What can he do to make me orgasm more easily?

[LadyBug02]

Hi everyone. What are some ideas that my guy could use to make me orgasm more easily. Sex is great and all with him because it consists mostly of foreplay but I am having a lot of trouble with achieving orgasm lately. Sometimes I can achieve orgasm easily and sometimes not so easily. What can he and I do when I am in one of those not so easily stages? Also, do those sex enhancing creams really help?

[Ducy]

Okay if you read about the why cant he make me finish thread, then you would know that it is not his job to make you orgasm. Its yours. You make yourself finish, (with your thoughts, focusing on sensation etc) and he simply assissts.

[sera300]

Much agree w/Ducy...only you know what gets you going....have him stimulate other areas, try new ideas which might turn you on, stop worrying about it [makes it near impossible], tell him exactly what you want & when [if he is fun], focus on feeling good, let all other thoughts go...

Any changes in meds? Taking any? New BCP? Look at that too...I know post-op, pain meds made it near impossible for me ...went to Motrin real fast; and I know---I was not supposed to be having sex either.

Creams? Never seemed to have worked to me--tried to see if they did something special. Might as well put a peppermint there! Be certain you have enough lube. If it keeps up and you have decreased libido, look at the relationship, any issues, then seek a doc.

[Brandye]

You ask the wrong question. You should ask yourself what can you do.

Those creams are good for lubricating and nothing else. And often not for that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Foreplay, foreplay, and more foreplay. Please read the sticky Post entitled Body Worship and then DO IT.
BTW it is NOT HIS job to get you to orgasm - it is YOUR job.

[xkatex]

Like stated in all the posts above foreplay is a big key player. I find that if you foreplay to the point where you want to rip his clothes off is great. But dont stop there keepy doing it until you dont think you can handle anymore then being intercourse. Yes it is all up to you to find a place where you feel you can orgasm at. Try new positions that may see awqard. A good one I found out is when you are in the doggy position. Lower your hips close to the ground but not quite touching then put your cheat all the way down. Tell him to position himself so his penis is thrusting downards (he will be pretty much leaning over you). It feels great (in my opinion) and I tend to orgasm easily from just that. Also my boyfriend has complimented how good it feels for him.

Also clitoral stimulation is great. Try the women superior (cowgirl) and grind your clit against him. That works wonders!

Hope I helped