What We Know: G-Spot and Ejaculation

[raez]

Thanks good to know, I think thats why I was feeling like it could possibly be pee even though you were saying it wasn't. It seemed like since there was no accompanying orgasm then the mess would have been less likely to actually be of the ejaculation sort. So I think I maybe have experienced it? yay? lol I'd rather have the joy of a g-spot orgasm first though..still haven't quite gotten there. Just am getting the "need to pee" sensation and discomfort, will keep trying to push through it though.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Of the women who find it difficult to orgasm
- what percentage of them is due to social training and to the edicts of their culture/religion?
- and what percentage is due to lack of education?
- and what percentage is due to medical complications?

Orgasms begin in the brain - in her thoughts, convictions, beliefs, attitudes.
So THAT is where the exploration for causes/reasons should begin, between her ears and not between her legs.

Very interesting point. I think it would actually be pretty meaningful to know what those figures might be. Have any statistics been reported ? Rough estimates even?

Even growing up in U.S. society, with non religious parents who were pretty open about sex, my attitude towards sex used to be fairly negative, even when I first started having it. And my sexual "abilities" also seemed non-existent. But as my attitudes have changed, so has my sexual prowess accordingly. I couldn't agree more that, apart from medical complications, it's all in the head. I get frustrated quite often that I haven't experienced what some other women have, but I also know that there isn't anything holding me back really except experience and my own mind, which is more relaxed and open about sex everyday, and it definitely helps and shows. All in time. I try to look at it as "things can only get better from here" and don't mind being patient with it.

[dlb]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

I was referring to myself, of course!

You are not repressed Evil Evil Kitten, at least as far as I can tell.

To the list of reasons that women might have difficulty reaching orgasm add sexual abuse. Of the two partners I have had who did not reach orgasm one has been abused by a step father while barely pubescent and the other had been raped as a teenager.

The first one could orgasm through masturbation, but not with a partner and the second said not even through masturbation had she ever orgasmed. I was only with one a very few times and with the other only once. I like to believe that if circumstances had allowed us to have more sex sessions together that I could have helped them work through it. But, maybe they needed professional therapy to sort it out.
Also they were both from New England----regional culture issues? Probably coincidence.

Sera thanks for the kind words, but for the most part I think I have just had a lot of talented partners rather than being that good myself

Does anyone else think that the various G Spot and female ejaculation threads should be combined to form only one thread? That is if moderators can do that.

[raez]

Wow, so I'm so excited I just had to post the news, and here is the best place for it I guess. So last night I was FINALLY able to orgasm through g-spot stimulation! WOOHOO! And not even just once, but 3 times! it was amazing. Finding my g-spot has never really been the problem, its just always been that stimulation to it has always felt kind of good, but mostly uncomfortable. This time though, nothing but good! I thought I was still a ways off from it happening, so it came as a pleasant surprise. Due credit to my boyfriend for sure, he was absolutely fantastic.
Maybe its silly, but I suddenly feel like I am truly a woman and not just a girl anymore lol

[EvilEvilKitten]

Congrats!!!

Now, for those fornices!!!

You have an anterior fornix - just further back from the G-Spot, and the posterior fornix - down and in the back behind and below the cervix - both of which are best stimulated by your partner using the glans (head) of his penis or a vibrator. You can also ejaculate from fornix stimu;ation btw. Be very careful when stimulating the anterior fornix as that is not where the vagina 'expands' and serious harm can be done if too rough. I know this bcause being too rough in this area landed my in the hospital bleeding out profusely.

[raez]

ouch, sorry to hear that, sounds nasty EEK....so anterior fornix + rough = bad. Righto, will keep that in mind for sure. Though actually I think we may have stimulated it at some point last night when trying a new position. It felt good for a while, but was a different sensation than I had with G-Spot stimulation. It got more and more uncomfortable pretty quick though, so I assume that its the same kind of deal, it may take some getting used to before it becomes pleasurable? Do you know of any particular position that is best for stimulation of the posterior?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Him coming in from behind or the usual except your ankles are around his ears.
You should experiment a bit as men do have a curve to them. He has to loosen-up his lower back to be esp effective as he has to go deep. The posterior fornix being the basement way in the back, she should have had at least one orgasm before you go there.

The anterior fornix must be delicately caressed - a man has to have extreme control, almost GPS, to be able to stimulate without harm. Usually sitting up between your legs works, similar as for G-Spot, best for this. Do NOT go deep when caressing the anterior fornix.

I am not recommending that a man draw rings around his penis "this far for the G-Spot", then "this far for the anterior fornix" etc. - but you get the idea.

Yeah, it was nasty. This is one reason why SKILL is so very important.

[raez]

Awesome, we will definitely be experimenting. Thanks EEK, this is very useful info that I can honestly say I've never come across before. I hope that lots of people look at this thread and read your posts.

[EvilEvilKitten]

So do I, sweety; so do I.

Guys: even when in heat - you have to think about what you're doing.

[MissCaty]

I just finished reading this whole thread, any my question only came up once, and didn't really seem to be answered. I have only had any sexual contact with a partner once (I'm still rather young though) and although it was great, we were both inexperienced, so no luck on any kind of orgasm (though he was delighted to figure out the clit).

My problem is that I ejaculate without an orgasm. I really want to have one, but I find it difficult to continue after ejaculation because it seems to wash away all my natural lubrication. I haven't found my g-spot yet, but my clit is super sensitive so that is usually what I work with. Is this normal to ejaculate before I orgasm? And even with a vibrator, an orgasm always seems out of reach (but I do enjoy trying).

Please help

[SoFreshSoClean]

Great post and Great topic.

I for one am a man who is 1000000000000% turned on by a women who can "Squirt".
And i will stop at nothing to help her reach that point as many times as she can handle.

I have been lucky enough to have 2 women who have been able to fully squirt and i promise you its not piss! and is in fact female ejaculation! odor less, color less but has a sweet taste i assume from the sugar content in the body...

Its the sexiest thing a woman can do.