Making love to an obese woman

[Dave57]

I need some information on how to make love to an obese woman. You see I am 6'1" 189lbs and she is 5'8" and 423 lbs. Could anyone give me some pointers on how to makw awsome love to her.Please help

[Brandye]

I have a patient of about that size. Vaginal examination is very difficult and requires the assistance of a nurse. I doubt that vaginal sex will be possible. You may even have difficulty finding her clitoris through the folds of fat.

I do not believe awesome love, your term, can be made to one with so little respect for her own body. Then again, simply showing attraction may sweep her off her feet.

[Thresher_V]

Have her lay back at a an angle, maybe 30 degree incline, that should allow you access. There are "couches", not sure the name offhand, that allow multiple styles of entry. They key would be to have her on her back maybe at the edge of the bed. Trust me, it's possible but might take a little coordination.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Her on her back with her rump right at the edge of the bed would be your best bet as far as positioning goes. Just remember that you will have to stand and I hope you have the inches necessary to caress both her G-Spot and her posterior fornix.

[carbheat]

All. They say not to reply when your angry, but the more I think about this the angierer I get.

I don't have experience with a girl as overweight as the OP's, but:

My wife has been at times over 300 pounds. Additionally, I'm about 100 pounds overweight and wear it all around my belly. Our weight definately has an impact, but we have our sex life is just fine.

I came across a reference to a research study a couple years ago. It looked at obese couples that doctors thought there was no way they could be having sex. They were. Human beings can be quite creative when it comes to sex. :-)

It will probably take extra effort, but I think the OP and his girl can manage.

Originally Posted by Brandye

I do not believe awesome love, your term, can be made to one with so little respect for her own body. Then again, simply showing attraction may sweep her off her feet.

Brandeye, I normally find your posts among the best, but this is what got me going. The first time my wife was taken to a dietician because of her weight was when she was 2 years old. Explain to me how a 2 year old does or does not have respect for her own body?

If anyone else had made the comment, I probably would of ignored it. But coming from a doctor it really pissed me off.

OK, I'm done venting. And I feel better now.... :-)

[Brandye]

Fair enough, carbheat. I have no idea why your wife was obese at age 2. It could have been endocrine or it could have been poor diet but that had little to do with her self-image at 2 yo.

Old-timers here have seen my rants on weight. I am a bit of a health nut and react strongly to those who do not keep their weight within reasonable limits. Insurance companies and the UN demographers have revised their projections because of the obesity issues in Europe. Some have called it a worse health crisis than smoking in the last century.

Most adults, and I assuming that the woman described is such, are aware of the risks of obesity. Anyone who chooses to live with shortened life expectancy, increased morbidity and decreased quality of life for a very controllable condition cannot have respect for themselves or, even, life. The effects become most noticeable at about thirty pounds over the "ideal" weights given on many sites.

When it takes a nurse and me to get a swab into a woman's vagina, it is not likely that man will get his penis in there. The layers of fat keep the entroitus well hidden. I lost a patient last Sunday night. She had a leaking abdomenal aneurysm and I judged that she could not wait for the helicopter. I am convinced we could have saved her if she had weight two-hundred pounds less. In fact, we would likely have not needed to have been operating. I will defend my decision at a Mortality and Morbidity Hearing this week.

I am a bit pleased to have upset you and I am glad that you and your wife have learned to adapt. Enjoy while you can because those hundred excess pounds are taking their toll.

[Thresher_V]

I'm 6'0 355 at the moment and according to every bmi test I've seen, I'm severely obese. I'll post a pic if I need to in order to show that not all people who are classified as obese look the part.

I don't doubt that many people let themselves go way too much, but we shouldn't be overly generalized.

[carbheat]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Fair enough, carbheat. I have no idea why your wife was obese at age 2. It could have been endocrine or it could have been poor diet but that had little to do with her self-image at 2 yo.
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I am a bit pleased to have upset you and I am glad that you and your wife have learned to adapt. Enjoy while you can because those hundred excess pounds are taking their toll.

Thanks for your response Brandye.

My wife and I are under no delusions we can keep our excess weight on. We each have health issues relating to weight, and know that more are on the way. We're working on it. (In fact, we just got back from the gym.) My wife is preparing for gastric bypass surgery. If her surgery is a success, and I can apply the lessons I've learned the past times I've tried to make a change and failed, a year from now we are looking forward to being healthier, having an even better sex life, and hopefully improved fertility.

My point is this. In some cases (such as mine) being overweight is due to not doing what needs to be done. In others it is more complicated. Using my wife as an example, she has been struggling with weight her entire life. Over the years the only thing had a significant impact was Phen-Phen, which was pulled from the market. To imply that it because that an obese person simply doesn't care or won't make the effort isn't true, and when coming from a doctor, not helpful.

I hope your hearing goes well for you.

[Brandye]

Thanks you and it is worth fighting the weight.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I too have had my battles over weight and have even been asked if pregnant when I wasn't. I followed the age old dictum: eat less and do more.

Excess weight and diabetes runs rampant in my family. Having seen the damage caused by that dread disease/condition, I made sure that I would not be its next victum.

Next to sex done my way, the best exercise is - walking. 30 minutes. Twice a day.