The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

[SexKat]

I agree with Filipinocuti. the mind can affect the out come of one or both partners being pleased from sex. the mind has a large affect on the body and how it acts. if your mind keeps saying "I can't" you won't. I have read that it's not that a women can't have an orgasim, but more or less that the right spots are not being stimulated during or before sex.

[afrofaya]

For the guys:
There is never going to be a more satisfying feeling than bringing your lady to that exposive "O". In fact it is an honour. However we need to learn how to do that and that requires time and patience.

I've mental preparation to work. Teach yourself to focus on her needs and don't reach for the finish line until you are sure she's safely beyond gravity.

Don,t just push in and out, reach down with your hand, let your index finger rest (not press) her clit against the top of your dick and let the rest of your fingers support the underside of your dick. The gently rub her clit against your dick.

You will be resting on your knees and the heel of the palm of one hand while your body is twisted a little to the side. You know what? you get an excellent view as well.