit is dirty.
Your girlfriend does not like to show "too much" skin or to see others show "too much" skin.

She is well within her rights in both.

It desn't matter what others think/do - you have to accept her as she is or leave. Ony she has the right to change herself.

No pushing. If you don't like her choices, get a new girlfriend.

[Joe6565]

I agree with EEK. All three of those are her right to agree to or to refuse. I do not recommend you trying to change her... that never works and is destructive to a relationship. Trying to change another person is a form of psychological abuse.

As they say, you can only change yourself. If you are unwilling to truly accept your gf as she is, break up now.

[Ephemera]

Yup, they're right.

However, in your position, I think I'd go find a new girlfriend.

Can't imagine being with someone so puritanical (or insecure).

Whatever you decide, I hope it works out!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hey, no slurs!

The lady is private and has her preferences.

[hunga121]

Thanks to all of ya.I get the point and sorry for late reply actually I was busy with my professional life these day's but now I am back and I will continue as well.