first time fingerer

[l mayo l]

me and my girlfriend have decided that it is time to further our relationship by masturbating each other and as we both being new to the whole concept i was just wondering if anyone could give me a few tips and tricks. Also could someone tell me if it hurts for the first time just so i know its normal if its starts hurting her not me being a complete noob at fingering


btw she dosnt masturbate and her hymen is still intact if that helps

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

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Hymens come in all shapes, sizes, whole patterns, thicknesses, and varieties. Most partially obstruct the vaginal opening leaving a small opening on one side. It is here between the membrane and the vaginal wall that you should insert a finger. Do not attempt to insert more than one for the time being.

Will it hurt? Maybe yes, maybe no. Much depends upon how this one is constructed and her tolerance for pain. Our resident M.D., Brandye, says that usually a woman will feel a slight twinge of pain the first time or two, yet this is certainly not always the case. The two of you must understand the above.

I recommend devoting half an hour or more making out before ever getting to Foreplay. Have some lubricant handy so you can apply it all along your finger. You want your finger wet and slippery to minimize any possible discomfort.

DO NOT expect that she will achieve an orgasm now or anytime in the future if she has not made the transition to an orgasmic woman. This usually takes place as a result of lots of masturbation and learning what is required in the way of rubbing, massaging, and friction in order to bring her to the brink of an orgasm and beyond. I am curious when you say you masturbate each other. Does she achieve orgasms this way or do you just play around making her feel good but not to the extent of her climaxing?

You cannot make a person climax. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve her/his own by mimicing their method.

The vagina does not have any nerve endings so inserting a finger, toy, penis, will not provide much sensation. What will happen is that she will feel emotionally fulfilled from the sense of fullness she experiences--and in the overall intimacy of the experience. Once you gain entry and she is comfortable with this, try moving your finger in and out or around as you finger her. The vaginal opening on the other hand is rich with sensitive nerve endings!

If you succeed in tearing the hymen, it may bleed. I'd prepare by placing a towel under her bottom.

[awingate]

Oooh, well, thats something I didn't know. l mayo l, I'm glad you asked this. I'm a girl and I always wondered wy i had a little loop/hole next to my coochie hole. I thought I hadn't torn properly my first time and screwed up my crotch... Now I know why its there. It never tore! Thanks Dancingdoc2. Well, now I can look forward toit most likly tearing when I have my baby in december..yay... not..lol.

[weasel]

well the only person who will know what feels good is her so make sure you communicate, this can be awkward at first but it is an important part of sex and foreplay, tips on how to learn what she likes is asking her to rate things you do on a scale of 1-10 1 being wouldn't miss it and 10 is oh dear god don't stop, and you can start this with anything from a kiss to a grope now how to get started fingering, 2 basic things i can tell you, find her clit and g-spot, the g spot is about 2 inches (2nd knuckle) in on her front side (towards the stomach) with the clit minimal pressure, and with the g spot the more pressure the better other than that you will just have to learn from experience

[coveresid]

First time fingering a girl is a pleasant memory for me. Just take it nice and slow and see how she reacts. I remember that I moved my hand over the outside and felt her through her pants. She was up for it and so I slide my hand down her pants and found her panties. Then slide under her panties. It was such a nice time to slide my fingers over her bush. I spent some time on that for awhile. Then she opened her legs and I was able to slide over her labia lips. She was nice and wet by then so I was able to slightly insert a finger. But with her pants on, I wasn't able to insert very far. It was later after doing this time after time that she allowed me to unzip her pants and then I was able to insert my finger further into her. She would move her hips and force my finger in her even further. I also found the scent she left on my fingers very interesting and would sniff them on my way home after we were together. I never did oral on her, but I think this was one thing that got me interested in oral and then trying it eventually.

Dating my future wife, she got into letting me finger her. Again, she liked me to play with her bush and slightly tug on that for awhile. Then when she was nice and wet, I would move my fingers down and they eventually found their way into her. She would let me remove her panties completely and then she liked to have one and sometimes two fingers inserted all the way to my knuckle. I would just follow her lead by either her moans or by her hip movements. I fingered her many times before she ever returned the favor and would handle my cock. She was a little shy about going this far, but found it very exciting and pleasurable to have me fingering her. She could feel me nice and hard when we laid on each other and eventually wanted to feel me with her hand also. She loved to feel how hard I was with her hand through my pants. Which then eventually lead to her going under my pants and actually grabbing hold of it. Once she got used to touching it and handling it, she would like to play with me. Then one night we were standing and kissing and she reached down and unzipped my pants and reached in and grabbed my cock. We continued to kiss and she continued to stroke me. I eventually just had to stop kissing and she kept giving me a hand job and I let her take me all the way. When I started to squirt, she was very surprised since she had never given a hand job to competion. She was surpried, but also found it exciting. We still enjoy using our hands as foreplay after being married over 20 years.

[goof'schik]

Go get a manicure. You want your finger nails trimmed and rounded off. You don't have to get polish just walk in and ask for a manicure.
Listen to her, tell her to talk to you. What feels good and what doesn't. Relax and enjoy.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Please review the sticky post concerning the G-Spot and female ejacultion, I put some specifics in there that you may find helpful.

By all means, please have short and smooth nails and very, very clean hands.

And it is "My girlfriend and I" not 'me and...' You put the other person first so you show that you have manners and are therefore not a lout.