just curious...

[lustforlove]

Ok i just wanted to ask other women this. There are a few times i've had sex and still quite enjoyed it, even though it made me feel more horny. (my boyfriend helped me out after).

I was just wondering, do any of you other girls enjoy sex without having an orgasm? or do you have to orgasm when you've had sex?

i think what i'm basically asking iswhy is it you have sex?

[Brandye]

1. To have children
2. Feels good
3. Pleases someone close to you.

We women need not have an orgasm to enjoy sex. Sometimes it simply feels good to hold him close - and you cannot get much closer than having him inside you. About half of all women do not regularly reach orgasm by penetration and thrusting alone. Other stimulation is required and this needs to be understood and worked out with your partner. These are times when it is done just for the pleasure of serving him. And there are times when you really want it and it darned well better happen.

[dancingdoc2]

lfl, I believe the good doctor wrote a Sticky article on this that appears in the Index. I'm surprised being around here for over a year you didn't check this resource, first.

[Beckeh]

Originally Posted by Brandye

We women need not have an orgasm to enjoy sex.

Personally, it can be pretty damn uncomfortable if I don't.

Don't get me wrong, I'm in it for the intimacy and the fact that the build up is pleasurable, etc, as well... but it just isn't the same if it isn't finished, so to speak.

[lnt1103]

See I'm multiorgasmic so I guess I don't have that problem. But anyway...

I'd say all Brandye's 3, and the reality is, for my BF and me its an expression of our relationship. I know, I know, when we're girls we're coached to think it's bulls*** when a guy tells us he wants to do it to show his love. But when the relationship is deep, it really does show it.

[Beckeh]

Originally Posted by lnt1103

See I'm multiorgasmic so I guess I don't have that problem. But anyway...

I only really have a problem if there's a distraction. Such as living with parents and brother deciding to ask you a stupid question at a very bad time. After that, it's not really happening.

Multis aren't happening yet, but I'm new to this, so there's hope yet.

My boyfriend says the same thing, and I don't think it's bullsh*t from him at all, and have much reason not to.

[lnt1103]

I just meant that when we're small and our parents are desperately trying to convince us to protect our V until our wedding night, we're taught not to believe the guy when he says it. But I know it to be true myself-he's not just claiming it, we both feel it.

[Beckeh]

Originally Posted by lnt1103

I just meant that when we're small and our parents are desperately trying to convince us to protect our V until our wedding night, we're taught not to believe the guy when he says it. But I know it to be true myself-he's not just claiming it, we both feel it.

Yeah I know what you meant, I just agree ^_^ You're taught to believe it and some guys actually do use it as just a line... but then there are some genuine ones, and mine is one of them.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Orgasms and intimacy and it beats playing Parchesi or canasta.

Int - you may think it is love but, nevermind for now. Think about virginity logically however before making your choice.

[lnt1103]

Oh I made my choice long ago with no regrets hun-long before my BF now. The reason it happened back then wasn't because he said it, and my current relationship is much more powerful and mutual than back then was. I know what you're getting at, tho. I've been in 'relationships' like you're trying to tactfully warn me about. In fact, I realize now that back then was one. It's all good. But thanks for the advice.