Female Slowness to Orgasm

[EvilEvilKitten]

Please also pay attention to what your own body is saying. I for one hate to have a 'reach around' and would much rather teach the guy to properly perform intercourse using the head of his penis to stimulate the previously mentioned hotspots inside the vagina.

Simply stated if you're inexperienced, you have to look for experienced men to further your education - go find their older brothers.

[jackcollins]

well said Brandye ,i liked that wee comment of yers
Women can be satisfied without being satiated; men can be satiated without being satisfied.

[vixen74]

Actually I have to disagree with most of you.I have been with my bf for several months.The sex is always amazing but I have never had an orgasm during sex.There is no underlying issues with either of us.I think some people just need to realize that some of us will not orgasm during sex.It's not the be all and end of all of life as we know it.Infact a lot of my friends are the same as me!

[EvilEvilKitten]

And what age are you and your friends, vixen?

and

Isn't it odd that us older more experienced women have orgasms and you & your friends don't?

Think there may be a reason for that?

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by vixen74

Actually I have to disagree with most of you.I have been with my bf for several months.The sex is always amazing but I have never had an orgasm during sex.There is no underlying issues with either of us.I think some people just need to realize that some of us will not orgasm during sex.It's not the be all and end of all of life as we know it.Infact a lot of my friends are the same as me!

Maybe the sex you think that is amazing.. isn't really that amazing?

[kamikaze3557]

Thanks for all the info in this thread......As for my wife, if for whatever reason I want her to or she wants to have a quickie orgasm, All I need to do is talk to her in a soft voice using little pet names, calling her my little girl, tell her how wonderful she looks and feels, of course his is much easier to do when I am using my hands an fingers, when eating her out it can interrupt the moment depending on just what it is your doing to please her orally.

[CrazyCraveman]

Not all women, or men, for all that goes...can achieve an orgasm. As some women, as well as men suffer from anorgasmia.

Now even though I've known of this fact for quite a few years. I don't want/wish to be accused of giving out mis-information, or seek to mislead. I'll make sure my advice is backed up with more than my admittedly extensive experience. Therefore, rather than put it in my own words, as I did when posting on the 'taste of cum' thread...I'll post what Wikipedia had to say on the subject of anorgasmia.

Anorgasmia (often related to delayed ejaculation in males) is a form of sexual dysfunction sometimes classified as a psychiatric disorder in which the patient cannot achieve orgasm, even with adequate stimulation. However, it can also be caused by medical problems such as diabetic neuropathy, multiple sclerosis, genital mutilation or complications from genital surgery, pelvic trauma, hormonal imbalances, total hysterectomy, spinal cord injury, vulvodynia and cardiovascular disease. Anorgasmia is far more common in females than in males and is especially rare in younger men. Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, often causing significant sexual frustration. About 15% of women report difficulties with orgasm, and as many as 10% of women in the United States have never climaxed. Many women who orgasm regularly only climax about 50-70% of the time.

A common cause of anorgasmia, in both men and women, is the use of anti-depressants, particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Though reporting of anorgasmia as a side-effect of SSRIs is not precise, it is estimated that 15-50% of users of such medications are affected by this condition. The chemical amantadine has been shown to relieve SSRI-induced anorgasmia in some, but not all, people.


If anyone needs further proof, feel free to do a simple Google search. You'll find many pages on the sexual dysfunction, anorgasmia. That will back up everything I said. Don't believe what you read on Wikipedia, then go to Mayo Clinic medical information and tools for healthy living - MayoClinic.com and type 'anorgasmia' into the search bar. Hell, simply ask any Gynaecologist.

[EvilEvilKitten]

In the absence of medical issues, psychiatric disorders, traumas of abuse, the main reason for not orgasming during sex is 'not giving herself permission'.

Yes, you can live and love without orgasms but that is a lot less fun than living with orgasms.

[illeashu]

i have to agree with several of the comments, and reflect positively on others too, maybe some orgasms dont come because their partner really isnt that good, but mostly i too feel, its cause they dont allow themselves, they cant just let go, or they arent enticed to let go, its hard to say, but i wonder too, why then the generation gap in release

[Aquarius]

I have orgasms through masturbating and rubbing my clitoris. The thing is that I can only orgasm when my legs are closed. I've tried teaching myself to orgasm with my legs open because when a guy is rubbing my clitoris it is usually with my legs open and easier for him to find it with my legs open. Why would I be able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation when my legs are closed and not open?