first timer in need of help

[Thresher_V]

Who needs a schedule? Set the mood with a great date and a nice quiet place. Setting a schedule just adds pressure.

[KSUgirl09]

I am a virgin also very nervous about my first time. my boyfriend and i are getting very serious. my boyfriend is 23 and is not new to the sex scene. im not even sure how to initiate that im ready. i dont know what to expect. I just know that I love him, and that he loves me and we are ready for this next step. Any advice for me?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Really, it isn't all that big a deal. The reason you think so is fear and the idea that sex requires a 'meaning'. Everything for the first time causes concern. With proper preparation, there is little to be concerned about. People have been doing this from the start many millions of years ago and we all still live.

You probably will not orgasm, not the first time but if he's any good, you will the second time and thereafter.

Guys, the first time move slowly and let her adjust to you and get used to the feeling of having a man inside of her. Lubricate the condom to the maximum and SLOWLY slide in as Doc has said. Pause, then slowly move and acquire a rhythm that suits her. As always when it comes to sex - take your time. Don't worry about orgasm the first time. Rest up and do it again but this second time, you'd better assist her to an orgasm so read around the threads and pay attention to your partner.

Ladies: RELAX and focus on how this guy will please you. Let yourself be pleased. Give yourself permission to enjoy sex. All will be well.

[YippieSkip]

I tried to schedule... didn't really work! It was because we both wanted it to be special and not just heat of the moment. However, that is not what occurred!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Scheduling adds pressure?!?!?

That's what you think! When you have the hubby, the house, the kids, your work, his work, car inspections, get the taxes done, remembering birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, this project deadline here and that one there - HURRAY FOR SCHEDULING!

This is just the average couple. Add in his gf and her bf (and their families) and then you need differential calculus to figure out who is with whom when and where and whose turn is it to fix dinner?

So, Thresher: is Thursday good for you??