hyper sensitive after OG

[flyboy]

greetings,

Having a discussion of discovery with my partner - we have great oral and regular sex . problen is, we'd love for her to have multiple OGs. Her clitoris becomes ultra sensitive after the first OG - making further stimulation and another OG very hard to achieve .

Any offers of advise on how to deal with this would be appreciated .

Thanks.
Flyboy

[dancingdoc2]

YUP! Have a look at the Index at the top of the main screen and read the list of articles it contains. One of them discusses this very question.

The clitoris does become extremely sensitive immediately prior to an orgasm, and, the penis immediately after, all due to a chemical release by the brain. The tip of the clitoris also tends to hide by tucking itself in under the hood.

The fix seems to be two-fold. First whenever she expresses that the clitoris is becoming sensitive, switch to indirect stimulation by folding the labia over it and massaging it thru them and/or tugging on the labia. Second, both men and women can enjoy multiple orgasms, however there are differences between them. Women can have them very close together, often within moments to minutes of the previous. Men have a much longer refractory period usually lasting between ten and thirty minutes. Women can often enjoy many more than the two to four a guy can enjoy.

You can space some of hers out in between any two of yours, and/or if she wants, to coincide with one of yours. Either way, learn how much of a pause she requires at the time before further stimulating her.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why do men think the clitoris is all there is? Women come equipped with a G-Spot and the fornices so if one area is "too sensitive" - go to another! Also the "too sensitive" is a false signal - the brain, not being used to this level of stimulation, incorrectly classifies additional stimulation as pain. By totally relaxing, breathing deeply and calmly, she can let the feeling roll on through and give the brain time to learn "oh wait! my mistake! Nevermind!" If this sounds exactly like how one learns to orgasm - you're right - it is. No tensing up, no anxiety.

Think of floating on a raft, hot summer day at the beach, riding the swells and just going along.

Please refer to the sticky post entitled The Program and follow it.

[flyboy]

Thanks for the comments EEK, you have touched on some points (pardon the pun) that are quite familiar - my partners' best arosal comes after an hour long full body massage, followed by full body nibbling ect all leading towards my oral on her coupled with internal finger play about the very areas you describe.

We actually are aware of "the wave" as we call it, she rides for as long as possible then succombs to a blissful orgasim. Sounds like further massage and relaxing may be an answer - we both love the afterglow cuddle time.

Once again, thx for your time.

FB

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Why do men think the clitoris is all there is? Women come equipped with a G-Spot and the fornices so if one area is "too sensitive" - go to another! Also the "too sensitive" is a false signal - the brain, not being used to this level of stimulation, incorrectly classifies additional stimulation as pain. By totally relaxing, breathing deeply and calmly, she can let the feeling roll on through and give the brain time to learn "oh wait! my mistake! Nevermind!" If this sounds exactly like how one learns to orgasm - you're right - it is. No tensing up, no anxiety.

Think of floating on a raft, hot summer day at the beach, riding the swells and just going along.

Please refer to the sticky post entitled The Program and follow it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The same technique is used when becoming multi-orgasmic. Instead of "holding out" just continually let yourself go.

[flyboy]

For clarification EEK, are you suggesting she enjoy the first "O" asap and not wait for the buildup? I'm assumming this wouldn't leave her clitorus quite so sensitive and open to more, or further stimulation? If so, this may achieve our goal of having her become multi-orgasmic.

FYI, we are relatively new lovers to each other, both well experienced. She has indicated that this is the first time in her life that "anyone" has cared about how many times she orgasims. For me it's a no brainer goal, as I find it highly erotic to be able to satisfy and watch my partner attain new heights.

Status quo is boring to both of us and we are enjoying the exploration as new couple to see just how far we're able to grow as lovers.....so far it's "beyond the dream" :-)

Thx,

FF

[Brandye]

Somewhere around here I described, in response to a question, why I prefer love making with women over love making with men. Short answer was men are too hurried to get to the crotch and then too focused on the goal of orgasm. Women enjoy the trip and the orgasm(s) represent a huge bonus.

[Brandye]

Somewhere around here I described, in response to a question, why I prefer love making with women over love making with men. Short answer was men are too hurried to get to the crotch and then too focused on the goal of orgasm. Women enjoy the trip and the orgasm(s) represent a huge bonus.

The clitoris is not a small penis; the penis is an enlarged clitoris. All those nerves compressed into a small make the clitoris much more sensitive than a penis. That is the reson it actually retracts into our bodies as orgasm approaches. To many men then go digging for it.