How do you transition from one stage to the next!!?!?!?

[101sa]

Hey Everyone.

I am wondering how to progress from making out with a girl to foreplay to intercourse. Some guys just make it look simple, but I feel like I am overthinking everything which is filling me with doubt.

Basically I want to know how to reach sexual intercourse with a girl without messing it up by doing something stupid, creepy, etc. Feel me??

Are you supposed to be straightfoward and just ask the girl "Hey do you want to have sex?" while you guys are having foreplay. I feel like thats weird and that girls wouldnt like that...I feel like its TOO straightfoward.
I know girls like subtelties and everything, but how can you have sex with a girl without mentioning it first? People are always saying "just go with the flow," but wouldnt it be totally creepy if I just pulled my pants down and tried to stick it in there without mentioning sex first??

HELPP!! How to I progress from making out and foreplay to actual intercourse without being creepy or doing something stupid to mess it up.

Please know that Im not a pervert whos just trying to get laid all the time I am doing this for the girl not me. I just dont know how to smoothly transition from one stage to the next. I overthink the whole process and it fills me with doubts and bad thoughts..

Id really appreciate any help from the experts!!

[Dancin' doc2]

Originally Posted by 101sa

Hey Everyone.

I am wondering how to progress from making out with a girl to foreplay to intercourse. Some guys just make it look simple, but I feel like I am overthinking everything which is filling me with doubt.

Please read the articles listed in the Index


You are not over thinking. Ya just need guidance and this is the "why" of the site. There are many how-to articles on making out from Necking to Petting to Heavy Petting, to Foreplay, and beyond.

Read up on boundaries and Implied Consent, also. When you are reading about making out, please keep in mind that the process is both progressive and all inclusive--meaning, that you go from A to B to C back to A & B, add D and so on right up to the finish whatever that is. Do Not short change all this. Girls need lots of making out in order to become aroused; and guys can benefit from this too.

Basically I want to know how to reach sexual intercourse with a girl without messing it up by doing something stupid, creepy, etc. Feel me??

Take your time--like maybe several months into the relationship. Unless she is a grown woman and experienced, I rather doubt you will get there during the first few dates during the first few weeks. A relationship must mature and trust must be established and these take time.

Are you supposed to be straightfoward and just ask the girl "Hey do you want to have sex?" while you guys are having foreplay. I feel like thats weird and that girls wouldnt like that...I feel like its TOO straightfoward.

Not if you want any more dates! This is a subject that should be discussed beforehand and plans made. There is an article on all this that both of you should read. So, read the information and plan on having a discussion about this in May if you are still together and your love life is moving along.

I know girls like subtelties and everything, but how can you have sex with a girl without mentioning it first?

Asked and answered. YOU DO NOT! if you are a nice guy and have manners.

People are always saying "just go with the flow," but wouldnt it be totally creepy if I just pulled my pants down and tried to stick it in there without mentioning sex first??

Those people are probably your peers who have little to no experience, or manners,right?

"Stick it in there?" You've gotta be kidding. You want her cooperation otherwise it is RAPE.

HELPP!! How to I progress from making out and foreplay to actual intercourse without being creepy or doing something stupid to mess it up.

READ the articles listed in the Index, all of them.

Please know that Im not a pervert whos just trying to get laid all the time I am doing this for the girl not me. I just dont know how to smoothly transition from one stage to the next. I over think the whole process and it fills me with doubts and bad thoughts.

Id really appreciate any help from the experts!!

After reading the information on dating, kissing, making out, and the rest, please feel free to ask more questions. I know you want information and want to be a kind, considerate, compassionate, knowledgeable, skilled lover. Once you do your homework I believe you will have the knowledge to have a great game plan. One you do your homework, please feel free to ask more questions.