annoying things men do when having sex with you

[uncreativename]

i can't understand why a guy would do this..but a guy i was having sex with (we only had sex a couple of times..(haha)) would insist on trying a million different positions and not giving enough time to each position..then when i started touching my clit, he moved my hand..as if he had to make me come by penetration alone! i can actually come from penetration...but he was really being too controlling...i think he was trying to impress me and boost his ego..but seriously, men, don't try any of this at home otherwise you'll get a very cranky partner! let her do her thing, otherwise you're not going to learn what makes her tick!

[Mr. Saint]

Would never move a girls hand during sex, a girlfriend once tried to stick her finger somewhere I did not want it and I moved it, but other then that I would never stop her from doing something. Anyways about the changing position thing, how many time and how often is too much? I mean it is not good to be in the same position the entire time, right.

[uncreativename]

Originally Posted by Mr. Saint

Would never move a girls hand during sex, a girlfriend once tried to stick her finger somewhere I did not want it and I moved it, but other then that I would never stop her from doing something. Anyways about the changing position thing, how many time and how often is too much? I mean it is not good to be in the same position the entire time, right.

no i'm definitely not saying that staying in one position for the whole time is any fun, but nor is changing every couple of seconds..he was so restless! you've got to enjoy each position for a bit of time so you can feel the tension building..normally it just feels right how long you need to spend in each position..whether that's a couple of minutes or longer. if your partner looks like she's enjoying herself stay at it longer and ask if she wants to change if you want to try something new. obviously if she is breathing hard and says 'don't stop', then please don't make her move! With the right partner, that all becomes natural because you know what makes the other tick.

[Mr. Saint]

Thanks, my last girlfriend took the lead most of the time. She would decide when she wanted to role over and stand up and all that fun stuff. So I know a few position but some times I am concerned it change to much.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just lie down, shut up, and do whatever the not-so-nice lady says.

[Mr. Saint]

Evil what is that response to, me not know how often to change positions or not letting the girl us her finger on me. Anyways I loved sleeping with that girl; I broke up with her last semester. The reason I ask is in case the girl I just started dating is less dominate in the bed room. Although I love dominate women.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Now that I have your attention - which is the point.

PAY ATTENTION to your partner.

Even if she/he does not SAY verbally, this or that - his/her BODY will 'speak' to you. That quiver, the quick intake of breath, the relaxation of muscle here or the tightening of a muscle there, the purrr of the synapses - it is all there and perfectly clear - if you're paying attention.

[weasel]

this seems to be a porn based sex, he probably thinks (subconsciously) that girls like it when guys put them through multiple positions, just tell him to stick to one two or three positions per session/round this will keep it interesting but still consistent, but the best thing you can do is bring it up to him

[uncreativename]

Originally Posted by weasel

this seems to be a porn based sex, he probably thinks (subconsciously) that girls like it when guys put them through multiple positions, just tell him to stick to one two or three positions per session/round this will keep it interesting but still consistent, but the best thing you can do is bring it up to him

that's very true..i think part of the problem was his ego. he always cared so much about impressing me..when i told him i was really relaxed and unjudgemental (which i am), he didn't really believe me. luckily i'm not with him anymore..probably would have had better communication if the relationship had lasted longer i'd imagine. i don't have the problem with my current partner. as discussed above..you begin to just KNOW what your partner likes and how long and when to do positions..it;s natural.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, you do NOT "just know" - you have learned to listen and are paying attention to your partner.